marriage help: ~OMG~ - Help.com

omg.. it is…. and its not just about the money that im looking for… (as i have a multi million dollar lawsuit with this)… its the fact of getting my children home where they belong.. the fact of getting these jerks in trouble for not caring about all the abuse they themselves have put my children through…

omg neutra…. you guys were so right…. i have so many tears right now just flowing… cold shivers running right down my spine… someone is actually listening… caring that my children and i were done wrong.. and is willing to help me

thank you … thank you all for believing in me… thank you all for keeping my chin up… thank you all for being there when i needed the advise

Dragon_Lady wrote:
:)I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you. :)

thank you…

nextstar wrote:
Wow shie ….great news honey :D !!!

Shie wrote:
thank you … thank you all for believing in me… thank you all for keeping my chin up… thank you all for being there when i needed the advise

that thank you was for you nextstar… lol.. just letting you know that i didnt forget to reply to ya..

i just got to my email… as i have been in a bit of pain today and just slept the day away… so as i opened my email… i replied to the lady and then came straight here to share with all of you…

im so happy that i actually feel sick to my stomach… ugh… but what a great feeling.. lol

Yewdale8 wrote:
THAT’S WONDERFUL SHIE. I am very happy for you. We don’t know each other very well. But I can empathize with loving other ppl so much and being separated from them. I hope everything works out well with the process to get you reunited. God bless YOU.

thank you soooooooooooooooooooooooo much…

my children are my life… my heros…

Ell♥ wrote:
OmG!!!!!!! I’m actually crying! I’ve got goosebumps reading it! I’m keeping my fingers crossed here omg I’m so happy babe. I’m so happy your story is being recognised by these people. I’m so excited for you I really hope they do help you and things go well.

Massive hugs!!

omg.. i know…. i still have the coldness running through me… like i have someone of spirit with me…

i actually am getting a headache now.. lol.. right at the base of my head.. thinking its tension or something… idk… my stomach is hurting… and the tears are still flowing… omg… im soooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo happy..

slimline2 wrote:
shie im not praying ,but i wish all the Forces in the Universe are behind you ….

thank you thank you thank you…

~LazyDaze wrote:
Congrats that is great news, I hope that it does not take long from meeting with them to the help rolling in!

thank you so very much… im hoping it doesnt take long either… ohhhhh i can not wait… it has been 5 years in january… wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy too much time lost…

here is yet another encouraging email from her.. this is after i replied to an email about if i get to see my children or not..

Hi Tammy ~~~

I have forwarded each of your emails on to a wonderful attorney who is willing to help. We will come to you, we just have to figure out a time. How are you supporting yourself? Do you have any family or anyone who helps you?

Please hang in there, and we will help………

hugs to you

Linda

im soooo happy…. i slept like a baby lastnight… it was awesome… i dont think i have had a nights sleep like that in a very long time… it felt great.

spiritedsoul wrote:
thats cool.
when are u collecting ur oldest child?

she turns 17 on october 20th, im hoping against all hope that she comes home. i have tried to get word to her about CPS in my area stating that she has all her rights and is able to do as she pleases…

qΛ§Ħ wrote:
WOW! Thats Cool! I am proud of you!!

Good Luck!!

thank you… thank you thank you..

evansent200 wrote:
well done lv,you show them what your made of :)

thank you… i am hoping that this attorney take these people to the cleaners… and again.. its not about the money… im a person that gave 30 grand to an ex boyfriend in less than 2 years… so money is nothing as long as i have what i need in life.. i just want these people to understand that they have taken away 5 years of my life…

Cosmic Fool wrote:
Awesome news Shie! Its a great feeling when justice is being done anywhere in the world, I’m glad you shared your story. And fingers crossed that it all works out. I’m sure you still have a fight ahead, but now you have the people to back you up, we all have faith =)

thank you.. and the best thing about the whole thing is this… they are against domestic violence and all the harm that it plays on someone… the courts that took my kids told me that i allowed my beatings… that i could have left when ever i wanted too… but little do they know.. it doesnt work that way… its nothing like that…

miss_enigma wrote:
OMG OMG OMG!!!!!

Wonderful news! Now keep those positive thoughts coming Shie! There’s a theory out there that if you think positive it comes back to you..best wishes :)

im hoping so…. i have been positive before only to have it ripped right out from under neath me… so i still am a bit worried until i start seeing actual actions… but for now.. i will gloat in this feeling… they are keeping in constant contact with me.. which no one has ever done before… so its a great sign… and an awesome moment for me…

babacup wrote:
Tears of joy!

i know… hahahahahahahhaah…. i was pouring buckets lastnight… lol…

~lilies~ wrote:
Wooowww! more luck to follow! :D

im hoping… and keeping my fingers crossed..

Mï†z¥-superMODel wrote:
That’s awesome news!! I really hope it works out!!! =]

thank you soooo much…

Snar wrote:
Shie that is amazing! Im SO glad things are working out for you. You deserve it :)

thank you snar… it is totally awesome…

babacup wrote:
I was just reading the leader you received. I just wanted to say God Bless Linda for being so wonderful and understanding and reaching out to give you help.

She is bringing lightness to the darkness of your despair. I love her for being able to bring to you what the rest of us wish we could.

i told her she is an angel sent to me.. i told her that she has absolutely no idea what this is like for me… to have someone actually listen and be ablet o do something for us…

but dont get me wrong.. my friends here on help are truly amazing as well.. and have helped more than they know… you guys have kept my chin up, kept me having faith in the seeing of my babies again… so a great big thanks goes out to you all as well… hugs to all..

anothernikki wrote:
Oh honey! Congrats!!! I’m praying for you and your children!!

thank you…. the night before this happened.. i actually had a heart to heart with god.. and im not a huge religious person. and have prayed for many years now.. never to get any type of answer… so my faith has been stressed over it.. and no, i never prayed for stupid stuff.. just for help.. even forgiveness for those who have done this to us… but the night that i prayed the other night.. i asked him to see my pain, my suffering and the fear that i have.. asked for any forgiveness that i needed to have him in my life.. i mean, i prayed straight from my heart and it was for quite a while.. because i wanted to make sure that he heard me this time.. and im thinking that finally… finally after all these years, he has heard me…

sans wrote:
Oh Shie I’m so happy for you. When the sun shines just enjoy it.

thank you sans… and you are right… it absolutely does… i have the biggest smile in my heart today…. like a heavy weight has been lifted from my shoulders… and it feels great…

Marylou wrote:
:) :) :) I’m smiling at you!

Sooooooooo Happy! :)

(Only positive thoughts, Shie… Keep it up!)

thank you…. for keeping me alert on life… and telling me how it is… lol… you are awesome… many hugs..

i have just re read the email that i was sent on how linda stated that her and the attorney will come to me… as she asked if i could get out to albany.. which is an hour away… telling her how my car got hit by a drunk driver and totaled and how my parents stole my money from the insurance.. the only option would be a bus.. and even taking a bus here for 20 minutes, the bumps totally kill me…

i was just re reading the email that i pasted above.. she states that the attorney and her will come out to me…

omg… these people are angels…

thank you anothernikki… hugs

that they do… this is my very first miracle in my life… and let me just say… i will never be greedy about them.. and this one miracle is enough for a life time…

and yes, there are many angels in this world… and i want to make sure that.. just because no one has been able to help me physically such as linda, you all are my angels because you all have helped me in many different ways through all of this…

Richard cor de lyon wrote:
Love is on your side Tammy… as are all of us. I’m very excited about all this. I know you have had some bad experiences, but try with all your heart not to think of them. Focus on and appreciate the successes of what is in front of you NOW. It can and will happen for you. You have a ton of great vibes coming your way from all of us :)

It’s kinda interesting … my blog just yesterday was about Miracles :)

with all my love and bright blessings ~
Richard

i will keep that in mind…. thank you… and i am very aware of all the precious people here at help.com.. you all are truly amazing… thank you..

dizzydaisy wrote:
Omg shie! That is SO AMAZING! It brought tears to my eyes and music to my ears… Can’t wait til you get those kids back!! hehe.. YAY!! *hugs*

oh.. let me tell you… when they are in my arms.. many many many pictures will be posted to a very large post here… lol… i cant wait to share everything with all of you…

smoogie. wrote:
Oh shie….Can I used your hanky after you?..See what PMA does!!! Love and laughter to you…XXxx

hahahahahhaaha… not sure you want something that is really soggy with tears… lol.. but i can find another one for ya… lol

bluflames83 wrote:
wow thats great! i hope this all works out..

thank you hun… meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee tooooooooooooooooooooo.. :)

ɐʇɐɯɹǝɟ.Suc wrote:
OMG *hugs hugs hugs*

*hugs hugs hugs*

i tolddddddd youuuu you used up all your bad luck

thank you…. i absolutely love hugs… and yes, you said it… you absolutely said it..

Eugene wrote:
Ireland doesn’t care if it is too early, Ireland goes off and parties to celebrate!

ohhh.. i have always stated that.. when my kids finally come home.. and things get settled.. we will be opening christmas and birthday presents in our halloween costumes with the thanks giving turkey cooking in the oven…. lmfao.. i am going to throw a huge party and invite anyone that wants to come…

smoogie. wrote:
And laughing at his self…”oo” Ireland has been on his own today for too long. I will have a drink with you.

hehehehehe… give me a bottle of jose’ and ill be set… lmfao..

αиgєl♥ wrote:
OMG SHIE! thats great news!!!
been having kinda a weird day and reading that made me smile. im so happy for you!!!
good luck! xoxo

thank you sooooooooooo much… it has brought a huge smile to my face as well… hope your day gets better.. hugs.

beatricegalant wrote:
I am so happy for you shie, it looks like my prayers had been answered for you. I already know you will win the case and will get your children. The best news in your life you could ever have! :-)

ABSOLUTELY…. the best ever… and thank you for all your prayers… i think god has finally heard each and every one of them.. :)

~IBWHOIB~ wrote:
OMG Shie, that’s awesome! I’m so happy there are people out there willing to justify what these people have done to you, me and many, many others! I wish all the luck and goodness in the world! OMG! You gotta tell me more when you find out! :D *Love & Hugs*

i absolutely will… i also have chosen to take some of the money and give it to domestic violence charities.. to help those who can not help themselves.. that is my biggest concern in the world… and to stop CPS and judges from over using their power just because they can…

beatricegalant wrote:
Tell us all, I am so excited and happy for you. Can’t wait to hear the good news. YOu see shie nothing stays in life unjustified especially if innocent children are involved.

you are right.. but 5 years has been ripped from us.. i missed my children turning into teenagers… missed helping my daughter (oldest) go through the changes of being a teen into a young woman… and that ticks me off… but im glad to get them back.. and to learn about their lives while they were gone… and enjoy the rest of the years together happy with out fear… the way it should have always been.

The_Devil_Is_Back wrote:
Thats great shie! *hugs*

i know.. can you believe it???? omg… the reason i found this site was looking for help… needing someone to listen to me… and my story… and look where i am.. a year later with many many great friends and supporters… how wonderful…

TheJDevil wrote:
OMG IM SO HAPPY FOR YOU! I sincerely hope everything works out. omg this makes me excited too!

hehehehe.. i know… lol.. im head over heels in excitement… it could finally be over… and although it could and will take a bit of time to finally get them home… it doesnt matter.. because its going to happen… its really going to happen… and that is what is keeping me smiling and excited like a little kid waiting for santa to come..

thank you everyone for sharing this moment with me.. im sooooooooooooooo excited… many hugs to each and every one of you… love shie.

The_Devil_Is_Back wrote:
I’m so happy for you! u deserve a miracle :)

and that is EXACTLY what this is… a true miracle… something that i have never experienced before… and it feels wonderful…

thank you… many hugs..

you are right beatrice.. i have many many more memories to go through with them… and although im too young to be a grandma.. lol.. i cant wait to see my first grandbaby.. (my oldest is going to be 17, i had her at 16… lol)

you know… once my children come home…. nothing will ever be able to bring me down again… not even this stupid tumor… i will be high on life… and love…

i always gave my children 110% of myself… but the old saying of.. you never know what you have until its gone… boy… that saying is soooo real and so right… because now that i have had 5 years to think about what i had… i never ever want to lose that again… telling roger that my kids can live home until they are old… very very old… lmfao…

lmfao means laughing my f*****g @ss off….

i wont lose my cool with these people as they are trying to help me… not just give up and tell me .. heck with you… the are people who do not tolerate domestic violence… so they are on my side.. the only thing i may lose are my tears as i sit and answer their questions.. but im ok with that.. lol..

and you are right.. i never gave up hope… and would make wishes and prayers all the time.. along with all my trying to get my story out to the world…

my children are my true heros… as it is them that keep me breathing each and every day…

beatricegalant wrote:
And you are my hero too. A mother and a person who went through hell and didn’t lose your hope but became a strong person, fighting illness to top all these….I don’t know another person like you.

awwwww… im sure they do exist out there somewhere…

“somewhere, out there…. beneath the bright blue sky… ” hehehehehhee.. sorry, i love fifel…

Ell♥ wrote:
*sigh* Its making me so happy to know that things are getting better babe. I’m really really hoping this all goes well for you :)

thanks ell… i am sooooooooooo excited… they are having a benefit type thing… $100.00 a plate… free dinner and cocktails… and she has invited roger and i to it.. even going to find a way for him and i to get picked up for it… its on october 3rd… i wrote back to her telling her that i didnt have the $200.00 and she is inviting us as her guest… so it wont cost us a dime… how great is that… to be a guest to something so wonderful.. as celebrating the survival of domestic violence… something that i stand for… survival..

sans wrote:
Darn it, I think I have something in my eye.

hehehehhee.. get your dam* finger out of them… lol.

thank you everyone… i also got a bit more good news today.. a while back, i applied for disability as it states, with the exact tumor that i have, you automatically qualify.. says it right on their site.. well, i was turned down.. and people usually say that you always get turned down the first time.. but this is the second time.. first time, i didnt know i had a tumor.. just that by back killed me…. but this time.. there is absolutely no reason why i got turned down.. in which you then have to go to court blah blah blah.. but its a good 2 year wait… just for the hearing… but anyways… there is an attorney that handles all these cases for free… and i mean, she actually does refuse people but after a 2 month wait, i finally had my appt. today… in which i had her look straight at their website… and was ticked off just as much as i was… when i originally got denied this last time..

anyways… long story short.. she is in tight with the judge and she is going to see if the judge will push my case up as i have more than proof that i deserve it… the great thing about that… they actually owe me over 20 grand and once i get it.. i can fianlly get a car… instead of using the bus system around here…. im soooo excited…

JellyBelly wrote:
No other way to say it, Shie….

WOOOHOOOO!!!!

{HUGS}

lol.. i know… hehehehehhe…

yes it is…. it definitely is…

Ell♥ wrote:
omg thats amazing! It truly is something to celebrate and it is definately something to be proud of.

You should be proud of the way you have overcome domestic violence. 10years of your life was spent with this man who made you suffer. Its time you were able to get some good out of it. Eventually you will get your kids back AND you have a wonderful man by your side to support you.

Can’t help but smile :)

ABSOLUTELY CORRECT…. and yes, im still smiling today…

Richard cor de lyon wrote:
There was post I made quite a while ago… and I got flamed for it a great deal. The post said something to the effect that we grow from the challenges that are in our life. Basically I was flamed for the wording of that post… I think I said something like, “bad things happen to good people because they need them to happen.” OK… so my wording sucked. The point was (and still is)… if we are to grow at all in this life… if we are to reap any rewards in this life… we MUST face challenges. More often then not those challenges will take us out of our comfort zone and even cause suffering. The Buddhist tell us that there is suffering in our life because we have desires. Most Masters have taught us what Richard Bach wrote; “there is no such thing as a problem without a gift in it’s hand, we seek life’s problems, because we want life’s gifts”.

So my question for you Tammy; Do you see the gift of your suffered past? Did all this make you a stronger woman? Did all this make you a more compassionate woman? Please, I’m NOT saying that you asked for Domestic Violence in your life. All I am saying there comes a time when we can be grateful for everything that happens to us. I recently suffered what I consider the worst break up of any relationship I’ve ever had. I tail spun into a depression and I rarely feel depressed - this was my darkest hour. But it was this relationship that taught me MORE than any other relationship has EVER taught me, and I’m grateful for that; I’m grateful for her.
Bright blessings ~ Richard

you are absolutely right… i look back on life now and see that… in a way… it was a good thing that i went through a lot because it HAS taught me valuable things not only for myself and how i treat others.. but to try and help others with my knowledge.. the only thing that i can not understand is… why my children? the one thing in my mind that i know god blessed me with… the only thing that i can think of is… it has to do with the money and providing a great future for my children… but im not a person who lives for money.. i give it away as long as i have what i need in life.. and plan on doing the same… giving some to domestic violence and helping their cause of stopping it… as i feel that that is a destine in my life…

as with your breakup… im so sorry that you suffered a great deal… but you are right.. there are life lessons in everything that we do and have to live through in life…

i just have to figure out why…. why my children?

sans wrote:

Shie wrote:
thank you everyone… i also got a bit more good news today.. a while back, i applied for disability as it states, with the exact tumor that i have, you automatically qualify.. says it right on their site.. well, i was turned down.. and people usually say that you always get turned down the first time.. but this is the second time.. first time, i didnt know i had a tumor.. just that by back killed me…. but this time.. there is absolutely no reason why i got turned down.. in which you then have to go to court blah blah blah.. but its a good 2 year wait… just for the hearing… but anyways… there is an attorney that handles all these cases for free… and i mean, she actually does refuse people but after a 2 month wait, i finally had my appt. today… in which i had her look straight at their website… and was ticked off just as much as i was… when i originally got denied this last time.. anyways… long story short.. she is in tight with the judge and she is going to see if the judge will push my case up as i have more than proof that i deserve it… the great thing about that… they actually owe me over 20 grand and once i get it.. i can fianlly get a car… instead of using the bus system around here…. im soooo excited…

Awesome!

i know.. isnt it….. im still gloating and smiling from ear to ear..

hahahahahahahahaha…..

lol… the only thing that i have so far is that roger and i are going to attend this benefit… she said that she will be in contact shortly…

i will keep you all updated on everything… I PROMISE… as i know you all are just as excited as i am… hehehehehhehe

you are welcome and thank you all for caring about what is going on in my life… you all are my friends and i sooooo appreciate each and everyone of you..

awwwwww… ty…

hugs

hehehehehe.. hugs always get me…. :):):) thank you..

miss_enigma wrote:
More most awesome news Shie! Whoooo hoooooo! Wonerful to hear! You deserve it. :) But you still can’t have burger man…he’s MINE! :P

hahahahahahahaha… burger man rocks… and he is mine… however… we did get into an arguement lastnight about his roaming…

miss_enigma wrote:
Apparently I’m spelling challenged today, I meant to say “wonderful” ..derrrr… :P
I think I just drooled on myself, oh bother.

hahahahahahahahahahahahha…. he is delicious aint he… lmfao

vbr10 wrote:
hello, shie, thank you very much for your support on my story. it was very helpful.
i find it very heart-warming that you have strong interest in helping others through your tough unfortunate experience.
and also, i really hope things works out for you. sorry you had to go through these domestic violence problems. home, for any one, should be the safest, peaceful, nurturing place and you and your children deserve it. great you have some support. hope is on the rising, even if it diminishes at some points, don’t lose faith. i see the real beauty within your strength to survive all these difficult challenges.

please keep telling us how your case progresses. best wishes for you and your children.

thank you hun… i actually find some peace of mind in helping others… whether it be here on the net or in real life.. i have this thing with putting others first before my own issues… i hate to see anyone suffer with grief… even those who have used and abused me (such as my own parents)… i also find that helping others is a great satisfaction for me… it makes me feel good inside… so as for helping you… im very happy to have done so…

i will definitely keep you all updated on my progress and what happens… thanks for being there and helping show me some support… it means a lot to me… hugs.

JellyBelly wrote:
Hi Shie

Just wondering if anything new has happened. I assume probably not, since it is the weekend. But I would love to know what type of help you get.

i will absolutely let you know as soon as i find out… for right now, the attorney is actually working on another huge case… but i was told that once that is over.. she is moving onto mine… im waiting for word on the benefit… im so excited… but i will keep you all updated on what happens next… i promise..

Fizz wrote:
I am sure that I replied, but it seems my response is missing, it’s really weird, unless my brain is just so fried that I am thinking of a whole different post, but I just don’t think so, because I remember reading this post and I remember typing that this is good news to come back to and that I will continue to pray.

thank you fizz.. it is wonderful news… and i have been having a huge smile on my face forever now… and it feels awesome.. glad to hear that you and your family are safe and didnt have much damage with that hurricane..

im not sure… all i know is that she is handling some other big case right this second.. and once that is done.. im next… just hoping that it hurries… lol.. im so excited… the money i could careless about.. its the fact of showing these people that their power over us is not only abusing us .. but is being used in all the wrong ways… and it has to stop..

you are right… just a shame that it took 5 years of my children’s lives for me to finally find one.. but needless to say… im glad i have finally found her..

they have invited roger and i to a benefit… $100.00 a plate.. but has invited us as guests which they are going to pick us up and bring us home with out having to pay for dinner… which i think is awesome.. its talking about domestic violence and such… i told roger.. i want to go.. and that i feel that if we do go… it will show that we really want their help as well.. so he agreed to go… lol.. (for me of course… lol)..

these people are like angels sent to me.. and i have made sure that i told them that…

thank you hun…. meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee too…

UPDATE.. I HAVE JUST RECEIVED AN EMAIL.

Hi Tammy ~~~

I’ve made arrangements for a great woman, Amanda, to pick you up for the Gala!!!! Actually, I was telling her about you, and she insisted on being the one to come for you. Can I give her your email address so that you can connect with her? She is also a survivor and on our board. She is amazing, and I know you will love her. I was hoping that I could meet with you ahead of time, and perhaps see what you need for the event. Amanda wants to make arrangements to pick you up early and maybe have your hair done, etc. What do you think? She can also bring you home. You and your boyfriend - you will come as our guests, and you do not have to pay anything. This will be a great event for you to go to. you will meet really nice people who will be good for you to connect with. Hope you are well.

I will be in touch soon.

ox Linda

now, i know that since they are throwing this gala for $100.00 a plate, it is going to be dressy… me.. not being a dressy person… hehehehehe owns nothing… lol.. roger said that he is taking me shopping on saturday to get a nice outfit..

omg… i feel like a real princess… im sitting here crying because i just cant believe how nice these people are… and how caring they are… with out knowing me at all…

i know….. i feel like a princess in a fairy tale… like i finally matter in this world… i mean.. i know i matter here… but for someone to not know me at alllllll to do this for me.. i just have great big smiles..

The_Devil_Is_Back wrote:
*squeezes shie really hard in a bear hug*I am soooo happy for you!!! :D

thank you… i love my hugs.

thank you.. thank you .. thank you…

well, im off to bed now.. roger has football in the morning.. and i have to be up early.. as i like to go and make fun of them.. hehehehehehhee…. taking pictures and pasting them to my myspace.. lmfao… ill be back later..
(as its now almost 12 30 am.) nighty night.

2greeneyes wrote:
Shie,
All your determination, all your reserch, all your time spent in wondering, all those lost moments. It all shows your character, you have collected and studied and bided your time, get ready girl, your up, your about to sing, and sing from your heart and soul, we wait with baited breath and rejoice at the thought of how you will feel. Love you bud,
greeneyes

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww… thank you greeneyes…

yes, for 5 years i have spent time searching, writing, calling.. and yet nothing… and here.. a simple commercial that i have listened to over and over… and decided to write to… im on cloud 9 right now…

sans wrote:
Yah! Yippee! Hoorah! You should change your user name to Princess Shie!

hehehehehe… im not a dressy person.. i feel like im a clown that everyone stares at… but i will take several pictures and then after the gala, i will be sure to paste a picture and name myself princess shie.. lol..

elysium wrote:
Wooohhooo! That’s excellent news Shie. I’m really happy for you.

thank you elysium… i know.. i have this smile from ear to ear that just wont go away… :)

miss_enigma wrote:
More awesome news, aww that just brings me so much hope, you have no idea! Thanks for sharing this happy time with us Shie. Soak up every second of it, it’s seretonin for the soul.

No you still cannot have burger man. He adores me even though he has a roving eye and a bun fetish, I need to be adored princess, so back off. Don’t make me get out the mustard ;)

i feel awesome… have had a stupid headache all day today.. but you know what… i just dealt with it… and didnt let it bother my mood… it is awesome.. im still smiling…

ok… ill let you have the burger man… ~for now~ but only because his buns are stale… lmfao..

bluflames83 wrote:
wow, getting the star treatment hunh?? thats so great, keep updating us on whats going on..

yes… that is what it feels like… star treatment… i feel soooo special.. and here i thought the miracle of having them tell me that they would help me with the attorney was enough for me… here it keeps going.. and it feels totally awesome..

i will keep you all updated on everything.. and thank you all so much for sharing this awesome time with me.. :)

Ell♥ wrote:
:D :D :D :D
Any news?

just what i have recently written… but will keep you all updated as it comes.

anothernikki wrote:
Oh my god, that brought tears to my eyes!! You will be Cinderella for sure that night!! :)

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww.. i know… im soooo excited..

WELL, IM NOT A PERSON WHO DRESSES UP… and i will not wear a dress… lol.. but i have found an outfit that i feel ok in… i am posting picture above of it.. regular dressy pants with a shirt with pink frill on it… i actually feel ok in it.. a little weird.. but ok.. hope its ok for the gala…

think i was trying to smile in that pic.. but not sure.. but i do know i looked pretty funny.. lol.. what a face.. only a mother could love… hahahahahahaha… wait.. in my case, that isnt true now is it.. hahahaha.. only roger could love… hehehehehehe..

thank you devil…. :)

actually, they are taking me to get my hair done… as for wearing it up… im going to let them do as they please…. except cut it of course.. lol.. trying to get it long again… its actually mid way down my back..

but you are right.. my hair will be done.. this picture was actually taken right before i went to bed.. lol.. i just wanted to know what i looked like.. hehehehehe… explains why i look funny in the pic.. lmao..

hahahahahaha.. yeah… get those nails painted.. hehehehhehe

i know… isnt it.. im soooo excited…

miss_enigma wrote:

Shie wrote:
actually, they are taking me to get my hair done… as for wearing it up… im going to let them do as they please…. except cut it of course.. lol.. trying to get it long again… its actually mid way down my back..

but you are right.. my hair will be done.. this picture was actually taken right before i went to bed.. lol.. i just wanted to know what i looked like.. hehehehehe… explains why i look funny in the pic.. lmao..

hahahahahaha.. yeah… get those nails painted.. hehehehhehe

You don’t look funny at all in the pic! Enjoy being pampered, it can be great once you relax and every time you get a compliment you take it and say thanks and believe it! You are a beautiful person Shie, inside and out…how many people have been through what you have been through and have been so strong and carried on? You deserve this my friend. I’m so happy for you that things are turning around. Gives me hope too so thank you. :)

awwwwwwwwww… ~blushes~ thank you so much…

Ell♥ wrote:
Hun you look absolutely gorgeous!!!!

ty babes…

Jerry_Man wrote:
That’s so great Shie. I hope you can carry your story around and show women in similar situations that coming forward will get a response. Hopefully it will get more attorneys involved in representing the scared small voices. You deserve this Shie.

you are right… hoping that some one will take note that people do not deserve to be beaten… and laws are broken every day.. and cops dont do their jobs…

just another update email for ya all…

Tammy,

One more thing, after speaking with my hairdresser, they are going to give you a massaging scalp treatment and a hand massage while you are waiting for me to finish up my hair. I told her that you haven’t had your hair cut in a while, so think about what you want done with your hair for Friday.
We are okay with whatever you can handle, so you just let me know at any time if anything is too much. I will be in touch. Take care.

Amanda

i totally feel like a princess that is going to be pampered.. ~tear~ i feel awesome inside…

Ell♥ wrote:
omg!!!! What day is the party etc? and what day are you getting all this done?

this friday… i have sent an email asking if i can bring my camera to take pictures… i want to get permission because i dont want to subject anyone with showing pictures.. know what i mean? so im waiting for word on if i can or not..

im a bit scared now though… i have no one to go with me… ugh.. roger cant get the day off from work.. my friend maria who lives upstairs was going to go.. but forgot her cat is getting fixed and she has to be here to pick the cat up when they call… and then, the older lady next door who i play cards with.. she cant go because of being such a long day for her… so now im nervous… i mean, im all excited to go… but being alone is scary…

Devil_on_Earth wrote:

Shie wrote:
just another update email for ya all…

Tammy,

One more thing, after speaking with my hairdresser, they are going to give you a massaging scalp treatment and a hand massage while you are waiting for me to finish up my hair. I told her that you haven’t had your hair cut in a while, so think about what you want done with your hair for Friday.
We are okay with whatever you can handle, so you just let me know at any time if anything is too much. I will be in touch. Take care.

Amanda

i totally feel like a princess that is going to be pampered.. ~tear~ i feel awesome inside…

You deserve this all and more Shie! :)

thank you hun… as for deserving this and more… myself.. i am thinking there are others out there who deserve this… im just lucky i suppose.. i really do feel like a real life cinderella… almost like a dream…

bluflames83 wrote:
wow, thats awesome!! when is this dinner thing?? let us know how it goes..

its this friday… i will make sure i let you all know how it goes.. im hoping that i can take my camera… even if i block out faces.. know what i mean… just so i can share with you all..

i have to say that i am a bit worried though.. because im being picked up at 9 am, and the gala isnt until 6pm.. and who knows what time it ends.. and how im going to feel sitting that entire time… at home.. i can lay down when im hurting a little bit.. and with being picked up.. i have to wait until they are ready to bring me home.. ugh.. so im a bit scared about that part.. i am taking my medication with me just in case i start to get a migraine that tylenol wont work on.. hopefully, i wont have to take it.. hehehehehe.. i get a little loopy with it as its a narcotic… lmfao..

but other than that.. im really excited… just wishing i had someone to go with me.. :(

Tammy,

I talked to Linda and we weren’t sure if you had on outfit for Friday night or not. Linda thought that you had mentioned you did, but if you don’t, we will get you something. Let me know.

Amanda

new email in…

being that this is a gala.. i have absolutely no clue what these people wear.. i have sent her the picture of the outfit i have picked out.. and asked her if that is suitable.. so im waiting to see what she says… will let you know.. but.. i had to paste this email because these people are awesome.. and are treating me like a princess…

Ell♥ wrote:
Yay!! I’m so excited. As for you going alone-you were alone when you were beaten by that man. You were alone when you tried to rescue your kids. and all by yourself you have become a stronger woman.

Through all those really tough times you got through it all alone. Now, although you wil be going there by yourself. You are not alone now more than ever. You have us, you have Rog, you have friends.

You go there and be proud of your strength.

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww… ~tear~ you are right… i can do this.. and im still excited even though i have to go alone.. just have a bit of anxiety brewing.. ugh.. i hate that feeling.. lol. but ill be ok.. once im there..

babacup wrote:
Rogers not going with you?

his job is really retarded.. he is a supervisor and they dont care and wont let him have the day off.. unless he chose to lose his job for going with me..

APPARENTLY, this gala is a black tie venue… ugh.. so the outfit above is not the outfit i will be wearing.. apparently, it has to be a dress…

hahahaha.. me and dresses do not match.. lmfao.. but i guess i will wear one for just this one night.. lmfao..

they are taking me to a special shop to get shoes and a dress..

i feel like a true cinderella.. now.. lets hope that my coach doesnt turn into a pumpkin at midnight… lol. .

ya think so devil.. i hope so…. lol.. however, im hoping that im actually home before then.. .lmfao…

they are picking me up at 9 am.. it starts at 6… going to be a very long day for me… im use to taking a nap.. lmfao..

Ell♥ wrote:
Anxiety is normal. As soon as you walk through that door and see everyone you will feel right at home and you can relax. Remember this Shie, you are an AMAZING woman and you have people trying to look after you and you have all these people running round-they aren’t pampering you for no reason. They think you are a star.

I know what your feeling. Something happens to you and you know that its one of the most awful things ever. But it doesn’t feel like such a big deal to you because its your life. But it is! People are amazed by what you went through. Your story is inspirational. and now its time to celebrate your strength. You were once a woman crushed by this man but you single handedly fought your way to being an independant woman. You will be fine tonight and you will be amazing.

Have a lovely time and good luck!

you are right… or should i say, were right… i had so many people running to me to talk to me, hug me and such… i was the only one there who had a tumor from the abuse… and they all can not believe that something like that could happen.. there was another who was just recently stabbed a few times and still had bandages… so sad that no one seems to care unless someone almost dies… (cops and cps) totally ridiculous on their part..
i have made a post on the gala and invited you all to it.. it is kind of long but if there are any questions, feel free to ask because the length of it is so long, i made it a short narration… lol..

Fizz wrote:
Thanks Raver and wow how exciting!

it truly was…