life help: I recently learned that my parents who have been married for 47 years are splitting up. - Help.com

I recently learned that my parents who have been married for 47 years are splitting up.

Apparently, my father has a mistress and three children by her. To be 46 and suddenly discover that your father has led a double life all these years is shocking to say the least. My mother is heartbroken and sobs like a small child every day. My father recently had a stroke and his health had been downhill from there. My father vehemently denied having another family and other children but when it was discovered that the “other” children have depleted my parent’s nest egg, the cat was out of the bag. There is no more money for medication, nothing.

My dad was given a choice, my mother or his other family. He chose the other family.
I talked to my dad and he apologized to me. His last words to me were “I’m sorry” and I forgave him. Only because I don’t feel any hate right now. I don’t feel any anger. I just feel incredible sorrow that this is the way it has to end. I am in no position to help because the biggest help they need right now is financial help and I am so far away I can’t get to them. I feel like a failure. I feel like I’m of no worth because I cannot help them. I’m so afraid. Everything I eat tastes like cardboard and I can’t concentrate…. I can’t sleep I’m so worried.

The biggest hurt is that my Dad’s sister and her family knew about the other family and kept it a secret from us. Betrayal is an evil thing.

I don’t know what to do. I don’t know where to get help.

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