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Hey guys, I rencently started college and theres this girl I really like.

During the first week she was sending me obvious signals that she was into me. We have gone out for lunch together and had long talks. We both really like each other but theres only one problem. We are in EVERY SINGLE class together. I have heard that girls need their space, but does anyone have any suggestions on how I can approach this relationship?

Any help would be greatly appreciated.

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Malori In Love ♥ offline Verified User (4 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 116 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

ask her out on a date.

she will know that you like her for sure(if you haven’t told her already, which you should)

and then ask about the space thing…

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Cecilia offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 30 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

I would ignore the space thing for the moment. With relationships, in my opinion it’s better to stop worrying about ‘do they need space, don’t they, am I coming on too strong, etc etc’. She obviously is really enjoying spending time with you, and if you try to give her space in anticipation of her needing it, she might think something is up and may think you have gone off her, or that something is wrong.
When she does need space, she will make it clear and then spend less time with her, but make sure to be there when she needs and wants you. And I would definitely say ask her out on a date. Wait until you feel you are good friends, though it sounds like you already are, and then ask her out. She’s bound to say yes! And the worst case scenario is that she says no and you remain as very good friends. But from what you say, that definitely won’t happen!

Good luck!!

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eric_lora offline Verified User (2 months, 4 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

Thanks for the comments guys. Its not that I’m anticipating that she needs space, but its a little obvious, you can’t be together all day everyday allday for five days a week. Not to mention she has friends too, and so do I; people that we want to stay connected with. Like for example, in class she usually has at least one friend. So the ‘’choice of seating arrangements gets kind of awkward. I dont really want to ruin her and her friends ‘’girl talk’’so..I’m sort of stumped. I also noticed that when I’m alone with her(out of class)things go so much smoother. We get a chance to talk to each other one on one without the distraction of her/my friends. I guess what I’m trying to ask is should I ALWAYS sit next to her in class? It can be a bit of a sticky situation when you have every class together though…

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eric_lora offline Verified User (2 months, 4 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (22 minutes after post)

BTW please exuse some of the typos.

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

LMAO excuse*****

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Malori In Love ♥ offline Verified User (4 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 116 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

but not all of them??

lol jk!

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eric_lora offline Verified User (2 months, 4 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (24 minutes after post)

AHAHAH indeed…

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mar98 offline Verified User (8 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dracut, MA, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 hours, 11 minutes after post)

Maybe you should keep things on the down low for a while and wait until the semester nears an end. Or maybe switch out of some of those classes. lol

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eric_lora offline Verified User (2 months, 4 weeks) Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (14 hours, 38 minutes after post)

Yeah, the only probem with that would be that we might lose interst in each other.

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mar98 offline Verified User (8 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dracut, MA, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (14 hours, 52 minutes after post)

hmm that’s true, but not always.. and if it does you can regain it back most likely.
Idk what to tell you except to stay away from her in class. You don’t need to sit with her all the time. Talk/do stuff outside of class.

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