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I hate myself too much.

I’m not happy, i seem to desperate and im failing in school. What i do I really want? I want to move out of this place, fall in love like those romance movies…and get married, start a family. I want to start afresh but im stuck where i am. I dont even have a boyfriend to start with…or money.

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e_donegan9 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (3 minutes after post)

life is a little harsh sometimes……………but all things come to those that wait.

my life was a message….but time brings opportunity!!!

becareful not to try to hard…think garth brookes “sometimes i thank good for unanswered prayers”

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

stick to your guns your only young well you sound it try and addopt a possitive mental attitude i no its easy to just say it but ive been thru the same thing and it will get better but you have to stay possitive and better yourself one day it will happen.you got your hole life to look forward to. dont be like me i addopted a very negative attitude and now i have no one and nothing and its taken me to get to this to make a change

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drinkincatonmil offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 minutes after post)

You have an attainable dream, you just need to make it work for you. You’ll probably need to start by getting your grades up.

Or you could simply just enjoy where you are?

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Justin T offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Every one goes through these types of things. I can think of so many instances where i wondered if i might have been living life all wrong, or if anything will ever work out for me. After a while, you’ll realize things always get better it just takes a little time and effort.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (11 minutes after post)

but to be honest i know exactly where your coming from ive been depressed my whole life it seems like a big thing to say but i just crnt see a lift in the things people do it doesent seem like my idea of a life i no it seems exsesive but this has been a big part of my life i think im just naturaly depressed or slightly crazy who nos anyway if you want to talk i no where your coming from im more than glad to share my expiriences with you if u want ill give you my email

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Anonymous #
1 year, 2 months ago (14 minutes after post)

I feel so tired of trying and trying. Ive tried so hard and now im just so tired. Sometimes i just want to stop thinking and just accept this stupid lifeless soul..but im scared and i hate losing.

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drinkincatonmil offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (16 minutes after post)

Yes, depression hits, but sometimes it just seems like a thing you can wait out and try to fight with spontaneity. I remember when you get depressed, you can hang out with your most fun friends, do your favorite activity; do anything- and nothing seems to work. But eventually, it ends. It’s almost as if, you’re at a stoplight and the light’s red. It will be green soon enough, just stay mellow until then.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 2 months ago (24 minutes after post)

I feel too tired to think about the future now

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Justin T offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Try to get a little sleep and not think about anything that has you down. When you wake in the morning be ready to tackle any problems with your friends on Help!

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drinkincatonmil offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Fine; then subscribe to some spontaneity. Also, it does sort of feel good to know you have friends that are looking out for you; go for that.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 2 months ago (47 minutes after post)

how?

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drinkincatonmil offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (50 minutes after post)

Do you have any friends? If so, how good are they at being friends(?); how close are you with them?

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Anonymous #
1 year, 2 months ago (55 minutes after post)

yes i do have some friends. We dont hang out much these days cos all of them have a boyfriend…and we are all in different schools. I dont have any close friends in my current school.

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drinkincatonmil offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (59 minutes after post)

When I was really depressed for a little while, my one friend really took me under his wing and kept my life interesting, despite my unaltering outlook on it. If you don’t have close friends, maybe make them. Maybe if you’re not close with them, or have known them for a while, and you get the chance to talk to them, just tell them how you’ve been feeling; they may want to help you.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

One thing about myself is that im not really myself when im with them. I tend to act happy and funny. Most of the time i just feel like screaming and being alone on my own. Ive told my parents that im depressed but none actually believed in it.

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drinkincatonmil offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 36 minutes after post)

Oh, yeah, I’m not really fun with my friends if I’m depressed. You should probably elaborate on your situation and depression?

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Anonymous #
1 year, 2 months ago (2 hours, 1 minute after post)

I wish i really know what is really wrong with me

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tina_01179 offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (3 hours, 51 minutes after post)

I would suggest finding someone who will listen to the fact you are depressed. I have a friend who did not leave her room for two weeks. She became scared to leave her house and go in public. She found a great Dr. who put her on a homapathic medication. She still struggles, as it is said it takes someone almost a year to get back to feeling almost normal. I don’t know if you are religious, if you are, Pray.

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justine offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 day, 22 hours after post)

Depression is a terrible thing. You need to do stuff, help others, get a hobby (not a solitary one). I find writing helps explore my thoughts. Talking to people helps as well. Talk about it until your exhausted. Mediation anything to take yourself out of yourself

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 week after post)

U really need to try and change your thought process. I know this is easy. Life is a rollercoaster, yeah and somedays I really want off. Only do I ever think this when things get tough, when things go the way I don’t want them to. Take time to appreciate things you have accomplished, time to be greatful for the people that are in your life. Spend time alone getting to like yourself, boosting your own self esteem and confidence takes time but is so rewarding. No one can do this as much as you can do it for yourself. spend time with friends yeah that can be good when your feeling up to it. Talking to friends is important but I’ve found in the past I even beat myself up for doing this too often thinking I was being a burden even to them. REALLY LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF. Put on your favourite music and turn it up…may sound strange but at that moment be greatful for being able to hear. Eat your favourite food.. again be grateful for that. Small steps to being a more postive person. You can change how you feel yourself, no one is in charge of telling you how to think except you. We all get into negative thought patterns and its too easy to continue these unless you challenge yourself. You as an individual are awesome and you deserve to be happy. Eventually you will have more up days than down and when you face any challenges in the future you know you have within you the power to overcome anything!!! You will attract positive people and build healthy relationships with all around you and people will pick up on your strength as an individual. Be kind to yourself build yourself up first. Be very proud of yourself for finding this site and asking for help.

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allieowe offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 week after post)

sorry first line error, “I know this is easy” should read “I know this isn’t easy”

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