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k this really isnt about love its about life.

sometimes i feel like i dont know who i am anymre, i am a single mother to a beautiful four year old lil boy. i still live in the town that i was raised in and so does my sons father. though he is not there for my son financially my son loves his daddy very much. i on the other hand am completely unhappy here and want to move so bad. i find myself crying for no reason alot and cant seem to feel content at all. i hate it here and i feel trapped. i could moe but then i fear my son will hate me for taking him from his daddy. i have considered leaving him here to be with dad but even the thought kills me. how can i make myself be content without hurting myself or my little boy.

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littlenick offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 134 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Being a single mom must be hard. You don’t want to leave because you don’t want your son to hate you? Maybe you harbor hopes that you might get back together with his daddy. I don’t know. But, if you keep on making excuses for you to try to find your own happiness then maybe you need to see a professional. Children at four years old are very resilient and most of the time their memory fades as time goes by. Do you want to leave your son with his daddy to improve your chances of meeting someone or do you just care too much that you really would consider leaving your son with his father so they won’t get separated. Sounds as if you are miserable and that is why you find yourself crying all the time. Give yourself a chance to be happy and maybe meet someone else. But, if you really need to change your environment to help yourself feel better and find the love and happiness that you want to find, I say go for it. As far as taking your son with you, that’s a decision you are going to have to make and live with. Just make sure is one you don’t regret one way or the other.

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neto1110 offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (49 minutes after post)

i have sometimes wondered about the possibility of my ex and i getting back together yes. but not for me. for my son. i feel bad for him because i know he needs both of us. i have a boyfriend and most of the time i am happy with him. i just feel that there is so much more out there. the town i live in is so fll of drugs and underage drinking that i am scared for my son. it is really hard for me to think what he might grow up to be like if i keep him here. there are no oppurtunitys for youth in this town. i tried to see if his dad would be willing to re locate but he likes the drugs and this town. i just want more for my son then i had and it is so hard to make it here. i do not want to seperate my son and his father. or my son from the rest of our family.i guess i just feel like my life will never be content here but my sons life is. i want to him to feel as though he can do anything and succeed. unlike the way i feel

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