friends help: I am kinda confused about somthing…There is this girl that

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I am kinda confused about somthing…

There is this girl that i like (she is also my friend too), but its a little more complicated then just saying that im too shy to tell her. So sit back relax a listen to my rant. First a little explination about her. she is the same age i am, but go to different school (colleges), but she wants to try to transfer to my school cause she went to a community college so now she is transfering. anyway i like her but here is the thing she like someone else (the someone else is my friend who i dont think realizes this) here comes the zinger the my friend all ready as a girl friend. so to recap a little i like a girl who likes my friend who has a girl friend all ready. now at this point your probly saying why do i bother with her? well here comes somthing else we went to the same highschool (this was like 3 years ago). anyway sometime a little after we graduated someone had told me that she did like me in highschool, and i after that i kinda noticed that she treated me a little differently then our other friends (cause we have alot of the same friends). i mean she does still treat me different then our other friends still, but i dont see it as much. The funny thing is she has trusted me to the secret that she likes my friend. And now she wants me to help her apply to my school (which i dont mind cause then i get to see her more offten). Now what i dont understand is that she keeps harping my friend cause she likes him and is pissed and really saddend by this too (supposidly something happened between them one summer and then when school stared he began to date this other girl). I dont think anything serious happend (maybe a kiss but thats it) but she keep harping on it and it makes her sad and i hate seeing her this upset i really do. So what should i do???

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JAG10 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (7 minutes after post)

what you should is wait untill she is in your school so you can doo more together. you two would have more of those moments, the same as she had with your friend, and she will like you more, and then you should ask her out

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (12 minutes after post)

i had this happenen to me too. someone whoi lived in a diff town i didnt only like, but i loved alot, and i helped her family chose a house there, cause she wanted to move there really bad. exept i introduced her to my best friend. i told her about my feelings, and my best friends that i loved her, but i didnt spend enough time with her i guess. and she ended up falling for my best friend and not me at all, cause my friend (despite knowing i liked her alot) was hitting on her, and had sex with her and stuff (half of the time he was in a relationship). so yeah. i guess time spent with someone is important. i know i made that mistake (im sure there were a few others) i dont want you to make the same one, cause im still kinda trying to get over it, and it happened like 2 years ago. sorry for making you read alot lol

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JAG10 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (14 minutes after post)

so take advantage of time spent with her, but dont over do it. thats the best advice i can come up with right now. im sure alot of other ppl can give better ones but yeah

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zimbobwa 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (19 minutes after post)

JAG10 wrote:
what you should is wait untill she is in your school so you can doo more together. you two would have more of those moments, the same as she had with your friend, and she will like you more, and then you should ask her out

hmmm thats if she even gets into my school (i think she will, but you never know).

JAG10 wrote:
i had this happenen to me too. someone whoi lived in a diff town i didnt only like, but i loved alot, and i helped her family chose a house there, cause she wanted to move there really bad. exept i introduced her to my best friend. i told her about my feelings, and my best friends that i loved her, but i didnt spend enough time with her i guess. and she ended up falling for my best friend and not me at all, cause my friend (despite knowing i liked her alot) was hitting on her, and had sex with her and stuff (half of the time he was in a relationship). so yeah. i guess time spent with someone is important. i know i made that mistake (im sure there were a few others) i dont want you to make the same one, cause im still kinda trying to get over it, and it happened like 2 years ago. sorry for making you read alot lol

dont worry about the long post especially after i made you read my rant. but yea i can see y your still a little upset. um but as for hanging out with her as of right now i see her usually every weekend and i talk to her alot on AIM. it seems that she comes to me with her problems too (like with the application thing to school and with this problem)

JAG10 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (41 minutes after post)

thats good you talk to her alot then. hopefuly shed be able to go to your school. try to spend a good amount of time with her if she does come, and do something youd both enjoy doing.

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zimbobwa 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (50 minutes after post)

yea i actually got her to start teaching me to play the drums, but that kinda stopped when school started, but i will try more often

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spiratec9 8 #
Burnaby, BC, CA | 1 year, 1 month ago (2 hours, 17 minutes after post)

when you see her in one of her moods just walk right up to her and give her
a big long hug and while your hugging her whisper into her ear”I don’t like
to see you feeling this way”.hug the longer the better.pay attention as to how
she huggs you back.thats important.

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☆miss lilies☆ 272 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (3 hours, 57 minutes after post)

This girl needs you more than she knows. So there is nothing else you can do other than not stopping being her friend. But limit the attention you give her. You don’t want to make her confuse on her feelings towards the guy and her feelings towards you later on if in case she would begin to notice you liker her more than a friend.

Your gentleness would win her heart. If that won’t happen, at least you have become a nicer person.

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zimbobwa 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (12 hours, 38 minutes after post)

spiratec9 wrote:
when you see her in one of her moods just walk right up to her and give her a big long hug and while your hugging her whisper into her ear”I don’t like
to see you feeling this way”.hug the longer the better.pay attention as to how
she huggs you back.thats important.

well shes not really the type of person who gives hugs out so i think doing that would kinda freak her out lol.

~lilies~ wrote:
This girl needs you more than she knows. So there is nothing else you can do other than not stopping being her friend. But limit the attention you give her. You don’t want to make her confuse on her feelings towards the guy and her feelings towards you later on if in case she would begin to notice you liker her more than a friend.

Your gentleness would win her heart. If that won’t happen, at least you have become a nicer person.

hmmmm that does make a lot of sense. you always know the right thing to say :)

zimbobwa 9 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 1 month ago (17 hours, 54 minutes after post)

any other ideas ppl?

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