Feel help: Well, my dad is a complete *** hole and I have some of his traits. - Help.com

i have a lot of my dad’s traits too.

it all depends on how you use them
for good, not abuse…
you have to develop all the boundaries and rules your dad didn’t.

Your genes are NOT your destiny. But you are wise to realize that BEHAVIORS of a parent can greatly influence you . . . sociologists say that our behaviors impact our descendants about 250 years down the pike. That’s a l-o-n-g time! Do this: emulate those behaviors in your father that are good, and reject those behaviors that are bad!

You got only 50% of your dad’s genes. You got the other 50% from your mom. So celebrate and start using your mom’s traits instead. Those dad trait’s of yours will only be 25% on your kids so keep on rejoicing.

Remember that you are never your father’s (nor anyone’s) second chance at life. Live your own life…not treading on your father’s footsteps but making your own footprints.

Whatever traits you have now, from anyone, will never determine how you will lead your life. So don’t worry. If you got your Dad’s bad traits then improve them. You can always change who you are and add more positive traits to your system. It’s not easy though. It’s a life time endeavor but at least you’re getting there. You are the captain of your soul. Don’t let traits dictate who you are. You are after all, an unfinished picture…always changing for the better.

Never compare yourself to your father nor to anyone. Don’t even feel obliged to live up to everyone’s expectations. It’s your life. You’re in-charge.

your dad is always there for you
he’s open minded
hes carign
he allows his kids to make mistakes
he sets a good example

these are the traits in my dad im always afraid that hell walk away but he never does and i hope it stays that way