marriage help: Get Married through the mail. - Help.com

At one time there were such a thing as mail-order-brides. Some papers still carry ads from women, mostly from Russia or Africa, soliciting to “marry” American men. The majority are scams just to get a bank account number.

Well my first thought as I read this was mail order bride, no idea how leagal that is or how you go about it

Why?

Not a good idea. How do you know for sure what you are getting. Do you want to raise the divorce rates?

For more info seek out this book: The most thorough study of international marriages that has been published to date is a 2003 book entitled Romance on a Global Stage, Pen Pals, Virtual Ethnography, and “Mail Order” Marriages, by Nicole Constable, Professor of Anthropology and Research Professor at the University Center for International Studies, University of Pittsburgh. Professor Constable spent two years interviewing hundreds of American men, Chinese and Filipina women, domestic and international NGOs and women’s groups and many owners of international dating companies.

Lauren Carlisle wrote:
no not mail oreder. I meant if you already know someone. but they live far away. can you get married to them without being there

What would be the purpose? Wait till you can be together. Marriage is a close relationship and will work only as the two work closely together.

Lauren Carlisle wrote:
yeah. we are getting mariied for money though

Not a good reason at all. Don’t do it. Stop now before you have such a tangle that you don’t know how to get out of it and end up with children involved, etc.

It is called marriage by proxy. I don’t know what country are you from but do your homework before you do such thing because marriage by proxy in the States and in many other countries are illegal. Maybe some States allow it in the US. If you do it for money, it is double illegal.

F_thelakers, what you are saying is totally wrong. I talked to a retired US military officer and he said only through the individual State can you get marriage licence and you have to be present too to get it, the Army does NOT supply or carry out issues regarding marriage licences. So whatever your fiance told you is bogus. So you better clear this out, the Army cannot give you a marriage licence, they have no jurisdiction in this matter.