friends help: I finally let it out…but now im ready to close back up - Help.com

Don’t ever be ashamed of seeking help for a problem. The older generations, unfortunately, believed that you “didn’t talk about such things.” Just concentrate on solving your problems and feeling better. And this from an older guy . . . !

I don’t think you can lose your grandma. Keep showing that you care and acknolwedge your feelings. The love of family goes deeper than that. Opening up is very hard at first, but it means you trust her enough to let her see parts of who you really are. She might be hurt or shocked at first, and may need time to adjust. You are growing up, and to actually remain close to her, you need to reveal to her that you are your own person, different from what she might want or expect you to be. From my experience, it was easier for my mom to accept who i am because we are closer in age. i never actually opened up to my grandma because i never thought seh would live this long. she has no idea about who i really am, and now she’s 92 and i feel it’s too late to change things. it’s good you’re trying to be honest with her while you and she are still relatively young. give both her and yourself time to develop and adult to adult relationship.

I think your grandma heard the story from someone other than you, and you need to have a real talk with her. Let her hear your words from your own mouth. She might have misunderstood some things. Also, to show her you really respect her, you need to talk to her face to face.

why, because then theyll see how youve been acting? what youve been doing?
or theyll see theres a problem and actually try to do something about it, instead of leaving you in your misery that gets you the attention you so crave?
surely what happened here recently has showed you that you have some real, deepset issues that are now causing not only you pain, but others also.
your grandma has been like a mother to you, you owe it to her to let her in and to talk about whats going on with her.
she probably walked away because she was hurt you didnt open up to her.personally i think you should be going to your grandparents first with your problems instead of sidestepping them completely to go behind thier backs to a councelor.
you need to be monitered to make sure “mera” doesnt happen again, and to make sure you are getting the help you need.
your problems stem from your secretiveness. its allowing you to do things like what you did, allowing you to grow your insecurities rather than confront them head on.