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Talk to his school counselor about it. Have them have a talk with your son. They probably won’t confront him about his problem right away but they will see if they can figure out what is going on.
Eventually he’s going to have to face this issue with you and the rest of your family. And chances are he’s not going to react well. But the only thing I can suggest is do the best you can and brace yourself for that.
A lot of the times, people who abuse drugs like that become defensive about it and put up a wall to anyone trying to help them out. It’s painful but that wall has to break eventually and the help of a counselor is good for that, too

You don’t have to mention that myspace message at all. you have enough evidence to to support your thoughts to your own son. And if he says he doesn’t have a problem then do not let him be alone ever for the next week to month. Put him though a detox at your own home. Take the door off his room, and clean it adn make sure that the only things in it are his bed and blankets. Keep his clothes in your room and put everything thing else in boxes and store them until he’s better. I know this seems to cruel and rude but I know if I ever have kids I wouldn’t want them to get into drugs. And if he doesn’t have place to do them then he can’t. Also include grounding, because he could easily do them at a friends house too.

thank you both, both ideas are good, but he doesnt know I know yet, and I really didnt want to involve the school in our buisness at this point.I think once he knows that Ive found out he will do his best to hide it. What makes it so hard is not involving my daughter, how do I tell him how I found out the details ? I dont want to cause a rift between my son and daughter, as they are very close. He wouldnt tell her about this because he knows she would probably tell me.

Really, at this point, you can’t worry so much about hiding who knows or doesn’t know from him. It’s now about his health and his safety. You can avoid having to tell him how you found out but you can’t control his response to that. It’s only going to complicate things if you start to worry too much about that.
If you follow the thoughts of Countess Tulip, you are eventually going to have to let your family know so either way, they’ve found out.

Yes Emily I agree, Im going to have to confront him, I dont want this to get to the point of him getting addicted and having to go through detox, or something even worse. He knows I suspect something because I took the lighter fluid from his room, I commented on his eyes, so he must be aware that I suspect something.
Thank god I know my kids, and I see when something is not right.I don’t think this has been going on too long, so I want to get it seen to as soon as possible.
Ive googled DXM and the effects are much like LSD apparently. Im now going to my cupboards and throwing out any old prescription drugs,and anything else I can find.
Im on the trail, and trust me ladies, I have no intention of letting this go.
Any other ideas, will be read and appreciated.

That’s good. I’m glad you’re such a good mother and so observant. There are some parents and guardians that I know who sit at the table with their kids and share the bottle of prescriptions. It’s very sad.

This DXM thing, I remember it from high school…robo tripping they called it.

Yep it sounds like its a hallucinogenic drug and that makes the attraction tenfold because they enjoy the sensation then they want more of the same.
Ok Im out of here to start the process, thanks for your help , Ill leave the post open for any other ideas. How do ingredients like this make it into cough medicines ?? they need to realize the potential for addiction I think.
Mind you they also cant be blamed for abuse to it either I guess.Ill check back later for any other replies,

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Yep it sounds like its a hallucinogenic drug and that makes the attraction tenfold because they enjoy the sensation then they want more of the same.
Ok Im out of here to start the process, thanks for your help , Ill leave the post open for any other ideas. How do ingredients like this make it into cough medicines ?? they need to realize the potential for addiction I think.
Mind you they also cant be blamed for abuse to it either I guess.Ill check back later for any other replies,

I watched that show INTERVENTION a few weeks ago and a girl was addicted to dust cleaner. It’s tough because it’s easy to obtain and yes, has harmful chemicals in it. But these items aren’t designed to harm people. They’re made to help people. And yet, people find ways. Even though the dust cleaner had actually boasted it’s ingredients not being addictive, she still ended up inhaling many cans a day.
Good luck and keep in touch. I’d like to see how things go with you.

This is a family affair, and as much as you want to deal with this privately, the more open and honest you can be and have your family remain a united front and supportive towards your son, so much the better. You husband has a right to know, and he is entitled to be angry and upset and hurt, and if you didn’t tell him, that would all the more put a wedge in between you, when you both need to support eachother on this.

You can be a support to your husband and come up with ideas together on how to approach your son. Coming at him with anger as much as you have every right to and want to, it will only push him away.

your son took away his right to privacy when he began doing drugs and lying to you. Since his is under your care and you are responsible for him, you have every right to enter his room, without his say so. you do not need to offer up explainations of how you found out, what you found. There is a problem and it needs to be addressed. ( That’s just my take on it…)

You are a loving mom, and you are a tough lady, you can and will get through this. Don’t let him pull on your heart strings, and don’t let him let you give in. Trust has to be earned, and addictions are hard to get over.

A.D.D.A.C is a good place to start. Maybe call your local crisis line to see if there are any methods and measures that “work” and sit down and talk to your son, I would suggest having everyone involved and present during this talk, not to gang up on him, but to express thier view points and thier oppinions perhaps. The more he knows you know about this, the less he’ll be able to hide. Once the addiction is out in the open, the healing can begin.

how old is your son?

the Dm in cough surrup is very dangerous and overdose can easily kill you.
Same thing with solvents they can severely damage your brain.
You need to take this very seriously and stop it right away.
If your son was playing with anthrax or plutonium I think you would not
delay. Anthrax would kill him immediately. And plutonium would kill him
in about two years.
These drugs are in the same category.
You must impress upon him that his life is very valuable and that you love him
and want to do everything possible to see that he has a wonderful life.
Free of disease and unhappiness.

My son is 15 anon, yes Spiratec9 I hear what your saying,and yes it is scaring me to death. Today I went through the house and got rid of all prescription drugs that were in out bedroom etc..I also too anything that could be inhaled out of the kitchen cupboards. Ill keep you posted, the conversation and discussion will probably be coming very soon. Thank you all for your comments and suggestions.

You sound like a good mother, get some help if you cant deal with it alone x