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Olivieria6
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Recently my boyfriend of just about a year, got into a motorcycle accident.

He had been riding for about 4 months, and decided to come over to my house one night after he had been out fishing all day with some guys from work. I found out that he had been hospitalized after he didn’t show up or called. When I got to the hospital they informed me that his blood alcohol levels were almost double the legal limit, (a fact that we didn’t tell him until after he was released). He was very lucky to make it out of the crash with only a few cuts and minor bruises (everyone that was on the scene didn’t think he was going to survive the night), and a severely bruised ego. He hasn’t been charged with anything as of right now, and he said that he knows that he is lucky to be alive, let alone walking around right now. We have talked about him not drinking for at least a year, and being more responsible when he does drink. I really thought that he was going to turn over a new leaf. That was until last night. He had a work dinner with almost everyone that he works with, and he assured me that he wasn’t going to drink, and that if he did it would be 1 beer, or 1 glass of wine. I told him to call me when he was leaving and again when he got home. He did just that. We talked for 15 minutes and he told me that he had 2 beers and 1 glass of wine, I said goodnight and hung up, no more than 40 minutes later i got a text from him saying that he was getting sick. I called and he told me that he was getting sick, I asked him how that was possible when he had so little to drink. He told me that he didn’t remember talking to me, and that he had 2 beers, 2 glasses of white, 3 of red, and a jack and coke. I am so mad at him, because I don’t think that he understands that every-time he drinks and then then gets into a car, he is lucky to make it home alive. How do I let him know that this isn’t okay, and I really think that he needs to talk to someone to get help with this problem. Only problem is, he wont, I’ve tried, I don’t know what else I can do to try to help him. I’m afraid that if I don’t do anything, he is going to really get hurt, or worse hurt someone else.

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cherryjlu offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (11 minutes after post)

You need to let him go, unless he gets help. If you don’t you will enable him. If you love him, you need to practice this tough love. Realize he may not change even if you leave him, but you’ll save yourself a lot of pain. If he didn’t learn from the accident, and he lies about his drinking then he is headed down a bad road. I’ve been in a similar situation and finally had to let go. She still drinks heavily to this day.

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shad offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (12 minutes after post)

Unfortunately Olivieria, if you truly want to help him, AA would be the place to start. Even that would only help if he’s willing to admit he has a problem and wants to fix it.. Otherwise, I’d have to agree with cherry.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (58 minutes after post)

I cant let him go, im afraid that if I do it will send him over the edge and his behavior will just increase. I dont think that he lies about drinking, and when hes with me he doesnt drink, its just when hes around his immature college buddies, or some co-workers who are living through him (hes 26 they are all in their 40’s_

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shad offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

As brutally blunt as this may sound, it seems like he still may have a bit of growing up to do.

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