Love help: What does marriage mean to you? - Help.com

LoL anon, what if I said yes? :O

Michael Leibman wrote:

~LazyDaze wrote:
yes

good answer

Hey!
You do know that editing a quote is against the rules :S

(just so you know) Smarty pants!

Bogdan wrote:
I see marriage as a permanent, life long commitment. I don’t really have any expectations of marriage though.

Well that is kind of an expectation, you expect it to be permanant and life long.

Michael Leibman wrote:
I was just editing down to the part I mean t to respond to.

Anyway that was wrong and I’m sorry, I was just following anon’s charismatic leadership.

To answer the question, I don’t understand how people can grow up and live not married. It doesn’t make any sense to me, although I happen to be doing it (senselessly.)

I was only saying because I once was told of for doing the same thing :S
Although still a smart @ss responce saying you were editing it to the bit you wanted to reply too :P

Ok, so if you are living without being married now, what age do you think is the right age for you to get married?

Also another question I want to know is if someone has been married once before andit didn’t work out then why do they get married again?
I would have thought it to be something like not learning from your mistake if you did the same thing again..

gerry51 wrote:
I married for love and yes I toke the vows very serious right up to my wifes death. I know when you really love someone it is not hard to keep your vows.

Sorry to hear about your wife :(

I can see how for some people it is something that you don’t really need to think about as deep down the decision has already been made and feel right.
How do you know though that what you feel for someone will not change after a time and when you realise you no longer want to be with them it is too late as you are married.
How do you know that you can be with this person for the rest of time?

Yeah I suppose.

Marriage is slowly dying out, people no longer see the need to get married in order to be with someone like how it used to be where it was frowned on to live with someone before marriage.
So now that there is no “need” for marriage then why do people still do it?

Bogdan wrote:
Some people just want that level of “Really, I wont leave you”, even though they can break the promise. A security blanket in a cold, unsafe world.

I can understand that.

gerry51 wrote:
You feel like nothing else mathers but the other person your in love with. They are the most important thing in your life.

So why would marriage make that any more real?

zoo_baw wrote:
i think it is importanti don’t really think it would be ‘love at first sight’till death?, i’ll try my very very best to keep up with that onemy expectations… well, never thought about it really, but i would really love just to have like someone that’s always ‘there’… though the thought also creeps me out sometimes… i still think it would be really nice

So you expect that one day you will marry someone?

Interesting.

zoo_baw wrote:
definitely

Why do you think this?
I mean why do you feel like it is something that will happen, what about just finding someone and being with them forever without taking vows?

gerry51 wrote:
Mariage means that you are commited to the other person.

But you can be commited to someone without marriage…

I just find it confusing really, never thought too much on this before, I mean it is easy to be with someone, to love them but once you marry if things change then the only thing marriage is for is to make it harder to leave that person.

I should add at this point really I am married myself, so I should know these things but I never really thought about it at the time, I was not worried or scared it just seemed like a normal thing to do.
I think what has brought these questions into my head is that it is out anniversary on Saturday and it got me thinking.

Zoo, so your way of thinking is down too religion/culture?

zoo_baw wrote:
no, i was talking about the book ‘the hitchhiker’s guide to the galaxy’
juust kidding…
yup, i guess you’re right… monkey see monkey do

But then thats good, isn’t it?
I mean that is a reason fo why you would get married, because it is your religion etc

What I want to know is why do other people do it, what is the reason for it.
I have no religion and their is no law in me living with someone unmarried yet I still go married anyway, being married in my eyes does not change anything so why?

Bogdan wrote:
It is tradition and social expectation. This is probably why.

Yeah mayeb,my mind seems to have gone blank lol

zoo_baw wrote:
ok, if we need a good reason to do absolutely everything… forgive me for being rude… i think i’d kill myself sooner or later

LOL yeah true, Im trying not to be blunt I just find it odd how lots of people do something like this when their is no need, I can see your side, you have religion for your reason to get married.. And I know about love etc, I am not skipping that out.