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I’m feeling lonely, sad, empty, useless and…
I don’t know. I have nowhere I belong, I live in a foreign country, I have no one I can talk to and no home I could go back to, even if I had the means.
I need to feel that I matter for someone… the presence of someone I love and that cares about me, a hug and comfort… I’m not talking about a boyfriend, just a friend, or a sibling or mother or father, someone to tell me that everything is gonna be alright. I can’t stand being so alone.
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well I’m sorry to hear your struggling… and I guess you matter to me then… so I guess I’m here for you … my best help is try to meet some people in the local shops…. keepers and customers and try to make friends..I’m really sorry..
Thank you for your kindness… it’s not a bad advice, not a bad advice at all, just that meeting people, getting to know them, building friendship, all this takes time. I don’t think you can get anything without giving something in exchange, and right now I have nothing to give, I’m empty, I can only take…
But well, hopefully with time…
yea… dude don’t waste a life… if you do people will lose a friend, a brother or sister, a mom or dad, or you could end up saving someone elses life so they don’t make the same mistake…. please don’t do it… try to make a difference in the world. IT MAY SEEM HARD AT FIRST BUT JUST HANG IN THERE AND MAKE THE DIFFERENE… really try to voulenteer somewhere where it will effect others and they will thank you for it…
I could relate to how you feel clementine. I’m living in a foriegn country right now, and I have no idea where i belong now…. but that’s not the point.
The poing isy: yeah, it takes time to make new friends, but you can do it.
You’ve done it before in the country you lived in, so I’m sure you will be able to do it again.
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I could relate to how you feel clementine. I’m living in a foreign country right now, and I have no idea where i belong now…. but that’s not the point.
The point is: yeah, it takes time to make new friends, but you can do it.
You’ve done it before in the country you lived in, so I’m sure you will be able to do it again.
I lived in a foreign country too btw….and I don’t really consider one place my home…
But well, maybe you can meet new ppl at work, school, or whatever you’re doing right now, maybe try to go to a club, or a bar, and try to meet new ppl!
where do you live that you have no1?did you move? sometime not knowing people rite away is better. it may not seem like it at the moment but its true. you can talk to so many people who is concerned about that dont even no you.
I’m from france (explains the mistakes), from september till february I lived in Northern Ireland, made really good friends there (and a boyfriend), close ones and incredibly fast, we just… connected! In february I moved to Spain (students exchange program), it was really hard to leave them, it depressed me and I had a hard time making new friends, my mind wasn’t in Spain, it was with them. I kind of managed more or less. But in June everyone, the people I knew in northern ireland, the ones I knew in spain, they all went back to their respective country…
I moved again, to the other side of spain, for an internship. Here in theory I wasn’t supposed to start alone, my 6 months boyfriend lives here, but it didn’t work out… since I’ve been living in his city he has basicaly been ignoring me. So I’ve had quite a hard time about that too… I think I could say that lately I havn’t been the funniest person to be around…
But for more than a year I’ve just kept on meeting great people and losing them right after, and I’m tired of it. Here it’s also temporary, I would have to make friends I know I’m gonna lose by december… I don’t have the energy. And in france, where I’ll be going in january to finish my degree, I don’t have anyone anymore, the people I knew all moved to different cities for their studies…
So that’s the situation, I am pretty lucky to travel like that, I love travelling, but the result now is that I feel deperate.
ok, I’ll have to stop self-pitying myself and do someting, I’m looking for a job just now, see with potencial co-workers, and when when I’ll have some money coming in so that I can eat something else than rice (yeah… money issues as well), find an activity a club or something where I can meet more people and have some fun!
This is my motivation right now, I think talking here and in other posts to other people has helped me… I’m not saying it’s changed my life, but I’m feeling better right now and I’ve been feeling bad for quite some time, so it’s a good improvement.
Thank you everyone for your replies.
people you talk to on here you can stay in touch with. movin isnt all bad you can still keep in touch with people. its hard but with a job n you getting money you can visit old friends. take there numbers if you got a cell phone give them your number. its not the best solution but its a start
Go back to your native country and meet people in social circles, clubs, hobbys etc. In some places people don´t make friends with foreigners.
im feh gans…….love you my dear mwah_r_loan
I lived in a foreign country for a few months and can relate to your situation very closely.
I found that the very best thing to do was to treat it as a completely clean slate.
By that I mean that nobody knows you, so they can’t possibly judge you, and that means you can go after the things that are truly interesting to you. If you do that, of course, you are going to meet people who are interested in the same things you are, and that’s a much better basis for a friendship than just hanging out at the bar. Bars are okay but you never know who you’re going to get… that’s part of their appeal but it’s also the down side. If you’re interested in art, don’t waste your time in a bar, go to a gallery. If you like airplanes, don’t waste your time in a bar, go to an airport. If you like sailing, same thing… See what I mean? Don’t fall into the same rut that you would if you were back home.
Now is your chance to do things you’ve always wanted to, in an environment where everyone realizes they can’t judge you as they would their own because you aren’t from there. You’ll get a lot of mileage from nice people who will make allowances for you. In return, always be on the lookout for a way to make someone’s life better in even the slightest ways. You’d be amazed how far a smile can take somebody’s mood.
Finally, don’t be afraid. Open the paper, look at the news… everybody around you is afraid because they’re being told that the world is ending and we’re all going to die. In the midst of all this, be a leader. Be fearless, be fabulous, be yourself, and you will emerge ahead. You will attract exactly the kinds of people your soul truly wants to be with. You will not fall for the same lines everybody else believes without question, and you will meet other souls who have left lives of quiet desperation behind and got on with the business of being the ones who are truly running the world.
Sounds pretty lofty, but you wouldn’t believe how fast and how easy it can be. Good luck.
ps Don’t forget to do something nice for yourself every day, whether a spiritual treat like helping someone out, or springing for a bistro cocktail now and then instead of just heading straight home.
… im sad, found this page when i wrote im sad and empty, in the google search..
i realy dont know what for in writing this, i guess there is still a hope inside, very, inside. i see the anwers u got, and im not sure if they got it right.
anyway, if u like we may be friend or at lat give it a try ^^ haha.
im not regular, and i lost my best friend and feeel my life is… circles in the dark.
i’m sorry that you feel so alone….but there are so many of us like you out there…are you an american living in a foreign country???
Hey clementine !!
Hope everythings fine with u now :)
Am feeling so alone and sad don,t know what to do? Lost the Love of my life and miss him so much.
i am a 23 year opld man and i am feeling too lonely.i want love a pure soule mate.but still i am lonely.can any one suggest me that answers
There are no good ways to do this. I have been in other countries for long times and always felt so alone. Unable to talk to someone. Not able to understand what is going on. Feeling so stupid because I don’t even know how to read a simple sign or ask for help. How you can feel so empty because there is nothing you know around. Sometimes the only one thing you can do is to fight it. You have to reach out over and over again. And just maybe you can find that one person and friend. And if you can’t find the person so quickly, you can at least find yourself.
can any one help me? i amj so lonely
I don’t live in a foreign country but I feel like i don’t belong anywhere. You know, there are things that some people aren’t cut out for, for example there are some who aren’t cut out for sports and others who aren’t cut out for art or music… I feel like I am not cut out for this world at all… for life in general…
I m Deep..
Is der any one who want to be my friend.
everthing gonna be alright….
hey i’m not happy. my best friend just stop to talk with me. i’m feel i’m too much alone in this city. all time i’m thinking about him. i do not mack any mistake so why he don’t talk to me? plz give me answer what i do?
Overcome. improvise, and adapt. But never give up!
I came from India to US after my marriage . Luckily I got good husband . But on the other side I’m lonely , no friends , not great in laws . Don’t know what to do . If I get some good friends in my life , I can be happy . Friends are very important in my life .
i have girl frend really i love her and very importent to my life but she is verappy wth her best frend more than me.she let me alone and go with her frend all day im just alone at my m i feel lonely and i cant go with my frends bz i really need she is beside me.
many ti i have discussw with her this matter but she always cant understand my feelings she say she wana have freedom andwanna enjoy same as b4.it meaans b4 i meet her she always go with herbut im really sad and alone.
Its hard to begin a new life in a foreign country !!!
i have no g.f and no job tilll today , i feell very bad and alone,bu i try to keep smile
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it has pasd a long time 4 to 5 years she left me but still i love her alot .i know she will never understand my feeling but i will never forget her and i will remember her in every second of my life.thr is no any one to talk with me and i m feeling so lonely now i just need a friend not a girlfriend who can understand my feelings thank u guys who read my speech….love zoya
Its amazing how so many ppl in the world can feel lonely.. Life is so important just imagine if you dont have a tomo, what would you do? Make a list of all the things that you ever wanted to do.And do it. If u dont have friends, join a class ur interested in and make some. Money issues? Work harder believe that you will land up in a good job be sincere and humble. Love issues? Cmon 2 years later you’ll realise that gal/guy who ditched or behaved badly wasnt worth it and you made a right choice to stand upto your individuality.
You know something? Im jobless at the moment even though i have a good qualification. My grandma has cancer and she has a major operation tomo and i was so close to her. I cant be with her then coz i have an interview and i cant miss it coz of money issues. And then there’s the guy i literally fot my way with everybody around me to be with him and now he’s dating somebody behind my back.
Trust me it cant get lonelier. But i hope i believe things l be allright. Its v imp to hope. Its the only way to be sane.
Are I still in northern ireland I live there ???
I need help because one day i come home and my boyfriend was gong and he has not call me at all and all i did is work for us to have a roof over are heads and buy food for all us to do and he did not work stay home dad so know iam sad and all i do is cry iam lost with out him can u help me plz
i’m not alone. but i’m afraid to alone
im so sorry to hear this. one thing is important to understand. that is, you have a goal to achieve in your life. i guess that is why you are abroad. you should work for that and dont always think that you are alone.it makes you depressed more. try to do more reading. better if you do engage in aesthetic things such as singign dancing or whatever it is. join with a dancing class. play a guitar or piano. if you dont know try to learn it. do not listen to sad emotional songs. triple gem bless you. :)
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