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i need help with a friend.

she is a good friend of mine and she is going through a rough time. she came back home from college to be with her family. it turns out that her mom tried killing herself by running the car inside her garage. her little brother was the one that saw pretty much saved her from carrying out what she was planing. my friend is the oldest of the siblings and she is almost like another mother to her siblings. her mom has a history of depression and is being treated for it but i guess she is still having trouble dealing with it. my friend has told me that i am the only person who she has ever told that to( about that specific problem) and that she trust me more than anyone. that being said i dont know what i can say to comfort her. i dont know what its liek to be in her shoes as much as i try to comfort her i know there isnt a word i can say that will make it better. i told her ill be there for her but the biggest problem is i am 2000 miles away. ahhhhhh!

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

If there is now way to reach her, then just keep talking online. It’s better then nothing.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (10 hours, 54 minutes after post)

She is for sure troubled understandably, just being a good listener, can make all the difference. Tell her your there for her any time she wants to unload on you.Can you give her some suggestions to be of assist to her and for her mom? Bottom line she is very much going to be affected, it’s her mom.Try to be as supportive as you can, and keep in touch often. Would be nice if the two of you could invest in a web cam to at least give her the sense your closer then you are.If not, just be available to her.Words of support and comfort can go along way.So sorry for this sad and horrific news.Prayers to you and your friend!!!!

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1 year, 2 months ago (13 hours, 25 minutes after post)

thanks guys. i mean i knwo its affecting her a lot but she denies that its affecting her too much. she is a strong girl but i think more than anything she hides it under the rug. i told her that it isnt good to be bottled up and that she shouldnt pretend to be alright. but she is so busy with school that i think she feels like she doesnt have room for emotions and even more so because no one is there at her college for her. i mean the fact that i am the only one she trust with that knowledge of her history of family problems makes me want to be there even more for her. it seems like ever since she started college she has been swamped with problems. first me and her kinda had a thing leading into the year that we were trying to kinda workout (it didnt really for obvious reasons) and then she is having trouble keeping up in school since she thought it would be a good idea to take 6 really hard courses and then she got a boyfriend and they break up but now shes telling me that there is a possibility that she is pregnant and then this thing comes along with her mom being depressed. its just like “wow, what do i do?”

i just wish she would have never left for college. summer had such better days.

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