Love help: Would it make me weird if… - Help.com

Well, if you really don’t want someone that doesn’t make you weird. But I think the case really is that you don’t think you’ll ever get someone or you don’t think you are worth having someone. That’s a different matter. But seriously? what age group you in? 14-19 20-25 26-30 31+ tell me your real age if you want

dude!!

you need some major love in your life…

Well, I have to say, you haven’t given yourself a chance to get out there to find anyone either.
That age group is one where there isn’t usually love or anything that end up serious, don’t get me wrong, it does happen, just not that often.
You don’t need one right now, I get that, I’m like that too. But don’t give up yet either, later on you might decide otherwise, mostly when you find the right person.
Give it time. That’s all it takes

i want to be your friend.

:)

nothing really will matter even if you have a family or not.
as long you are happy it’s all good.

I always felt like you, through most of high school. Then one summer I went and lived with my cousin… At first I thought his friends just didn’t like me (because I thought nobody liked me)… Then one day my cousin came up to me and said hey dude, my friends are wondering why you never talk too them. I sat there for a second and realized oh my god… I really never tried too get too know any of them, I just made the assumption that they wouldn’t like me so I didn’t bother. By not bothering too talk too them I made myself not only look like a jerk who thought he was too good, but I made myself look like a looser.

Shortly after that I started chatting with his friends, and got too know them. I had the best summer of my life. And I learned an important lesson. Nobody is just going too come up too you at random and ask too be your friend. So make an effort too make friends even if it seems hard it may be worth it.

oh what happened?

your a winner to me

:)

Why don’t you try apologizing too them? Or have you.. Maybe I dunno what the story is …

That’s cool… OK well can you try rehearsing the apology in the mirror? That may help you, then when you are saying it too them you wont feel so awkward. Or there is other things you could do to calm your nerves before you talk too them.

Maybe join a study group, that way you can both study, and sorta meet other people who might need your expertise =) Which will eventually lead to asking questions unrelated to schoolwork (because really, large groups of people can’t study for long periods of time, fact) which will lead to socialising, then ta-da!

Guys don’t require you to “gush” when you apologize. Try to make amends. And be confident! Don’t think there’s anything wrong with you. You need to ditch feelings of low self-esteem. Talk to people. Try to be a friend. Try to be the very best at something! Don’t feel pressure to make friends . . . just let it happen. Don’t worry about girlfriends. About 99.99 percent of high school “romances” fizzle out. If a girl finds you interesting, fine. If not, fine. The girls your age, for the most part, have little idea about what to look for in a guy. Anyway, talk to your “buds” or “former buds” and say you’re sorry for whatever went sour before, and tell them you’d like to be their friend again. And keep up your self-confidence! P.S. It helps to have some goals on the horizon, like college or vocational school, and some plans for what you want to do later on. Do that, and you’ll be ahead of 95 percent of your classmates!

i think u r suffering from the same problem that im suffering from in some other country & different circumstances

Heh… I know exactly what you’re feeling like. Actually try to talk to people, get to know them. Take interest in other people. If you automatically assume other people hate you, they will. It’s a self-fulfilling prophecy. Don’t just assume other people will talk to you - only extroverts will, and even they are usually interested mostly in people who are interested in them.

And no, it would not make you weird. You only start being weird when you don’t talk to someone. The apprehension just builds up and eventually people hate you for making them feel strange around you. Unfortunately, I only realized this in my later years… I hope this came to you earlier than it did to me.

Try practising having a conversation with strangers. It will seem weird at first, but it will get much more natural as you go along. Make it a rule to talk to 5 people you don’t know every day. This also increases your chances of getting to know someone.

ill be your friend

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Jinx wrote:
Well, I have to say, you haven’t given yourself a chance to get out there to find anyone either.That age group is one where there isn’t usually love or anything that end up serious, don’t get me wrong, it does happen, just not that often.You don’t need one right now, I get that, I’m like that too. But don’t give up yet either, later on you might decide otherwise, mostly when you find the right person.Give it time. That’s all it takes

I thank you aswell for the response. But I feel lonely sometimes, not only a girl I am aiming for but is friends too. I’ve never had a good buddy in school for a lon…you know what, I really don’t think I’m helping myself talking about how much of a loner I am. But thanks anyway.

Well, I can’t say I’ve had real friends throughout my whole school years (I already graduated high school in 07) in fact, I don’t remember anyone in my early school years, only once i hit high school did I find friends that actually hung out with me outside of school, but now that we’re outside of school, it’s pretty much over.
Just think of it this way, you aren’t the only one out there that thinks they are a loner, so how alone can you really be?