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Well i’ll go thru my situation:
im a 15 year old boy and i live with my mom and three older brothers. Last april i moved away from my dad and now i live one town over. i want to live with my dad but everyone is against it. he suffers from schizophrenia and at the moment isn’t that bad. if i moved over there i could help with as much asi could and i’d get more freedom for myself. but when i brought it up to my mom and brothers they shot me down like a bird, they came up with : im too young, its a burden living there, i can’t take care of my self, i can’t go over there and stay up with my grade. i also had a drug problem that screwed me over a lot, now im clean but if i lived over there i would be tempted to start back up.

what i need help with is, can you help me find any points, or suggestions of what i should say next time i talk to my mom about this?

when they went against every point i brought up, i couldn’t think of anything to reply with, so might as well be prepared next time.

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berta 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (9 minutes after post)

you can’t come up with any good comebacks cuz there is none. i understand that you want to help your dad but you are still a teenager who needs to be the child. i know you say no but i was there… i was 14 taking care of my bipolar manic depressive mom with the drug problem to get away. all in all i wish i could have just been a kid, gone to school, and had my friends. visiting is fine but really a stable home is what you really need

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (16 minutes after post)

I think your mom and brothers are only trying to have your best interest at heart.Did you get into the drug scene where your dad is living?Don’t you get reg. visits with your dad? I can understand your wanting to see your dad, however if he has the medical condition as you said, at any time he could become unstable.Your mom and brothers can’t all be wrong about thinking your best where your at.in a few short years you’ll be 18 and free to go and live where you want. Unfortunately for now, your mom holds the reigns.

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (21 minutes after post)

berta wrote:
you can’t come up with any good comebacks cuz there is none. i understand that you want to help your dad but you are still a teenager who needs to be the child. i know you say no but i was there… i was 14 taking care of my bipolar manic depressive mom with the drug problem to get away. all in all i wish i could have just been a kid, gone to school, and had my friends. visiting is fine but really a stable home is what you really need

I do realize it might deter and harm my life, i still go to school, have friends but my dad is still always on my mind, and i wish i could work around it.

seas light wrote:
I think your mom and brothers are only trying to have your best interest at heart.Did you get into the drug scene where your dad is living?Don’t you get reg. visits with your dad? I can understand your wanting to see your dad, however if he has the medical condition as you said, at any time he could become unstable.Your mom and brothers can’t all be wrong about thinking your best where your at.in a few short years you’ll be 18 and free to go and live where you want. Unfortunately for now, your mom holds the reigns.

I see there view point as clear as a (insert crappy analogy) and i got into the negative scene before, when we all lived together, and i do visit but with school its impossible to see my dad. i know i could get out if i was 18, but i don’t know if he will even stay around for that long. like i stated about, i wish there was any way i could get around it

thanks for the reply’s keep em comming if you feel

berta 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (25 minutes after post)

it isn’t your job to save your parent, you are the child. you don’t know if he will be around that long…you are already saying its an unstable situation. you have the weekends off from school so go on the weekends for visits. a town away is only a min away.

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (32 minutes after post)

recently i fractured my ankle and i can’t tell him ,since he’ll get paranoid ,a side effect of his mental illness. i know it isn’t my job, and I’m not obligated to help but how can i sleep at night when my father is in a crap neighborhood, not being able to cook, and just the mental suffering of what he’s going through. if i could be there it would help him so much, i just can’t convince my mother

berta 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (40 minutes after post)

i know you feel you need to help him but he is a grown adult who needs to get the help and meds that he needs to get thru his life as normally as possible

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (50 minutes after post)

If your dad as you said is doing better, then I’m sure he is being seen by a mental health professional.There are associated with the treatments depeding on how bad he is that allow for assistance to go into the home and provide services. meals can be delivered,transportation is provided many aids are available to him. So I would kindly suggest you focus on you and in the future you will be more of a help to him once you can get a decent job etc. all by which staying in school will do.

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4 years, 8 months ago (51 minutes after post)

Take up bowling or chess or something and get really really good. After you’ve made a pile of money, tell all the morons in your life to f-off. Otherwise, I guess just learn to deal with it.

berta 1 #
An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (53 minutes after post)

oh that was a big help

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An Undisclosed Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (2 hours, 53 minutes after post)

Oh, hun, I feel so bad for you. You just love your dad and want to help him through life as he struggles along the way. I understand that you have a caring heart and want to help someone you love. But I will have to agree with the earlier posts that it’s better that you continue to be a child, at least for the time being, and let him deal with his own problems and issues.

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An Unknown Location | 4 years, 8 months ago (16 hours, 58 minutes after post)

Alright, i just wanted to see if there was a way around that i wsn’t seeing, and i guess there isn’t o well i guess i’ll have to wait, nothing more i can do. its a crappy feeling when your helpless

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