computer help: Um i seem to have a problem with manipulating my father. - Help.com

you need to find out if it will put a strain on your father.

It won’t. He has plenty of money but he doesn’t like to spend it on me.He said he’d get me a computer if i made straight A’s and i did. But when it came time he lied and said he wasn’t going to buy it.

Manipulating people to get what you want is a bad idea. My parents and I don’t get along because of it. Treat your father with respect, and like smicki said, it must be putting a strain on your father otherwise, he would do it if you need it for your education. Your mom is right, if it was possible, I’m sure he would have no qualms about it.

Ah, and in reading your last reply, my apologies, you weren’t so clear in your post about the situation. It seems that there’s really nothing you can do. Manipulating won’t help anyone, or your situation. In the long run, it might just make things worse.

Can you maybe save up, get a part-time or casual job and purchase one yourself?

so you got straight A’s. why did he say he wouldn’t honor his word?

And are you so sure he wont this man is your parent if you really need need it he knows and you know it is September. Maybe you should just wait and see what life has in store for you. Or make an early Christmas deal but expect to keep your deal. You should honor yourself and your family.

I would love to get a job but my mom won’t let me.And I only want a new computer because the one i have is so old and i can’t do a lot on this one with out it crashing.

He said that wasn’t what he had said.Even though both my mom and sisters heard him say he would but it.He does this kind of thing a lot.it happened last year. I’ve been asking him for one for about 3 years now, I’ve tired explaining the perks in me getting a new computer but no such luck.

I had even worked out an entire plan that he could use to pay for it so he wouldn’t pay all at once.

“I had even worked out an entire plan that he could use to pay for it so he wouldn’t pay all at once.”

that’s good. Talk to your mom what does she say?

My mom doesn’t have the money for it, She tired once but i told her not to cause she really couldn’t spare the money like he can.

There not together?

No

but your mom said stop did she tell you why?

She just thinks it’d be better if he actually gave it to me (even though the chance of that happening is 99,990 to 1), without me making some kind of plan.

manipulating another persons will has all types of consequences. He is however your father how old are you?

You need to stop manipulating and just talk to him honestly.

I’m 16, and yeah i know it’s bad he’s the only one i really do it to. I’ve tired to talk to him but he doesn’t listen, He lies to me claims he can’t do it. But he supports my older sister and her 2 children.

so how did you manipulate him this time or what is the plan you have?

Well i have independent studies.So my work will be done sometime using my computer.I really just planned on twisting words around. And playing on the college thing. I was put into a program that will get me into a 4 year college and if i don’t keep my 3.0 i’ll lose it.

congratulations everyone has hurdles to overcome be honest and have faith that will be enough to see you through new computer or not.