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Why? What’s going on at work?

why, wats goin on?

It isn’t work related. I just don’t feel good (but I can’t afford to go home) and I just had a panic attack (after managing for the first time not to have a panic attack in 1.5 days) and me and my bf had a stupid arguement over the phone and I’m tired and just….feeling emotional I guess.

What’s happening that’s making you feel like this, anon?
Hey, I don’t know about you, but I am happy that it is Friday and that I can do whatever I want for a couple of days.
Can you try to think ahead of something that you might enjoy doing when you get home?

I have to go to my parents to do laundry cuz our apartment doesn’t have a washer and dryer…….

buy new clothes and skip it.

My daughter, 18, has been going through that kind of thing at school. I will tell you what I told her: when a relationship is causing you more pain and distress than giving you joy and comfort, it’s time to think about getting out.

Ohhhh one of THOSE days.
Had one myself Monday.
I just went home after work and turned some good music on.
I like to do picture puzzles with some good rockin’ music.
It really helps me unwind.
I hope that you get to feeling better, anon.

I can’t. I need clothes and so does my bf. My bf makes me VERY happy, I just hate arguements that’s all. It happens to everyone sometimes…I just get a little emotional when it does that’s all.

Turn off your phone, take a breath—maybe get some water or a drink.

If nothing else works just eat an abnormal amount of hard candy. That’s how I used to stave off a meltdown when I had a job.

you just need to calm everything down take a step back and look at the hings that are making you unhappy, and slowly work away at them !!!

I have to do laundry this weekend too—it’s gonna be horrible. I live in an apartment and we go to the laundromat. Date at the laundromat…it’s interesting. LOL.

Are you insecure about the relationship, or do you have doubts about yourself, e.g., “if THIS boyfriend doesn’t work out, I’ll never get another one”?

Well I am working on my panic attacks. I didn’t have one for 1.5 days. Usually I have 3 or 4 a day so that’s good for me. Not feeling good wise, I went to my doc but it was a waste of time. I’ll sleep tonight to help with the tired part…..the arguement with my bf….i’ll talk to him tonight and I’ll feel better. I am just an emotional person and I hate arguements with anybody….it was a stupid arguement and I’ll feel better when I talk to him tonight…I just need something to take my mind off of everything right now.

No, no. I’ve been with my bf for 7 years. He’s wonderful and makes me very happy. I love my life with him. It’s great! I’m just a type of person that doesn’t like arguements THAT’S ALL! I do get insecure sometimes but I am a person that doesn’t have much self esteem….I don’t have a lot of faith in myself. But he treats me really well and we have fun together and I love him and he makes me happy.

Well it just sounds like you are having one of those days. I think that it would help to just focus on something else for the rest of the day and not think about it and it will help you from getting upset at work. Then you can go home and not work for a few days and relax.

Arguments stink! Seriously, you can be having an amazing morning, everything is going to key. And then out of nowhere, you’re in an argument with someone you love and care about.
All of a sudden, your sunshine is gone. It’s funny how something like that occurs. But not funny at the same time.
And, like me you say you don’t have much self esteem. That really can get to you when something like this happens. It just really, makes you want to cry.
You can’t stop thinking about the bad things. And what you’ve done wrong. Because with people who’ve got little self esteem, they tend to blame themselves more than is really necessary.
It’s not your fault. It’s human nature to argue. For whatever reason, it happens. So, it’s going to be crappy. But really, it will pass.
Everyday, unfortunately is not sunshine, but you can bring in your own light and warmth from the things that make you happy!!
Hope you feel better!!!

Seven years. Any thoughts about getting married to him? Not an absolute requirement, but it keeps a man from just walking away if you get pregnant. Yes, a married man can still walk away, but he knows that it will cost him . . . big time.

OK……..where did all that come from? I’m not pregnant. The only reason we aren’t married is that we can’t afford to get married right now. Also, we both want kids when we are a little more financially sound.

Some women who are in long-term relationships, but in which there seems to be no prospect of ever “tying the knot,” are sometimes anxious about the situation. By the way, it doesn’t cost very much to go down to the courthouse and take out a marriage license. Not pushing anything . . . but the “affordability” thing shouldn’t be a consideration.

In fact, the two of you are probably taking a beating on taxes because you’re not married.

We barely can afford to pay the bills! I’m only 23 anyways. I’m not anxious about marriage. I can’t wait to get married but I want a wedding with family there and so does my bf.

eat a piece of chocolate and go for a walk

Well, you’ve got a while to go before worrying about getting married! I know about bills! Yes, a piece of chocolate and a walk would probably do it!

Umm marriage? I’m confused too as to where that came from, too. The divorce rate is 1 out of every 2 marriages end in divorce. And the top reason for a marriage ending is the age at which one says their vows.
They say you have a good chance of your marriage working out if you are over the age of 25 and financially sound based on statistics of failed and successful marriages.

Just because it’s been 7 years doesn’t mean it’s time to tie the knot. I don’t know where you got that idea, chev.jame

That’s a sound decision—anon. You have a great mind for good decisions, it seems.

Sometimes the weather makes me weepy

I don’t go by statistics but there is plenty of time for marriage. And yes, we’d like to be more financially sound. We don’t even own a car!

Hold on , think of something that makes you smile , the work day is almost over , you can do it .

If you’ve been living together, in some states, you’re common law married. :P

I’ve been married & divorced, engaged several times…but that’s not whats bothering you—so we shouldn’t beat a dead horse…

Sounds like you’re more just stressed about things, maybe work—no one wants to get upset at work. Maybe looking at cuteoverload would make you smile.

http://www.cuteoverload.com/

thanks

We are common law. We’ve lived together for almost 5 years :)

I’m from Canada though.

Oh. Well dangit woman!!! You guys have awesome food—mmmm…

My visit to Canada was awesome actually, the landscapes can be beautiful.

awww…….those pics are too cute! That made me feel a bit better. Thanks.

I live in the annapolis valley in Nova Scotia and it is very beautiful.

Wow, look out the window!!!
I work in a basement office, no windows 12′ ceilings, bookcases everywhere and a giant omonus black steel door…welcome to working in America!!! :(

for you…
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This also makes me laugh http://icanhascheezburger.com/ :D Smile it’s Friday…

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Some people would consider seven years a long time. Also, that’s long enough to be considered “common law” spouses in some states.

I live in Canada and yes, we are common law.

I’m trying to take over Canada. Who wants to help me? ;-)

All of you Canadians can have the States . . . !

Hey, anon, how do you feel now?

Yeah I do thanks….I feel much calmer.