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Alright looking for some help here…

My group of friends is very complex, there’s four of us each with a completely different personality. We have laid back rules among us, but there are a few that we maintain to keep a healthy friendship. A big one is not pursuing a female that another friend is attracted to if they call her off-limits. Off limits is reserved for mainly those we really deeply care for and usually ex’s. I have had a girl on my off limits list for the past four years. We talk once in a while but lately things have gotten pretty heated, a relationship could be in the future. However, since this intensity has begun a certain friend has not followed rules and has attempted to persuade this female to hang out with him repeatedly and talks to her very often. I have been quite calm about it until today, its time a make a choice. A. Beat the **** out of him (which I could) B. I know his ex that would do anything to get back at him…even me. C. Continue my ignorance, not let it bother me, for he is no where near my league. And heck, if she picks him, (which I firmly believe she wont) then its seriously her loss because hes retarded (he couldn’t tell me the capital of the United states). All the other friends in the group give me approval to fix the situation however I see fit. Unfortunately he will most likely use choices A. and B. to make me look like the bad guy in front of her. Please give me a solution.

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zeebot offline Verified User (3 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (8 minutes after post)

um talk to him? ask him to back off. if he doesnt. beat his ****

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2 months, 4 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

I have already asked him to back off twice. Pulverizing him sounds like a great idea, however, if he uses it against me I have no other resorts, I cant **** him up twice, thats just over doing it.

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chev.jame offline Verified User (7 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 33 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (10 hours, 44 minutes after post)

You can make up such “rules” for a group, but you cannot enforce them. You don’t really have a relationship with this girl that you want to put “off limits,” and you simply think there is a possibility of a relationship in the future. If you “pulverize” the guy, you’ll come off as a violent jerk and end up spending some time in the hoosegow after your arrest . . . and all for the “possibility” that you MIGHT get together with this girl in the future. The “rules” of your group are trumped by another set of rules that have existed much longer: “All’s fair in love and war.”

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