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Think about what will happen if you go back, is the job important for you or for your family and fiance too, does anybody depend on you? how about asking your family and fiance that you’re going to quit because of them and hear their reaction.
I always choose happiness over career cause if i’m happy, i’m happy.

No one depends on me.. Infact my fiance earns well. But the place where i work is a very good place and it is just the matter of 6 months.But 6 months seems a very long wait for me..talking about my fiance and my family i think they would insist me on staying here. But i am really not happy…

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No one depends on me.. Infact my fiance earns well. But the place where i work is a very good place and it is just the matter of 6 months.But 6 months seems a very long wait for me..talking about my fiance and my family i think they would insist me on staying here. But i am really not happy…

Sucks to be you, anyway if you think you can get another job in your country where your family lives then before you quit get a new job. Or try to your family about your unhappiness. I would wait for 6 months cause i’m always patient

Can you not make some visits during the 6 months, or can you fiance and family come visit you?

No it is really expensive its really far from UK and it is really difficult to get a visiting visa from my country. I am really lonely all i do is miss home and my fiance. I cannot cope this lonliness.

everything is in its extreme…

I’m sorry to hear that. Being away from those you love is very hard. I say this all the time, but try and take a long run view of this. At the end of the six months, is this something that will have greatly benefited you? Only you can balance the two decisions to figure out what is best for you. Also, you mentioned your fiance will be there in 6 months - will he/she be coming even if you go back home?

NO.. if i go back we will probably try to go somewhere else or stay there. I know it is just the matter of 6 months but it seems too long… It is my 2nd week at work and i have already started hating it..i hate this place i hate everything that makes me feel that i am lonely.

Ohh, especially after 2 weeks, you really haven’t given yourself a chance to make it work yet. This type of situation is ALWAYS hardest at the beginning. But like I said, take a long term view of what’s best for you and your fiance, and make your decision based on that, and not JUST missing each other.

I have been in this country for 5 years now.. and my fiance there we have had a long distance relation for 5 years and i have known him for 7 years no… we love each other a lot… but i guess you are right in a long term that is the best solution.. well 6 more months of lonliness then….

IWANA, what would you do if u were in my place?

I don’t know cuz I’m not you. The factors that are important to me might not be what’s important to you. Also, I don’t know what kind of job you’re talking about, the relationship with the fiance, the circumstances at the new job, etc., etc. etc. Only you can make a decision that will be best for you. Have you discussed this with your fiance, too? What does he think?