Love help: Rough patch or Over? - Help.com

hmmmm… i find it hard to believe that you did the wrong thing asking him to leave. sometimes, it is important to express how you feel rather than suffering in silence.

generally speaking, i think that when someone says he’s “not sure” if he loves you anymore, that is really code for either (1) “i know i don’t love you anymore” or, a somewhat different shade, (2) “i do love you but i don’t want to be with you.” many people have trouble understanding (2), but that is possible. “not sure” doesn’t make sense, no matter how much he insists. anyhow, if you’re going to break up under conditions where he is the one losing interest, i think it is important for your self-esteem for you to be the force that makes the decision to actually separate. particularly if he’s giving you this gutless “not sure” business.

on the other hand, it also is important to understand what is happening. i think couples who drift apart often do that because each person doesn’t understand the (sometimes initially minor) doubts that the other person has - and then the chasm just keeps getting wider.

Oh, there are many reasons for not wanting to be with the one you love. Living in an uncomfortable situation, for instance. It might be too difficult for him to be living with your parents. He may feel less capable and less manly under your parents’ roof. Also, you may be feeling a little less than womanly in the bed you slept in as a child. A little privacy might spark new interest in a love that is less warm than it once was. Not knowing you and your boyfriend, these are only guesses at what might have contributed to the problems you and your boyfriend have experienced.