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The Awakening

A time comes in your life when you finally get it…when, in the midst of all your fears and insanity, you stop dead in your tracks and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out…ENOUGH! Enough fighting and crying and blaming and struggling to hold on.
Then, like a child quieting down after a tantrum, you blink back your tears and begin to look at the world through new yes.
This is your awakening.
You realize it’s time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change, or for happiness, safety and security to magically appear over the next horizon.
You realize that in the real world there aren’t always fairy tale endings, and that any guarantee of “happily ever after” must begin with you… and in the process a sense of serenity is born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are… and that’s OK. They are entitled to their own views and opinions.
You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself… and in the process a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you - or didn’t do for you - and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected.
You learn that people don’t always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that everything isn’t always about you.
So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself… and in the process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties… and in the process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You learn to open up to new worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining who you are and what you really stand for.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard the doctrines and values you’ve outgrown, or should never have bought into to begin with.
You learn that there is power and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through life merely as a “consumer” looking for your next fix.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation upon which you must build a life.
You learn that you don’t know everything, it’s not your job to save the world and that you can’t teach a pig to sing. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry and that martyrs get burned at the stake.Then you learn about love. You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would have them be. You learn that alone does not mean lonely.
You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning to say NO.
You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing things over and ignoring your needs.
You learn that your body really is your temple. You begin to care for it and treat it with respect. You begin to eat a balanced diet, drink more water, and take more time to exercise.
You learn that being tired fuels doubt, fear, and uncertainty and so you take more time to rest. And, just as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul. So you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that, for the most part, you get in life what you believe you deserve, and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that wishing for something to happen is different than working toward making it happen.
More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do it all alone, and that it’s OK to risk asking for help.

You learn the only thing you must truly fear is fear itself. You learn to step right into and through your fears because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to fear is to give away the right to live life on your own terms.
You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a cloud of impending doom.
You learn that life isn’t always fair, you don’t always get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to unsuspecting, good people… and you learn not to always take it personally.
You learn that nobody’s punishing you and everything isn’t always somebody’s fault. It’s just life happening. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things we take for granted, things that millions of people upon the earth can only dream about: a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long hot shower.
Then, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever settle for less than your heart’s desire.
You make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open to every wonderful possibility.
You hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.
Finally, with courage in your heart, you take a stand, you take a deep breath, and you begin to design the life you want to live as best you can.

~Author Unknown~

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rememberpoe offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

Very nice.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

very interesting, i dont think ive quite got there yet though ;)

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Miss Emotional online Verified User (3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

Been there
I think
I think it came when i saw my life before my eyes and realized either i grabbed it now or id loose it…opened it all to me i know that

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Marylou offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 47 minutes after post)

Yeah! :) But you don’t happen to know who the author is… I was wishing it was you!

Will you be my friend, Miss Enigma? :)

The only thing I seem to still have trouble understanding is this one part: “You can’t teach a pig to sing.” Because as the eternal optimist that I am, I can’t help myself. I just keep trying! I’ll invite a few friends because this is just too true and beautiful!

Thank you for posting it.

Marylou

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miss_enigma offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 247 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 35 minutes after post)

Can’t take credit dear Marylou! Thanks though you are a sweetheart. :)

Sure I’ll be your friend, would be honored. I’m an eternal optimist too and will never change. Who says pigs can’t sing?!

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 40 minutes after post)

thanks for the invite Marylou, I need this :D enigma, this couldn’t come at a better time :D Thank you. i know what your talking about but I hadn’t yet applied it in the area i’m recently dealing with. now maybe I can get through this with victory and end the life long struggling. Although I’ve always used what I have to the fullest extent, and then some.lol,I was looking for a ‘money’ miracle to happen and now I know , finally it is just not going to happen. I’m going to take more action and responsibility in this area and see what comes of it. Whoever wrote this is one very wise person, I agree with it all and try to express the same and live by it too but i haven’t yet mastered putting it into one post.lol. Wonderful read, Kudos to you for caring, sharing, etc..I’m sure it will help many others too :D

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Marylou offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 41 minutes after post)

That’s what I’m thinking. Maybe they can! LOL :) Thanks for adding me.

Have a great day, sweetie!

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Marylou offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 43 minutes after post)

OOps! That last reply was meant for Miss Enigma…
Hello MamaBear. Hope you are doing just fine today. Thinking of you. :)

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babacup offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 hours, 7 minutes after post)

I loved it, thanks for posting it. And thank you Marylou for the invite.

It made me feel good about myself and where I am in my awakening.

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Marylou offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 hours, 32 minutes after post)

I love to see my friends smiling.
So glad you are feel this good, Babacup. :) :)

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{Felicity} offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 125 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 hours, 51 minutes after post)

Marylou wrote:
OOps! That last reply was meant for Miss Enigma…Hello MamaBear. Hope you are doing just fine today. Thinking of you. :)

Im a little better thanks, on new meds so if I seem crazy or not myself, you know why and have been warned.lol (cuz it might take a while for them to work)

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 hours, 51 minutes after post)

Marylou wrote:
I love to see my friends smiling. So glad you are feel this good, Babacup. :) :)

Me too :D

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babacup offline Verified User (10 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 hours, 54 minutes after post)

MamaBear {Felicity} wrote:

Marylou wrote:
I love to see my friends smiling. So glad you are feel this good, Babacup. :) :)

Me too :D

Thanks.

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miss_enigma offline Verified User (2 years) Long Term User Shouts: 247 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 hours, 59 minutes after post)

I’m glad you all could see the truth and beauty in this. Mama Bear, with hope all things are possible…I hope your troubles cease and you get the answer you are looking for.

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GB | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (6 hours, 58 minutes after post)

that awakening, LOL, its a hard long road to it but once you get to the destination you realise its not the end, its only the beginning, but i wouldn’t have it any other way, thanks for sharing it and here’s to everyone getting their awakening sometime soon!

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (7 hours, 42 minutes after post)

Oh so true. Thanks for posting this. ;)

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (8 hours, 48 minutes after post)

thank you so much for posting this. i think im almost there. throughout a lot of it i was going “wow that sounds like me” i know im not there yet but im pretty close. its beautiful and gives me hope that things will work out in the end. thanks again!!!

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (9 hours, 9 minutes after post)

You’re welcome, glad to :) I have lots of inspirational messages that I have picked up or had given to me along my journey and would be happy to share more.

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Marylou offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

Oh yes, Miss Enigma. I would be very interested in reading more of those. Maybe your next should be a little shorter though. I get the feeling some of the people I’ve invited here got discouraged and didn’t get to the end of this one.

When you do post another, make sure to invite me to it. Thanks. :) :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 6 hours after post)

Will do Marylou, I do apologize for the length but it is just so good that I had to post it!

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Marylou offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 6 hours after post)

Oh please, don’t apologize. It was one of the best I have read in a while! It was well worth it. I was just saying that unfortunately, a lot of people, don’t take the time to stop and read when posts are this long.

I’m looking forward to the next one! :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 6 hours after post)

I understand, no worries :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 6 hours after post)

Your vision will become clear only when you look into your heart… Who looks outside, dreams. Who looks inside, awakens.

~ Carl Jung

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Marylou offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 7 hours after post)

Nice… Nice and short! I can actually memorize this and repeat it to myself… you know, like a mantra.

It’s not that I don’t already know this. But sometimes, we sort of forget.
:) :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 7 hours after post)

Not good with reading long posts myself. My eyes just traveled fast and let my mind do its job. :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 7 hours after post)

A lifetime may not be long enough to attune ourselves fully to the harmony of the universe. But just to become aware that we can resonate with it — that alone can be like waking up from a dream.

~David Steindl-Rast

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Marylou offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 35 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 8 hours after post)

:) :)
A friend from this website, has suggested we try something a while ago. And that is to repeat “I am here” to ourselve over and over again. It may sound sort of rdiculous… that is, until you try it.

What it did to me is make me even more conscious that I am actually here, alive and breathing, a ball of energy! And being that more concious of it, it just made me feel like I had such power and that it was only up to me to decide what I would do with it. Maybe it doesn’t do that to everyone. I don’t know. But I thought it was pretty amazing what three little words can do to you. So now, whenever I feel stuck and don’t know how to go about it, I repeat these words to myself and it just makes me realize all the life energy that is in me and that I am indeed, free to use it which ever way I choose.

Here’s the link to that post in case you might be interested in reading it. http://help.com/post/161038-im-going-…

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (1 day, 8 hours after post)

Thanks, I like that! :)

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