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what do I do?

The girl I love wont go out with me because shes afraid that if we did go out and then after a while we broke up it wud ruin our friendship?She rejected me a week ago and it broke my heart!it became worse when i found out what she said was a cover up!she is just afraid and dosent no how to feel,she has never gone with a lad before and she realy values my friendship!I realy care about her and i couldent live with my self if i hurt her!she was destroyed when she said no!but i love her and i cant and wont give up on her!how do i get her?how do i make her feel comfortable enough with me for her to tell me how she truly feels and how do i convince her that if i could be friends with her after what happened last week that even if we did break up that we could pull threw together?I need her in my life as a friend or more,I no her a long time and she is a part of me!i need to do what i can without hurting her!….thank you very much!

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tanya2731 offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Greensboro, NC, US | 1 year, 2 months ago (2 minutes after post)

aww thats really sweet..and sad at the same time.
i would just say, give her time:) she should come around. but if not, im sure youll find someone else. so dont give up. hang in there:)

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tanya2731 offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Greensboro, NC, US | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 minutes after post)

but if u rly like her, i would just say, give it time:)

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Badassscop offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Thanks to both of you!

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tanya2731 offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Greensboro, NC, US | 1 year, 2 months ago (7 minutes after post)

ur welcome …..so, dont be down:) just remember that God dos have some1 special for you. ttys…and if u need me, give me a shout:)

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Badassscop offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

likewise!goodbye and thanks again!

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tanya2731 offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Greensboro, NC, US | 1 year, 2 months ago (9 minutes after post)

anytime:) happy to help

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phuckit! offline Verified User (1 year, 5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (32 minutes after post)

Talk to her. Tell her what you really enjoy in life, what gets you excited and what you want to leap out of bed to pursue. Ask her what she really loves in life and what gets her excited. Be positive. If you have had a bad day, still greet them with pleasure and a big smile. Most importantly, listen.

Be romantic. The stereotypical icons of romance (roses, candles and chocolate) can only go so far. Think about what really gets that special someone excited. Recognize what makes her unique, and find/do things for them that only they would appreciate. What are her quirky (perhaps secret) interests, obsessions and fantasies? Whenever she’s shopping, talking, or watching a movie, what makes her eyes light up? Pay attention! Being romantic means acknowledging how special a person is, and that means demonstrating that you know–better than anyone else in the world–what makes her unique

Compliment her. If you really like this girl, you probably appreciate a lot of things about her. Why not let her know? If anything is different or new (her hairstyle, nail polish color, shirt), make note of it. The more unique the compliment, the better received it will be, unless she’s shallow. Most girls like being complimented on something that makes them distinct, not something that plenty of other girls have. If you compliment her appearance, try to be original. Better yet, compliment her personality or skills.

Make her laugh. Telling jokes or funny stories is the classic way to make a person laugh, but not the only one. Find out which are her favorite comedians, funny movies, or sitcoms. Watch them with her. Be bold and think of some antics that’ll make her laugh. Tell her to dare you to do something, then do it (as long as it’s not dangerous or illegal, of course).

Break the touch barrier. There are several ways to touch a girl without being sleazy. Hold her coat while she puts it on. Offer her your hand when she’s stepping on an uneven surface. Hold out your elbow so she can link arms with you as you walk together. Hold out your hand so you can lead her through a crowd. Rub her hands when they’re cold. These are all polite ways to get a little closer without being creepy. Still, if you see any signs of discomfort, stop! Otherwise, she’ll probably enjoy the affection.

Take your time. Don’t be pushy or needy. Continue courting her by following the steps above, but don’t rush things. If you end up in a relationship with this girl, she’ll always remember how you made her feel when you were just getting to know each other. Make her feel appreciated, not invisible or smothered.

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Badassscop offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (47 minutes after post)

Thanks alot!your being more helpful than you cud ever imagine!

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