Love help: I have just recently gotten divorce and I have been through two - Help.com

Do you have a friend or relative who can keep you and the dog while you look for pet-friendly quarters?

Do you KNOW that no landlord will let you keep your dog, or are you just assuming that?

I admire you for not being willing to give up your dog. Hang in there. Something will turn up.

I am 40 I really have no help from relatives. He is a Saint and although everybody loves him they think he is a pain. We were married 23 years. I have two children. 18 and 21

I am sorry to hear of your troubles and your divorce. Well, it’s time to call in the “markers” on friends and family, and tell them you need someone to take in “Saint” until you can find an apartment or house that accepts pets. Now, what is it with the job situations?

I have worked in factories for most my life. I know that there is a better side. I don’t know exactly what it is but I am just not happy with “punching a timeclock” especially 3rd shift. I started school for Massage Therapy. I couldn’t afford the extra expenses to continue. They say where there is a will there is a way. BUT….

Could some family member give you a loan and make an “investment” in your massage therapy school?

I have a “paycheck to paycheck” family. I guess I just want to break the cycle. These things didn’t just happen overnight and there is a very long story behind how I got to where I am now. I just want out of the rut that I have been in for years, and most people I know don’t mind living how they live, but they really are in no position to help me. Credit is shot to hell so even though that would be a solution I would consider, it is not an option.

What about your kids? Do they live with you still or they are independent? Can they help you out with the dog like dog-sitters until you find a place of your own again? What about living with one or the other if they are independent? Wow lady, divorcing after 23 years! I can just imagine your pain!

My daughter is 21 and goes to school for nursing. She has cancer(Ewing Sarcoma). I don’t like to trouble her with my problems which seem so petty compared to what she has to deal with. She has a very small place and she has a dog. My son currently lives with me and plans to move back in with his father. Trust me, it is more like relief than pain getting a divorce from that man.

Believe it or not, you CAN get out of that rut. It will take planning, it will take a lot of drive on your part, and it will take networking. You know, you very well might be able to start working at a massage clinic as an “apprentice” and then get whatever professional certifications you might need later. I will also tell you that you don’t need a college education to make a lot of money. You might make one heck of a real estate saleswoman or car saleswoman–ever think of that? Sit down and write down some things you’d like to try. I wish you the very best. I’m sorry that you went through a divorce, but also happy that a source of great pain and frustration has been removed from your life!

P.S. The fact that you have daughter in nursing school shows that you did a GREAT job as a mother!

I have some good news, finally. I am starting a new job on Friday. Better suited to me. I am going to be a home safety inspector. That does not solve the “Where am I going to live with my dog problem” but sometimes a glimmer of hope carries you through until the next day. This is a great site and I need to learn to use it better so that I mght be able to help someone out of a dilemma. Sometimes all it takes is for someone to listen and not judge. Looking around my problems seem minor. Thank You, it is nice to know that people do still care.

Congratulations! That’s really great news! You’re on your way, kid!

I’m very happy for you–that’s a great start.

Congratulations! Home inspection? You might find a person in a home who wouldn’t mind to rent his/her part of the house…you never know.

You know I never thought of that. That would be a good way of searching for a place to live. I guess they should change the saying to 1000 heads are better than 1:)