It doesn’t sound completely ridiculous for you to feel lonely at all. It sounds very normal considering the situation you are in. Have you made many friends since you have moved to Germany?
Well, a few, but they were all also au pairs and have all since gone back to their respective countries.
German for me is a hard language (I came to Germany knowing zero German) and it can be difficult to make friends with people who don’t understand what you are saying.
The strange thing is, up until just know, I haven’t really felt lonely at all. I think it might just have built up over the past two months. There has been alot of stress.
BTW, thank you for replying!
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I am more then happy to reply. I definitely know what it is like to feel lonely and just want someone to talk to.
So, did you move to Germany for your job?
I visited a couple of countries where I barely knew the language. It was very difficult even though I was only in each place two weeks. I can’t imagine what it would be like to live somewhere and not know the language.
My mom was in the hospital a lot, and she sometimes thought it would upset me to talk to her or to visit her while she was sick, but it was important to me and I called her and visited her anyway. You might want to think about whether it is more upsetting for you to not be talking to her. If that is the case, let her know.
There are plenty of people out there willing to listen. see someone you think looks interesting and introduce yourself. make a friend. call your family or ask your boss if you can just take a little time off to make a suprise visit to your family. and about your mother, youo are a grown woman tell her that you miss her and you really need to see her. let her know that her being the hospital is not going to stop you from seeing her. ( sorry about the caps.
Ayeesha - au pairs are a cross between a nanny, a babysitter and a big sister.
JoJo - words cannot express how much your post means to me. Thank you for understanding. Yes, I moved to Germany for a year for the experience and the work. And I do enjoy it here. It’s just a bit difficult at the moment.
mariaairhea - you seem to be misunderstanding me. I am in GERMANY and my family are in AUSTRALIA. That is over twenty hours travelling, three flights and about two and half thousand dollars. I can’t just pop over for the weekend. I am a very friendly person and in Australia, the UK or America I have no problem making friends. But here, I speak very little German (which, I don’t care what other people say, IS a difficult language) and they speak very little English. It’s difficult to make a conversation if the two parties don’t understand each other. And, furthermore, my mother REFUSES to speak to me. I’ve left messages on her phone, and I have asked the other members of my family to ask her to give me a call. I can’t force her to pick up the bloody phone.
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Generally, no, if you are an au pair, the pay is not good. But you also receive some things that are far more important. When people do it, they do it for the experience. If you are a ‘real’ au pair, then it is a tough job, but you get alot in return. It’s a great learning experience.
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HANG IN THERE! people are out there! there’s lyk 9bn ppl! we r all here for u!
Awww xanime4evax, thank you!
It’s annoying as hell isn’t it, when your family try to keep something from you, even though they are protecting you. I found out from my dad about my mum….my parents have been divorced for twelve years and hate each other passionately and they never talk. The fact he knew before me speaks volumes.
But anyway…
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u no wot u were saying about small things makin u upset…well on ma 10th birthday, ma mum didn’t get me a cake…i woz crushed! I’m scared 2 tell ma dad my opinions on some things…and ma parents go on holiday without me for 2 weeks every year! these things make me sad…but then i just smile and say…’well, what can u do?’ at least u r lucky enuf 2 hav the internet and evri english speaking person on the planet able 2 tlk 2 u!
Actually, since last year, my dad and I rarely talk. He only told me so I could talk my brother into going back to school. Since then I haven’t heard from him. He still hasn’t emailed me back.
What a pair we make!
Lol, xanime4evax, so true. Thank god for help.com
Hi sweetiejay almost bought acres in Fern tree Gully long long time ago.Today could
not afford it.I used to go trout fishing there and loved the place.But time went on from Melbourne to Sydney to the Gold coast and that almost taken lifetime.Ironically when i came to Australia from Germany i couldn’t speak a word of English.Had no one to talk to ,all i had was a Television and a Dictionary in my Room,i learned from that.On your Days of go to museums things what interest you ,you will make Friends.While in Rome …that is an old saying .My Niece is at this Moment near Newcastle on a Horse Farm as Au Pair.She loves it so much she stayed on another Year .Ironic isn’t .she has one more Year at Uni in germany and we insist she has to finnish.Dont be sad this is a great learning lesson for you take care ….
Thank you. Thank you very much slimline2, thats exactly what I needed to hear.
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I can’t imagine being so far from my family, and your Mom is sick to boot. It’s no wonder you feel lonely. I lived only 700 miles from my family for a while and I was home as often as I could be. My Mom was sick too and it was so hard to not be there with her. I tried to call as often as I could and I wrote a lot of letters. This was way before e-mail :) Anyway, hang in there, it will get better.
Adrenaline!
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