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okay i need advice on how to ask to move out of the house for like 3 or four months, becuase me and my dad are constantly fighting…

to the point whereit has made me so depressed that i have almost killed myself. but not the point, im not now.

anyways, i need to find a way to tell him i want to move out for a while, once i get a job which i am currently looking into for this specific reason. anyways, ill be sixteen once i leave, and it wont be perminent, just so we can both relax. i have this close friend who’s parents wouldent mind letting me stay for a while, and of course i would pay rent for living there for such a long time, and do stuff like yard work, and just normal house work like that for payment of food.

now my questions are, 1. any ideas on how to tell my dad this without starting a fight? (he has started a fight over ketchup in the past)

2. how do i ask my friends parents this and stuff, and when? way before i ask my dad, so i can prove to him that its fine? or after i ask my dad so i dont get them all prepaired for a guest and then nt show up cause my dad is being a dink :)

3.and finally, because my dad threatened to kick meout anyways, what happens if he does kick me out when im sixteen, should i make this plan… like permanent? and keep doing this? because i need a break…but if i get kicked out its going to like… devistate me. seriously i will be in a really depressed mood worse then before.

so yea, this is what i need to do, because at this rate… im going to break down if i dont get a break and my breakdowns are… not good. but dont worry about that now.

answer my questions, i promised that same friend, that i would talk to her first, and yea. i love her so i wouldent just do it without talking to her first.

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1 year, 2 months ago (10 minutes after post)

When my dad kicked me out, I went into the bathroom, locked the door, and cleaned the toilet with his toothbrush. After that, I packed up and left. I never saw him again and this happened six years ago. Hopefully he’ll have a debilitating stroke or something.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (22 minutes after post)

well i dont think that would be the best way for me to go, i want to try to keep any relationship i have left. he was nice to me before i moved in so yea, i mean i have a small enough family as it is.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (39 minutes after post)

anyone?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 day after post)

well do u have a mom?? maybe u could c if she would ask him….if not then just say ” Dad i figured i’d get out of your hair for a little bit….You and me both know that we need a break….not permanent or anything just a short while, I’ve already arranged it with a friend….dont worry this wont affect my grades or anything and im not trying to run away i just think we could use a little bit of a break” hows that sound? i dont think that, that would cause to much of a problem

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 day, 2 hours after post)

i have a mom, who doesent live with my dad. and she is an alsoholic drug dealer… so dont think i will be asking her anything lol.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 days, 2 hours after post)

i dont think you should leave at all with out tring to figure out why you two are fighting in the first place. if you keep your cool whats he going to do argue with himself? my father used to beat me and my mother took his side everytime, i ran away and they forced me to come back, until i went to job corps. now i have two kids and i also have a relationship with both my parents

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 days, 20 hours after post)

chrisncai wrote:
i have a mom, who doesent live with my dad. and she is an alsoholic drug dealer… so dont think i will be asking her anything lol.

true well just don’t move out take a leave you both need a temporary break but thats iit not a permanent one just talk calmly about spending a week or two with a friend after those to weeks, if things go well you can ask for more time or move back in…

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 days, 23 hours after post)

yea thats what i mean lol. except i was going to stay for a month or two, and just visit and like have supper at my dads so we can just stay calm and stuff.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 week after post)

well just start out asking for a week or two and when those go well ask for more its alot less invasive if you ease into it

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 week, 1 day after post)

As for asking your friend’s parents….a word to them from your friend would be a good start. This would be a way of testing the waters, so to speak.
You could get feedback, either positive or not.

If your friend says they would consider it, you would then approach the parents and explain your situation. You must not lie to them, as they would be trusting you if you were allowed to stay. Answer all their questions truthfully.

Personally, I would work harder at getting along with your Dad. Ask him outright what he expects of you. Between you, and open conversations, you should be able to get along.

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