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I have recently gained a lot of weight.

I was never super skinny, but when I met my boyfriend, I was a lot slimmer. As a result, I have been feeling really bad about myself lately, and frequently find myself in the center of a pity-party. In addition, this is causing a rift in my relationship with my boyfriend. I have noticed myself acting clingy. When he wants to go elsewhere, instead of home with me I feel crushed and certain that he doesn’t love me. And there are times when I start imagining him cheating on me with a particular girl he seems to have a lot in common with. I often find myself wondering why he is with me, since we don’t have a whole lot in common and I don’t seem like his type. For example, he likes large breasted women and mine are certainly not large. I wonder if he’s using me for money and a ride (he has no car and only recently got a job). All these thoughts and feelings only make me push him away, and we end up fighting a lot. Sometimes I want to break up with him, but I know it’s only to test his love for me. Please help me. I don’t know how to save my relationship and my sanity!

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rememberpoe offline Verified User (2 years, 11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Well, the weight issue is something you will get control of, it is no secret… just about eating the right foods and being active, even if it is only a little ( happens to everyone hun so don’t worry about it). As far as the boyfriend is there anything he does that makes you think he may be cheating? or is this just a fear that has stemmed from just overall feeling bad about your self image?

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1 year, 2 months ago (10 minutes after post)

it’s funny how most women, including me, feel this way. It’s only normal for us to hate everything about our body if we ever seem to let a pound or two slip by. What we really need to realize that your guy is attracted to you and how you look and if he wasnt then what is he still doing with you. Realize that your attitude towards yourself is the only thing that may be pushing him away. We dont always, everyday have to be completely comfortable with our self and our bodies, but the day isnt as bad when we realize that that’s what we got and that maybe some where, some other woman would kill for our body.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

“As far as the boyfriend is there anything he does that makes you think he may be cheating? or is this just a fear that has stemmed from just overall feeling bad about your self image?”

He has recently been hanging out with this girl I was talking about. I know that nothing has happend b/w them… but the possibility of it is what bothers me. She was a mutual friend that we knew through work, but we stopped seeing her when we both left the job. She recently got in contact with us and has been hanging out with my boyfriend and his brothers. She confessed to me a long time ago that she liked my boyfriend. That coupled with the fact that I see things in her that I am lacking in has been really bothering me. She has a nice body, but she also has things in common with my boyfriend that I don’t. They like to party, and I’m much more of a home body; He’s a metal drummer and I don’t really like the music, but she does. I have expressed to him that it bothers me that they hang out, but he still does it and says that I’m welcome to come too. I’m just usually so tired after work, or something comes up that I can’t make it. So in regards to your question, I think I see signs, but then I blow them off as signs of my insecurities. Then again, maybe I AM misinterpretting these things because of my jealousy. So you see my dilemma…

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Greenock, V4, GB | 1 year, 2 months ago (18 hours, 35 minutes after post)

Hey I have lost 2 stone over the last 3 months , have you got it now I want it back ?

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