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Well, I was officially stood up tonight.

And I gotta be honest, it doesnt feel that great :(

Ok, we all went out to the movies tonight, for my birthday ( which is tomorrow) and just to hang out, because we’ve all been busy with college starting up again. So, I’ve had this friend, Jake, for a long time, we have a lot of history together. Well, the other day, we finally kissed…and it was definitely mutual. So, of course I invited him to come with us tonight. Well, I told him to meet us at 7:00, and when 8:30 came around, with no phone call, text, or anything..I got a little worried ( how stupid…I know!) So I called. All I got was voicemail,over and over. At 10:30 I got a txt, saying “sorry..been sick all day” and that was it. Oh by the way, I talked to him all day today, and he was NOT sick. So, at this point, I’m kind of wondering why this happened, and what I should do about it. I thought the feeling was mutual, but judging by tonight, I guess I was wrong. Am I expecting too much at this point?

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Kanabi offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

he probably didnt want to hurt your feelings…maybe he had other plans

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1 year, 2 months ago (5 minutes after post)

I totally don’t want to sound mean, but maybe he’s not that into you… Think about it.. the kiss may have been mutual, but maybe he has mixed feeling about kissing you.. like regretting messing with your friendship

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1 year, 2 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Typical guy can’t just tell you how he feels, has to avoid it and make you do all the work driving yourself crazy to figure it out! I’m sorry, I hope you still had a good time….but anyway try not to worry about it so much. If I were you I wouldn’t call him, and just wait to hear from him. Then you should be able to judge how he feels about you a little easier…because at this point i think it’s too early to tell!

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*Kayla* offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

ok, but we talk all day, everyday. So its not like we just kissed and left it like that. And I’ve known him since 4th grade, I just didnt think he was that way :/ I dont know, maybe I did expect too much, but its not like I asked to move in, or get serious, thats not how I am. idk

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (11 minutes after post)

Maybe he wasn’t ready for that kiss. You need to find a way to talk, and tell him that it was okay and you understood he is not ready. If that’s not the case maybe you should talk to a person who is a friend to him.

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kemmy offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (10 hours, 24 minutes after post)

Ive been stood up before.. it really does suck!
I think this “Jake” sounds like a typical player. The kiss might have been mutual, but maybe he just wanted a kiss and not a relationship. I agree with TJ though, he did stand everyone up. I wouldnt jump to asking him to do anything again though. You deserve someone much more considerate than him.

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