boyfriend help: Am I a bad person?

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Am I a bad person?

I’m in the process of breaking up with my boyfriend, I don’t want to but I think it will be for the best, he’s going to university but wants us to stay together through it. I don’t think that we can…

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Justin T 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Is it going to turn into a long distance relationship?

Anonymous #
1 year, 2 months ago (5 minutes after post)

it would be long distance from Dartmouth to Edinburgh…

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

A bad person?nah dont let anyone be the judge of what you are.Just because you choose to do something you think is right dosent make you a bad person.

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Justin T 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Well said, its your decision, do what you think is right and don’t worry about things like right and wrong because most decisions dont end up being that black and white, you have to see the world in gray.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (10 minutes after post)

To add another dimension to it, I loved him for 2 years and waited until I could make him feel the same way, we’ll have only been going out with each other for a year and a half when we break up. But he’s still convinced that he can come back afterwards and we can be together but I know we will never see each other again.

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Justin T 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (14 minutes after post)

If you believe your going to be waiting around for nothing, why worry about it? Make your decision about how you feel and hope one day in the future you may meet up again as friends.

Anonymous #
1 year, 2 months ago (17 minutes after post)

I know, it just feels like I’m being really tight and he doesn’t understand what’s wrong.

chunkymove 4 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (39 minutes after post)

If you don’t love him enough to make it work long distence, set him free.

I don’t think is makes you a bad person. If you wanted to be “bad”, you’d be stringing him along, wringing all you can out of his love for you.

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sweetiejay 2 #
Fern Tree Gully, 07, AU | 1 year, 2 months ago (44 minutes after post)

chunkymove wrote:
If you don’t love him enough to make it work long distence, set him free.

I don’t think is makes you a bad person. If you wanted to be “bad”, you’d be stringing him along, wringing all you can out of his love for you.

That’s exactly right. You WOULD be a ‘bad’ person if you were stringing him along. By ending, you are ensuring you both can move on quicker, then if you drag it out indefinetly for months or years more.

okei! 111 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (2 hours, 32 minutes after post)

oh! why not give it a shot, long distance relship might work. anyway, just tell it straight to him (breakup) just be honest though.

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crud400 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (12 hours, 21 minutes after post)

Your not a bad person. It’s the wrong choices you choose to make and what you do that makes you a bad person.

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