Good job on losing weight
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You are walking dangerously close to the edge of the mentality behind eating disorders. Your hardest audience is yourself. As long as you remain at a heatlthy weight, as in Google searching your ideal height to weight ratio, or as long as you feel good (no irritability, no dizziness, active, etc) you should be safe. Have someone who is close and trustworthy to work out with you, so you keep a safe balance. I got a haircut that I thought was absolutely hideous, but everyone thought it was the best thing ever, in return so did I after a while. Take in all the compliments and apply it to what you see in the mirror, remaining as positive as possible. Keep up the good work and congrats!
thenantuckettriump wrote:
You are walking dangerously close to the edge of the mentality behind eating disorders. Your hardest audience is yourself. As long as you remain at a heatlthy weight, as in Google searching your ideal height to weight ratio, or as long as you feel good (no irritability, no dizziness, active, etc) you should be safe. Have someone who is close and trustworthy to work out with you, so you keep a safe balance. I got a haircut that I thought was absolutely hideous, but everyone thought it was the best thing ever, in return so did I after a while. Take in all the compliments and apply it to what you see in the mirror, remaining as positive as possible. Keep up the good work and congrats!
I hope you’re wrong.. I mean I eat, a lot now, and I lost the weight in a healthy way… part of my reason I was where I was, is because I never ate enough! In any case, part of me is starting to worry because I feel even if I do lose more weight and get to where I need to be I may not ever be satisfied… like where will it end? I guess that’s a long time coming and maybe I shouldn’t be so worried now about the what-ifs. Trust me, I’m ways away from being stick thing or an unhealthy skinny weight. I guess I just never thought I was huge to begin with and every time I get that reaction I think to myself “geesh, was I THAT BIG!?!?”
P.S. thanks for lookin out for me though… because I’ve seriously just thought about not eating at all sometimes..
Like I said, you are your worst critic. And honestly, I don’t think you ever will be 100% happy, I don’t think any woman came claim that about her body. Keep healthy and get to a weight where you can be…content :).
P.S. It’s what we’re all here for, and I’ve been there too.
It may be that those people who comment were aware that you wanted to lose weight, that it was a goal of yours. So then they’d just be sort of cheerleading you on whatever bit of progress you seemed to be making towards the goals you thought might make you happy.
Michael Leibman wrote:
It may be that those people who comment were aware that you wanted to lose weight, that it was a goal of yours. So then they’d just be sort of cheerleading you on whatever bit of progress you seemed to be making towards the goals you thought might make you happy.
No… I don’t think so.. one example that happened today.. someone who I’ve only met a couple months ago and saw her maybe at the most 3 times before I started losing weight and haven’t seen her since commented on my weightloss today. She had the most shocked look on her face when she saw me… she said “WOW! YOU LOOK SMALLER!! Have you been dieting!?!?” Sort of threw me off guard because I barely knew the woman.. and I’m telling you I get this all the time now..
Well then it must be that you lost so much weight that it makes a dramatic impact on people… but you could never see it that way unless you took before and after pictures months apart because you’re always you, in your body, gradually growing and changing. (I think the first thing I said was the only actual relevant thought I had — though wrong –so I’ll move along.
no… it’s fine.. thanks for your thoughts hehe… it was a great attempt at trying to figure out my situation.. much appreciated! :) I just hope I’m not going crazy… like was I this huge balloon before and didn’t know it?? I was never happy before, but still I never thought I was that big… it just makes me feel weird when they say it..
I worked with a guy who was rather large and was always hinting about how he’d rather not be so rather large…. and I could actually tell when his life was really overwhelming and stressful because he’d end up just looking chubbier. Maybe it was an illusion of some sort but it was also plainly visible. Maybe you’re happier so people think you’re skinnier because that’s an aspect of your overall happiness-thing. I’m getting really hypothetical here.
hahaha! wow… that’s a HUGE maybe… but funny you bring that up because I have been a lot happier lately….. :) You may just be right… interesting… I have to think about that one..
People also will overreact a little. Saying “You’ve lost weight” is a compliment for most people. So if a person were to give a compliment, saying “Oh look, you look like you’ve lost a bit of weight” is a lot less complimentish than “OH my ****** geeee! Look at you all lost weight and WOW!”
So, what I’m trying to say is that people will deliberately overreact to try and give a reaction they feel others want. They want you to feel complimented so they will act like a weight loss is larger than it actually is - not because it SHOULD be larger, but simply because that is how they perceive you to be happy.
And congrats on the weight loss :) Maybe you should set yourself a reasonable weight loss goal, and when you get there, maintain that weight for three or four weeks. Look in the mirror often and compliment yourself for parts of your body that you like, rather than the parts you dislike.
If you lose and maintain weight, you will end up with a much healthier body image than if you just continously lose, and so will end up looking much healthier in the end.
Remember, part of looking good is having self confidence. A healthy mind = a healthy body!
stop fussing about what other people said and be happy about your own accomplishment… it must be very hard… i know…
it happened to me too, even when my weight was exactly the same and i was like “you want me to bring scales to prove my point or something?!?!”
it is understandable, and i’m sure they meant nothing wrong by it.
just be happy, you deserved it, and keep up the good work.
sorry if it seems like I was fussing.. I am just worried that I won’t ever be happy with myself, even if I reach my so-called goal. That was my main concern… but yes I am happy with where I am at, and will continue doing what I’m doing. It just bugs me when they say it and I don’t see it…
um… no, you did not exactly seems to be fussing… just the way of how i perceive things, because that is what i would be doing…
and that’s just exactly the point, i don’t really think you will ever seen any compliment (sometimes, in other regard even) as it is… just like what cookies and cream (nice name, isn’t it?) said
zoo_baw wrote:
just like what cookies and cream (nice name, isn’t it?) said
Thank you for my name compliments!
I didn’t particularly think that you were fussing either, I actually think it’s good that you are noticing this now. Some people don’t get worried that they will never be happy with themselves, they just see that they’re not happy and do something to stop that… of course, they never are happy.
When you get to your goal, I think you should still stop, even if only for a while.
It worked for me, I’m not sure if it would just be for me or for others, but I think you should keep looking in a mirror at yourself. Compliment yourself on the things that are good. And if you maintain a weight, while telling yourself you will NEVER be lower than that weight, then after a while, you will come round to liking that weight (if you’re not initially happy with it).
Your mind starts to resign itself to the fact that you won’t get lower, and then after a while it starts to say “Hey! This is actually good!” and then you will find you don’t actually want to lose any more weight.
When you have doubts like you are now, it shows you just need to slow down and take a step back. Like you are now :D I think you are amaaaazing :D
cookies and cream wrote:
zoo_baw wrote:
just like what cookies and cream (nice name, isn’t it?) said
Thank you for my name compliments!
I didn’t particularly think that you were fussing either, I actually think it’s good that you are noticing this now. Some people don’t get worried that they will never be happy with themselves, they just see that they’re not happy and do something to stop that… of course, they never are happy.
When you get to your goal, I think you should still stop, even if only for a while.
It worked for me, I’m not sure if it would just be for me or for others, but I think you should keep looking in a mirror at yourself. Compliment yourself on the things that are good. And if you maintain a weight, while telling yourself you will NEVER be lower than that weight, then after a while, you will come round to liking that weight (if you’re not initially happy with it).
Your mind starts to resign itself to the fact that you won’t get lower, and then after a while it starts to say “Hey! This is actually good!” and then you will find you don’t actually want to lose any more weight.
When you have doubts like you are now, it shows you just need to slow down and take a step back. Like you are now :D I think you are amaaaazing :D
WOW! umm Thanks! I think the big compliment on the end there threw me off a bit hehe… Great advice by the way. I think I will take it to heart… there are still some things I need to work on. Once those have improved I HOPE I will be happy hehe.. I actually like my body now, but I’m not fully happy with what I’ve changed so far, just yet… and I’m a perfectionist! so yeah… I mean I don’t want to be a size 0, that would just be weird for my my body type. I just don’t like being sooo soo flabby hehe…in certain parts at least. But you’re right, I should compliment myself more.
Thanks again! :)
PLleeeeeasure is all mine!
haha are you hitting on me? lmao!
bearing in mind we are both females of the species, and i am NOT of that orientation (!) then it is safe to say that you are safe to say that you are safe to declarrrre that you are not being hit upon.
:P
haha… ok just checking! not that it mattered, but I secretly wished you said I could say that it was safe to to declare that I was being “hit upon” by you! oh well maybe next time. :)
P.S. I am not of that orientation either, but we all need to get hit on sometimes, no matter by who.. hehe
You’re hot zoo_baw!
haha see? I bet he feels better now! :)
not really, my room’s quite cool, thank you very much
hahaha, kidding…
i bet you’re super hot too
as a person who was anorexic as a teen, i have to say in my very own opinion, it doesnt matter how much weight you lose, i dont think you will ever see what others see. and its not just how you see yourself.. its how most people see themselves. i think we all have a complex thing with what we look like and never really see what we truly look like..
as for losing the weight.. a big congrats to you.. take in those compliments and enjoy them… no matter how they come out of people’s mouths…
hoping when you eventually reach your goal weight, you will finally see something…
many hugs and dont forget to share your secrets… lol..
haha… awwwwwww! Thanks babe!
Believe me, I share my secrets on help all the time whenever people ask about certain body issues, losing weight, how to eat, toning up, etc… I was lucky enough to get this whole kit for weight loss and it taught me so much about my body and what I put into it, as well as different exercise tips and techniques. So if you or anyone you know needs help, feel free to ask me :)
hehehehe…. ~yells~ TELL ME, I NEED HELP… lol.. i would love to know… the only issue that i have though is… is it strenuous? due to my back i have a hard time exercising.. as well as walking…
hmmm…. well the plan I was put on, supposedly 75% of the weight is lost through change in diet, the rest is through the exercise. The exercises they suggested were with an exercise band and were supposed to be done for 18 mins a day, twice a week. I always did more reps though so it took me longer, and I also did walking. Since you can’t move too much the change in diet would probably be the best for you.
Basically I ate more food! haha… Yes, sounds weird, but I actually have a hard time eating during the day because I don’t feel like or dont have time to cook, and I don’t eat fast food really… my normal day would be skipping breakfast, and eating a late lunch and then dinner… so my metabolism was as slow as molasses… which in turn left me with extra baggage hehe.. So i increased my food intake to 5-6 small meals a day. THEN, I changed the way I ate… for breakfast and mid-morning snack I had protein with fruit (no carbs!), then for lunch and mid-afternoon snack I had protein, veggies, and carbs (rice, potatoes, and pasta are ok, NO FRUIT), then for dinner I had the same as for lunch, but a different meal… then an optional dessert/6th meal was fruit. The key here was low-fat, and everytime I eat carbs, I have to eat protein, preferably in the same quantities. The protein helps to slow down the carbs from breaking down so fast. hehe… it all sounds complicated, but nothing else ever worked for me, and this did…
more food??????? oh boy…. lol..
as for me… you sound just like me.. i do not eat breakfast and i eat lunch about 3pm, and then dinner at 11pm…
however, my days are backwards… i dont get up until about 10 or 11am and dont go to bed much before 4am due to rogers work schedule..
i do eat once a day… sometimes twice depending on how hungry i am when roger eats his lunch..
so, if you eat.. your metabolism needs to be fed?? small meals.. see, that is the thing.. roger says that i eat like a mouse… i hate food… when i was a size 3, 112 lbs, i could eat anything… after my kids… all i have to do is look at something and gain ten lbs… lol..
im going to have to try this… im going to write down your information on how to do it and see if it works for me..
now.. what i need information on is this…
hehehehehe… what are carb foods and what are the protein.. i am a very very picky eater… . i know that you have stuff listed above.. but can you make a listing of what different foods and all foods that you know of… for me.. so that i can just copy it.. hehehehehhe…
sorry to be a pain… but this sounds like if it can work.. its definitely something that i want to try..
so when you eat any thing to do with carbs, you have to chase it with something to do with protein as well… hhhmmmm…
The list may be weird, but bear with me, just pick out the stuff you’d eat…
“Carbs” that were on the YES list: Jicama,Parsnips/Turnips, Potatoes, Rutabagas, Squash, Yam/Sweet Potato, Millet, Oatmeal, Rice, Rice noodles. Pasta isn’t on the list, but I ate it anyway as long as I had protein… I probably could have lost more weight if I stuck with EVERYTHING they said, but I couldn’t haha! I had to freakin eat what I had in my house..
“Proteins” on the YES list: Egg Whites (sometimes i’d cheat and eat a yoke with a few whites, but you can buy them in the box), Fish (Cod, flounder, haddock, orange roughy, red snapper, halibut, mahi mahi, ahi tuna, shark, canned albacore tuna), chicken breast, crab, lobster, scallops, shrimp, turkey breast. (Salmon and other chicken pieces weren’t on the list, but I ate them anyway! lol)
thank you…. im going to try it and let ya know how it goes for me… as for the list of items… heheheheh.. yeah, the chicken, turkey sounds good… uummm eggs are ok… and rice are yummy… some of the stuff i have no idea what it is.. lmfao..
but thank you… seriously…
Just ignore them, do what YOU think is best for you.
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