Love help: i had a good friend and now we barely talk.

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i had a good friend and now we barely talk.

we’re roommates and we’re not talking. all summer she hung out with her friends from high school and never called me. we haven’t had a good conversation in a long time. we used to talk about everything and now we talk about nothing. she found out that her boyfriend has cheated on her and i’ve told her that i’m there for her, but i’ve also given her her space to deal with it. she seems fine when we’re out with our friends, but at home she’s sad and depressed and she seems to want to talk to everyone else about her problems but me. she seems to want to avoid me. i don’t know what i did and i’m too afraid to ask her why she’s upset with me. i’m afraid that i’m losing my friend. why do i always lose my friends when all i do is love them? do i not talk enough? maybe i haven’t talked to her about it enough but i don’t want to suffocate her and make her resent me. maybe it’s my problem. what can i do? GOD! maybe she’s not the friend i thought she was. how could i be so fooled?

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the.sophenator 2 #
Sydney, 02, AU | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

So do you have any idea what might have caused this.
It sounds more than just a normal friendship fallout.
Do you still talk at all?

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Kima 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

It’s not about YOU. It is about her… don’t force yourself on her. If she wants to talk to you, then she will talk to you.

Stop making it about you.. maybe that is why she won’t open up to you.

Hating your life seems a bit dramatic.. maybe instead, you can rephrase your statement… “I hate this situation”.

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Cell 116 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (5 minutes after post)

Just a thought and please don’t be offended but maybe she feels you are trying to be too close to her and so she’s backing off because she’s uncomfortable with the situation.

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Josh G 0 #
An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

We all fall in situations like that at one time or another just do not let it get to you. I know it is easier said than done but you can do it.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (10 minutes after post)

You can try to talk to her again, but do it in a special circumstance like when you two are alone at your place or some other time when you two are together and don’t have anything to do. If she dosen’t want to talk then it may be time to move on. There can only be so much you can do and you can’t force her to listen to reason if she dosen’t want to. If you try to find more friends, try to learn from your past mistakes and that will help you develop into a better friend, not that there is anything wrong with you, but just learn from your past negativity, including all that has happened to you.

Anonymous edited this post 2 months, 4 weeks ago. Read the previous text »

i hate my life. things can never be right. i had a good friend and now we barely talk. we’re roommates and we’re not talking. all summer she hung out with her friends from high school and never called me. we haven’t had a good conversation in a long time. we used to talk about everything and now we talk about nothing. she found out that her boyfriend has cheated on her and i’ve told her that i’m there for her. she seems fine when we’re out with our friends, but at home she’s sad and depressed and she seems to want to talk to everyone else about her problems but me. she seems to want to avoid me. i don’t know what i did and i’m too afraid to ask her why she’s upset with me. i’m afraid that i’m losing my friend. why do i always lose my friends when all i do is love them? do i not talk enough? am i not there? maybe it’s my problem. what can i do? GOD! maybe she’s not the friend i thought she was. how could i be so fooled?

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (5 hours, 18 minutes after post)

That sounds very familiar. Once or twice in a lifetime, we experience the same thing.I don’t know your friend and don’t know the story, but i hope you find the chance to talk to them.

However, i find it awkward not to know what could be the reason of her not talking to you since you and she were very good friends moments back. I am sure you have thought of the possible reasons but would like to confirm if they are the ones you are assuming or it could be something else.

Try talking to them.

If they insist of not talking, leave them alone.

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