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Well do you smoke? No… I mean tobacco.
If you smoke then go get a hookah and have people over for a smoke.
I find hookah smoking to be a very social and relaxing thing.
But not just a smoke, put on some music and maybe play some board games
or cards. Create a unique weekly social event that people will want to
come to. There are enough parties at colleges, create an environment that’s
for chillin… *Just an idea*

what do u like to do? what is your hobby?
usually, people get to know each other through same interest and hobbies.
be yourself and enjoy doing things you like to do and find someone doing something that has same interest in you. You might develop some neat conversation through it.
i think, clubs aren’t any way to make a friend. usually classmates or neighbors.
it is true that making friend in college is quite hard, becuz you don really get to meet people often, classes are usually only twice a week.
also, i guess when you try to get too much attention, you might annoy or scare people. so take things step by step.
i hope u don’t judge people. talk to some foreign students, they might be having similar problems.

p.s. smoking is bad~ (actually my two other best friends met by asking cigarettes from each other, though i am not encouraging you to do the same)

Yo clubs are a great way to meet people. I mean activity’s. Join a club or at least go to a meeting. The best thing to do at the beginning of the year is meet people and if you meet fifteen people in that club but you decide not to join you still know 15 people. The other thing is when ever there is a weekend even like a bbq GO. This is where i met a lot of people. The most important part is you have to be upfront. Say high to someone in you class and tell them you’re name because probably they want someone that they know in the class but it sucks for them cause they don’t.

hey if your 25 you can Make some great freshmen and sophmorre friends if you know what i mean. I would hang with people you feel comfortable around.

in my opinion, 2edeene and anon are making excuse and blaming everything on age. like “that part is working against me now along with my age!!”
you know, some people say young at heart. maybe you guys are declining some childish stuff the freshmen and sophomore are offering. don’t think you are old or anything, just go with the flow. have some drinks, beer or something.
visiting to a new friends house or apt Or have them visit your place is always good way to have a long friendship.
i have one question, is there any other student who are around 25 besides you? if there is meet them, if not, observe them a little. how they are coping with their campus life.
as i said before (well for me), friends usually come from a class. take their number and call them and ask for homework (even if u know it). and have some small chit-chat. your presence will affect that other student and you guys might start talk a little more and become good friends.

oh, sorry. i didn’t meant you should act fake to win others’ attention or care. that is sad way to live, i know.
what i meant was that when someone try to get close to you in some way, you might decline because you think that is too childish or not something to do at (around 25 yr-old thing). im just saying if you know you going to enjoy it, go with them. from those people you might find someone who can be your friend.
and i am not doubting you r good looking 2edeeze, but the anon needs a friend not a love relationship. and for me, friendship doesn’t need any judgements, but similarity in interests and hobbies or political view or whatever.

Hey to all who replied..first…thanks for the input!

Well just to follow up:

I don’t mind doing hookah or something like that and have gone to a hookah bar, but the problem is finding friends to come over and do it. The same goes for board games and stuff like that.

I’m a pretty easy going person and never really had trouble making friends. I don’t judge people and don’t get offended easily myself. I just kinda go with the flow. I’ve been in this school for a year now and not much has changed except a few casual friends here and there. So at this point, I’m just kinda wondering what else to do.

I’ve tried taking numbers n stuff in class (for hw qs and study groups) but it never really sticks. People jus kinda do their own thing when the semester is over.

Also, the people that are my age have old (not in age but ppl they have known for a long time) friends and stick to themselves. They don’t really try to make new friends or try to blend in.

I don’t really mention my age unless asked so I’m not trying to use that against me, but I’ve been told I look my age so I’m sure ppl can tell im older.

Also, where i live are families so I don’t have any neighbors to make friends with. I thought about living in a dorm for a semester (great way to meet new ppl) but I have pets and thas not allowed!

Also, I’m not def not the type of person to jus walk up to someone and start up a convo. I need a reason (like if we are sitting next to each other in class). So when I’m in the student union or something, i wont go up to strangers. other than that, im very talkative (and not desperate to meet ppl so i dont come off as overbearing, i jus kinda chill out). but like i said before, after the semester ends, no one really keeps in touch. this school is a commuter school (which i found out) so i think thas a big reason.

any other ideas?

thanks again for the help guys…what a great response! appreciate it =)