Love help: How would you handle this?

Lucerne

How would you handle this?

I’m inlove with this guy but things are getting confusing for both of us. We’ve been together for 10 months now. At first we’re doing really well. We’re both very much in love. I know we still love each other up to this point. But lately things are getting more complicated. We argue a lot these days. It seems that we can’t compromise on even the smallest things; and that our personalities don’t complement each other. We’ve been hurting each other emotionally with harsh words and frustrations over the relationship.

I already want to end the relationship with him just to rebuild myself. Cause I’ve been hurting a lot with what’s happening with us. And with those harsh words he’s been throwing at me, at some point my self esteem has lowered. I just don’t know if it’s the right decision to make. But I still love him.

So … Would you rather stay in the relationship? Or leave and save the friendship (if there’s anything more to be saved) and your ego?

This open post was written 2 months, 4 weeks ago | V/U/S: 123, 9, 7 | Edit Post | Leave a reply | Report Post

Reciprocity (0)

Since writing this post Lucerne may have helped people, but has not within the last 4 days. Lucerne is a verified member, has been around for 5 months and has 9 posts and 14 replies to their name.

Post Tags (11)

Pain and nociception, Love, Emotion, friendship, Self-esteem, Day, complicated, Happening, word, Mental confusion, pain (How Tags Affect Reciprocity)

Replies (9)

Where were you?

Click and drag to move the map around. FAQ: How we place people on this map »
You can also watch events on Help.com as they happen

Mouse over the map for 2 seconds to see an expanded, interactive view

This reply has been removed.

Demented 84 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Communication is always key to any relationship. Talk to your mate on what is going on an try to work things out. Tell him how you feel towards him, then tell him that you are being hurt emotionally.

Help me with: Here is our story.

seas light 193 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

Love shouldn’t hurt. Get out and cut your losses. Your both too new in the relationship to be slinging cruel insensitive words at one another. True compatability is key to a lasting. Everything is always good in the beginning.As time goes on (as your finding out)you see there true colors. Ask yourself if you like what you see? If not, get out! Your in love with what you thought he was in the beginning. Remember… We teach one another how to treat us. Staying in the relationship may only prove to him that your willing to put up with his behavior. Don’t be hard up. If he was a nice guy, He’d never of hurt you in the first place. Never settle for disrespect.Love yourself more…. Good luck!!!

Help me with: Let’s wish Miss enigma a Happy Birthday!

Hybrid Theory 44 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (25 minutes after post)

get out now, try to salvage what you can. everything else as been said.

Help me with: UPDATE: The weekend went absolutely amazing.

anna515 4 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

i would say take a break for a little while..then if you guys get back together and the situation is still complicated..then end it…because sometimes people just need to be away from each other for a while to get themselves together and then reconnect

Help me with: does anyone know what in the world this song is called?

F.anjel 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 hours, 38 minutes after post)

Talk, maybe have a third person mediator too. Admit faults, be honest, and don’t be quick to put blame on anyone. If he’s still odd, get out.

chev.jame 33 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (8 hours, 27 minutes after post)

Possibly you both lack effective coping mechanisms for dealing with unmet needs and frustration. Just how DO you communicate unmet needs and frustrations to each other?

samoastev 12 #
Arlington Heights, IL, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (13 hours, 48 minutes after post)

If your married to this person try and work it out.If its a living arrangement than get some space and regroup.They say if your in a barn long enough you don’t realise the smell of it anymore and only once you’ve gotten out in the fresh air and cleaned your lungs out and go back in do you really recognise how bad the odor really was…get some fresh air…regroup…pray!

Help me with: I have a request : Since coming to help.com around a week ago Im impressed with the depth by which many kind

Lucerne 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 3 weeks ago (3 days, 5 hours after post)

It’s really hard for me to stay away from him cause we’re both in the same organization. We’ve been seeing each other in the office. We had our big fight a few days ago, days after that we were like civil to each other until today. No more sweet nothings unlike before even when we’re having fights and arguments. He said we’re going to talk in a couple of days from now when he’s back from an out of town work. I know things are different now. I can feel the difference. I was expecting a breakup this time around. I do not know if its the best thing to do. But I know it’s going to hurt me big time! Although I know that it’s better that way than to save the relationship but still I’m half hearted about it. What should I do?

Invite Others to Help

A logged in and verified Help.com member has the ability to setup a Friends List and invite others to help with posts.

Love help: How would you handle this? - Help.com

How would you handle this?

Reciprocity (0)

Post Tags (11)

Replies (9)

Invite Others to Help

Help.com Homepage