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I am so sorry for your loss, sweetie. I too have lost my children, and I can’t express to you how much I know it hurts. It’s been almost 6 years and just 5 years (I lost 3) for me and it still hurts.

There’s not really much advice I can give then just to give you the advice to be gentle with yourself and let yourself heal over time. Time doesn’t heal the deepest of wounds, but it at least patches them up. In the meantimes, you’ve found the right place if you need some support, the first year is always the hardest. If you need a shoulder or anything, we’re here.

We will be reunited with loved ones. It is hard to be apart from them while we journey through this life, but we must remember that each life has its own journey to make. Even so, we may journey together for most of the way. Find some fellow wanderers at a local church, and share your joys and tribulations, and lean on each other. And know that God is with you every step of the way.

*Hugs* srry i have no idea what that must be like

Hello, your daughter is in a good safe place now. You have an opportunity when the pain is gone to be a legacy to her and those that loved her.

Her life was not in vain. She brought love into your life and showed you what it is like to be a mother. Through her eyes she showed you a love and a trust and a bond that no one can take from you.

Take those memories and allow them to heal you. Perhaps when you are ready you can share your love lost with other parents who are going through what you are. Maybe you can be a support for someone who has no one after loosing thier child. Your life is meant to be lived and has not reached its full purpose yet. You are a light shining brightly for someone else you have not met yet.
You have discovered love, and now you have to release it, let it go and share it. This death was not personal, although you personally have been involved and you feel it’s grip on your life.
There are people who need you and who need your help to get through this loss. Please do not feel like you now have no reason to live. You lived before she came along, and now that she has come into your life, she passed on some wonderful traits and she opened your heart up where it had never been open to such possiblity before. Now that she opened up the door, it has to remain open to other forms of love, and other possiblities of love. Perhaps when the timing is right, you will become a mother again… You are loved in so many ways, and loss is hard to bear, but you will get through this. Don’t close yourself to potential, when you have been blessed by it.
Many people do not get the chance to learn and discover what love is, I know myself If I had the opportunity to have a child again, the second chance I would cherish with every fibre of my being… ( I have been given that chance and it’s one I have not regretted)
God Bless, and stay strong… just take each day as it comes… I’m here if you need to chat.

You are not alone in your pain sweetheart. Its hard to see the future without her, but she will be travelling with you throughout your life. You will be a stronger woman for knowing her.

God bless you. The Lord will ease your pain. Pray.