Love help: I have a situation, whereby I really don’t want a long-distance relationship, yet find myself being inexorably pulled into it anyway. - Help.com



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I have a situation, whereby I really don’t want a long-distance relationship, yet find myself being inexorably pulled into it anyway.

I know what it means if I do this, but also if I give it up, and both ways are gonna make me hurt ANYWAY. Should I delay it for later, over a longer period of time, by going ahead with it, or should I make it short and sharp by giving it up now?

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macky19 offline Verified User (2 months, 4 weeks) Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 minute after post)

give it up

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Anonymous #
2 months, 4 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

No hope, yeah? Unless he moves or I move, and either way I don’t see that happening, at least not for QUITE awhile…

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macky19 offline Verified User (2 months, 4 weeks) Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (7 minutes after post)

exactly

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Anonymous #
2 months, 4 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

That’s so depressing =(

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Communation offline Verified User (5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Anonymous wrote:
That’s so depressing =(

welcome to the real world

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macky19 offline Verified User (2 months, 4 weeks) Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

life is depressing

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Anonymous #
2 months, 4 weeks ago (14 minutes after post)

Life isn’t -meant- to be depressing! I really really hope not, cause it’d suck a LOT if it was!

Blindly optimistic it isn’t =(

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generation66 offline Verified User (2 months, 4 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

sometimes it is better to have a long distance relationship sometimes its not. the best way to decide is whether you trust this person or not and if they are really good for you then go for it. sometimes its worth the risk. dont wait till later cause they may have found some one else by then

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Namaste` offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 9 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

Whats the long distance relation ship, explain

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Anonymous #
2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 27 minutes after post)

Are your initials JKW?

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RichardBrimston offline Verified User (2 months, 4 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 36 minutes after post)

Hello Anonymous,

Give it up. I had a long distance relationship before with an ex of mine. We had 2 years short distance then 6 years long distance for a total of 8 years. After a while you stop knowing the other person, because people change. You are left with a figment of your imagination. Besides, it really sucks when after all you did your ex leaves you for someone else, someone who is near.

Learn from my mistake, give it up. Enjoy your life with someone near instead. Much more enjoyable, especially if you don’t have a guilty feeling that someone is waiting cause you told them so.

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*lilies offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 454 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (2 hours after post)

Well, depends. If the other person is willing to meet you and you feel the same way for them, then why are you going to give up?

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (4 hours, 7 minutes after post)

If it was love you wouldn’t be asking this question.

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Anonymous #
2 months, 4 weeks ago (19 hours, 27 minutes after post)

Love only comes with the time an experience together, though. Lacking that, I find it too hard to call “love”, merely a “crush” or “affection”

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cheerybus offline Verified User (2 months, 3 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 2 weeks ago (1 week, 3 days after post)

i agreed with RichardBristom. U have long distance friendship not relationship. No worth it to looking for a gay from overseas that u cannot see every day.

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