Love help: Hello, I am a 25 year old female that last year fell madly deeply in love with a man older than my mom. - Help.com

Wow, that’s wow. Um, I’m sry if I can’t help much, but think about the overall fact that you are in love with a married man. A friend of mine also had an affair and she too was “inlove” until she realized he was using her. I’m not saying he was/is using though, of course. What I’m getting at is, even though you love him, maybe you are better off without him. idk, I’m only 17, so this really isn’t my forte. And if you stay with him, well, you may be happy but what happens if he just dumps you like he is almost doing to his wife. The one he promised his life to. Love is blind, remember that.

Let him go if he really loves you, he will leave his wife and come for you

You have made a terrible mistake in thinking that the man you love is worth your time. He broke is wedding vows and you helped him do that. What ever made you call his poor wife to inflict further pain on her. What did she do to deserve to have her future ruined?
Have you no feelings of shame for what you and this man have done? The only help I can offer is to advise you to move on and try to make up for what you have done. Have no furter contact with the man, his wife, or his children. Do good deeds for others. Keep yourself busy with honorable activities and you may actually meet someone who will be worth loving.

You poor thing, you fell in love with a j*e*r*k and hoped he will leave his wife and kids for you! You lowered your standards when you got involved with a married man. YOu fed his ego and his needs he obviously didn’t get from home. What were you thinking when you decided to lure a married man? What I mean what were your expectations? The whole thing was doomed to death from the beginning and after that as it was handled by you and him just confirmed one fact: both of you are immature to have a real loving relationship. So learn from it dear girl and move on. He is not worth your time and love.

A guy who can have his cake and eat it too. How nice for him! And you are letting yourself be led by your nose by this guy?

How does it feel to play second fiddle in this guy’s orchestra?

Are you trying to break up this home?

Thanks littlenick, good points.

I believe this young woman has left the building. I only hope that she sees the light and works to regain her self respect.

The points that she makes are just rationalizing her own bad behavior. She knows it’s bad to be seeing a married man. When she makes this guy leave his wife, he will do the same to her. I wish her luck!

She is just immature and inexperienced. She sounds to me like a little girl in a candy or toy store having temper tantrum because she can’t have what she wants.

Nowhere do you say that his wife abused or neglected him. Lacking any such indications from you, I deduce that your 48-year-old boyfriend was simply an opportunist. You fed his ego, but destroyed his wife’s ego. And for what? You thought that this man, who apparently had no signficant marital problems at home, was going to leave his wife of 20 years, sacrifice all of his assets, and earn the ire of his family . . . all for a young woman who could leave him in a heartbeat? This man was a first class fool, but you aided and abetted his fantasy of having a younger woman “on the side.” Did you just want to prove to yourself that you could take him away from his wife? And now he’s looking for you again? Undoubtedly. His former home is now a bomb crater because of what the two of you have done. You’ve done enough damage to that man’s family, fool that he is. Let him go and find someone who is not encumbered, and who doesn’t cheat on his wife just for the heck of it.

Indeed, well spoken. I hope she is still here to read and understand the significance and the damage she helped to create. It that is true he is after her again, she shouldn’t even bother with him anymore. The guy didn’t tell his wife he cheated on her, she found out through this young girl’s call. So should she have him again? Absolutely not, this time he will cheat on her as he cheated on the wife.

Whatever possessed you to start a relationship with a married man??? Did you know at the onset that he was married? I feel so sorry for his poor wife and children. His wife is in a worse pickle than you are….she married a man/thought it was forever/had children and built a life with him….and he let what they built together crumble to the ground. And you helped.

If you are attracted to someone and find out they are married, it is time to turn that attraction off and move on to someone who is not married.

Finally, I do feel for you b/c you are young and it is easy for ‘older’ people to manipulate ‘younger’ people. However, whenever someone does something in this life, they need to ask themselves if it is something that they would be proud of if it was published in the local paper….

Last, whatever in the world makes you feel he would be faithful to you???? He cheated on someone he took vows with and who he built a life with. His word is sh*t. He may be faithful to you….for months, years even….but he will cheat on you like he cheated on her. You are no more special to him than she is….he hasn’t left her for you, has he? No? Well, there you go. Even if he did, why would you want someone who broke his vows?

I couldn’t agree more with JellyBelly. Excellent points so many people should respect and follow.

lucky so and so he is ….