life help: I feel so unsuccessful and a failure at life so much lately.

sparkydannyman

I feel so unsuccessful and a failure at life so much lately.

I struggle with not being masculine enough and it blows.

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Doctor Hu :) 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Who says you need to be more masculine? I may be mistaken, but I believe gender specific behavior is learned through the society in which you live. It’s not necessarily encoded into your genes that you should behave in a stereotypically male way. You are who you are.

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sparkydannyman 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

So in english- you’re saying that I shouldn’t feel bad about how unmasculine I am?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (7 minutes after post)

yes ! well put doc

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sparkydannyman 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

even physically? I ain’t as buff as others. I don’t have a body to impress a girl. It’s sad really.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (10 minutes after post)

you dont need a bod to impress a girl…..all you need is to ‘chop em up some game, and brake em off some’

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (11 minutes after post)

…..or just be yourself women love that

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (12 minutes after post)

how does someone be themselves when they care so much to the point of willingness to be discontent only for everyone else to be happy?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (16 minutes after post)

you lost me there …alll i can say is Who cares what everyone thinks!!!! people said eistein was a DUmb*** but he became the worlds most intelligent man

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (27 minutes after post)

_noT_a_XD0cX wrote:
you lost me there …alll i can say is Who cares what everyone thinks!!!! people said eistein was a DUmb*** but he became the worlds most intelligent man

Sorry, Have to say that that was way irrevelant. And honestly, I’m right there with you. I’m not a big football player, I’m not tall and big. I have huge legs, so my *** is freaking huge. You think girls like that? Not really. My arms are small, but tone. People think I’m weak, girls don’t think I’m great lookin. Honestly, who cares? It doesn’t matter if all girls like you, the ones who look at the body first are fake, they will be the ones who hurt you. They will be the ones to make you feel terrible. Go after average girls who are cool, don’t worry about the body, worry about communication and stuff. Trust me, if all you worry about is the body your relationships will be crap. So just relax, talk to your friends, flirt on some chicks, don’t over persue though. And don’t worry, oppertunities will present themselves to you.

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Srinh 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (4 hours, 41 minutes after post)

Things are changing. Girls are liking the metrosexuals, quite a bit. Because they are unimposing. Do you know studies have shown, that women prefer to get raise children with more sensitive men, vice more “manly” men? I personally, am not attracted to overly macho guys. I like the sensitive, quitely confident type. So, don’t worry. You are who you are. And the fact that you are concerned, means that you are giving thought to attracting women…which means that you are going to learn techniques to make you more attractive to women also. Good luck! But I’m sure you won’t need it…you have determination instead. :)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (21 hours, 54 minutes after post)

Thank you so much everyone for helping me out. I’m a little more confident and content.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 day, 15 hours after post)

sparkydannyman wrote:
Thank you so much everyone for helping me out. I’m a little more confident and content.

No prob…that’s what we’re here for. Thank you for the opportunity to feel useful. LoL. See ya around.

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