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PLEASE, I need help badly before tommorow.

So here’s the deal. In the first few days of school, i sat with people i didnt know because i didnt know anyone in my lunch period. I ended up not really liking these guys, but one of them was a freshman who didnt know anyone, like me. So time went on, and i met some people, a girl in particular, and sat with her and the people she was sitting with for a while, and still am i guess. The other freshman from the last table I was at came with me even though i tried to tell him nicely that the table was packed and that we couldnt have him sit with us he said something like “i dont care, ill pull up a seat”. i have nothing against him, other than that he doesnt talk much, so he doesnt have a lot of friends i guess. so time goes on, and when i sit down at the table, people smile and say hi and stuff, but when this other guy sits down with me, they just give him a look, not particularly a friendly one either. i noticed this over a few weeks. when he came to the table, a few other people that were there before had to move to the table next to us. nobody really seemed to care at first. so today, to get to the point, the girl i like and her friend decided to go sit with some other girls who had invited them to sit with them yesterday, because they(the girls who invited the girls who were at our table to their table) didnt want to have room for a guy who wanted to sit with them. hopefully you could follow that, if not, tell me. so at the end of the lunch period, it ended up being me, the kid who was at the last table i sat at, and another guy who was at the second table with the girl i like at the beginning. the other guys who were there moved to the table next to us, and the one girl who was still sitting with us went to the table next to us too. so now, im not sitting with the girl i like, im stuck with this kid who i sat with because i didnt know anyone, who wont talk and make friends, the guys at the table next to us didnt want to come sit with me and the other two kids after the girls left even though there was room, and they said they were going to go sit with the girls, who left. so im thinking that i may walk into the lunch room tomorrow and at the table we’ve been sitting at, see the one kid who i was sitting with at the beginning of the year, and a overpopulated table on the other side of the room, with the girl i like, and all the guys who were at the table i was sitting at. that would make that table more crowded than the table i was at last… god, i dont know what i can do. i ended up being the guy who brought one person too many to the table i guess, and now i cant sit with the girl i want to..and i didnt even invite him, but everyone, even though they didnt say anything, seems to think i did….HELP!!

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bluflames83 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

sorry about the length, hopefully you wont have many questions after reading it..

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GB | 1 year, 2 months ago (7 minutes after post)

sit on your own and see who come to you

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bluflames83 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

WHATABIGNICKNAM wrote:
sit on your own and see who come to you

i dont like that idea. first, the one kid who i sat with at the last table would show up. the girl i like wouldnt. and it would probably end up being me and him, which i dont like the idea of. people have tables they normally sit at at this point..

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WHATABIGNICKNAM offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
GB | 1 year, 2 months ago (12 minutes after post)

ok turn up late so he sould be sat then sit else were

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bluflames83 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (13 minutes after post)

WHATABIGNICKNAM wrote:
ok turn up late so he sould be sat then sit else were

he could move. and sitting by myself cant be the best option. and if my mom finds out, she will yell at me, she has before..

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frances89 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (59 minutes after post)

lol! this story is kind of funny but i see how it could actually be quite troubling.
umm have u got one/some other friend u can say to: hey can u sit with me at lunch cos there’s this guy that doesn’t talk much…? then more people might join, and the balance might gradually be returned…

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bluflames83 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour after post)

frances89 wrote:
lol! this story is kind of funny but i see how it could actually be quite troubling.
umm have u got one/some other friend u can say to: hey can u sit with me at lunch cos there’s this guy that doesn’t talk much…? then more people might join, and the balance might gradually be returned…

i dont think that would work. but i dont know anyone in my lunch period, other than the people i have met..

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frances89 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 4 minutes after post)

well if it’s any consolation u sound like ur doing the right thing by not abandoning this guy- sounds like its hard, but he’s probably worrying and aware that he’s kind of driven these people away. might just be a wait it out thing until you know more people..

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

im not doing the right thing. im selfish and tried to ditch this guy but he wouldnt listen. i doubt he knows hes driven the others people away..

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frances89 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 11 minutes after post)

u clearly are doing the right thing or u would just go and sit with the others. but it sounds like u havent because u felt bad about it. how bout drawing him out of his shell and trying to get him to talk more..

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bluflames83 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

IM NOT DOING THE RIGHT THING!! if i could, i would go sit with the other people, but it would be more crowded and i woudlnt be welcome. i tried to get him to talk, he wont..

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frances89 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

WHOAAH! ok i accept that your not.
he sounds rubbish to be honest, but hes probably just really shy. i have to recommend trying to talk to new people then. how bout talking to someone on a different, less crowded, table and then sitting with them one lunch..

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frances89 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

you could bring your silent friend. it would mean ur more in a group.

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bluflames83 offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 22 minutes after post)

less crowded tables dont happen, and i could end up with juniors or something that dont want me there either, which would be weird..

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frances89 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 29 minutes after post)

arrgh im running out of solutions…
ok. its possible that eventually you’ll get to know the other people better which would mean you would sit with/they sit with you. if there’s no way out at the moment then just try and make the best of ur situation. u could still go over and talk to the others during lunch..

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

ok, so no solution, thanks, thats what i thought, just have to go through it..

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (15 hours, 15 minutes after post)

pray about it and see what happens don’t blame yourself for anything just give it some time and show her you can be a good person in a relationship you know

—movement–

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1 year, 2 months ago (1 day, 20 hours after post)

talk to the girl you like, explain you didnt invite the other guy and most likely shell explain it to other people and you might get invited back to the other table

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