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I’ve received a birthday card at the end of the day yesterday.

I found it in my equipment bag and it was from my dad and his girlfriend.When my mom asked me who the card was from I had no choice but to tell her, I cannot lie. My mom wants me to not have that card now, and she told me that it hurts her for me to have that. Now I’m a little angry at my mom for putting more pressure on me, why can’t I have a little gift from my dad’s girlfriend. Its almost the only gift I have since I’m a pathetic loser with no friends. I’ve seen her alot when I have visitation days, I’ve even met her son. It shouldn’t freakinging mean I’m drifting away from my mom. She told me “Ohh! so shes your step mom now?” What the hell. Thanks for ruining my night mom.

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I’ve received a birthday card at the end of the day yesterday. I found it in my equipment bag and it was from my dad and his girlfriend. My mom wants me to not have that card, and she told me that it hurts her for me to have that. Now I’m a little angry at my mom for putting more pressure on me, why can’t I have a little gift from my dad’s girlfriend. Its almost the only gift I have since I’m a pathetic loser with no friends. I’ve seen her alot when I have visitation days. It shouldn’t ****ing mean I’m drifting away from my mom. She told me “Ohh! so shes your step mom now?” What the hell. Thanks for ruining my night mom.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Your mom is putting you in the middle of something that is her problem, and not yours. That’s not right. Tell her that you don’t appreciate being put in the middle and you have the right to like your dad’s gf based on who she is and it has nothing to do with your mom or the fact that she still has issues regarding not being with your dad anymore.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (39 minutes after post)

Nyx (ninja) wrote:
Your mom is putting you in the middle of something that is her problem, and not yours. That’s not right. Tell her that you don’t appreciate being put in the middle and you have the right to like your dad’s gf based on who she is and it has nothing to do with your mom or the fact that she still has issues regarding not being with your dad anymore.

Alrighty, thanks so much for the reply. I sent you a friend Invite. If your interested…

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 8 minutes after post)

Yes, your mother is hurt. It’s just too bad that she saw it. Just tell her that your dad put it in your equipment bag. What she wants to hear is that no one will replace her as your mother. And you’re not a pathetic loser with no friends! In the future, just try to keep things like that card away from your mother. This won’t be a big deal when you’re on your own. No, you shouldn’t be in the middle, but don’t pour any salt into her wounds. Yes, she is very much hurt by not being with your dad. Those wounds can take a long time to heal.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 46 minutes after post)

Parents have their own issues and your mom is in pain thinking that your dad has parted from her and now you might be the next one to be taken away.

She felt rejected and now she is struggling to listen to an assurance from your part that even though you got something from your dad’s gf, she remains to be your mother and no one can take her place ever.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (2 hours, 46 minutes after post)

Please see my new post, thanks for replys

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