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I just don’t understand why!

My boyfriend broke up with me in February because we were unable to find time together, but we kept in touch in the hope of a future reconciliation. Seven months on, I haven’t seen him, bar two passing encounters. Everytime I tried to arrange something, he had an excuse. But I hung on. Not long ago, I developed feelings for a close friend of mine and we’re now seeing each other. He treats me so amazingly, he’s so good to me, and it made me see sense with my ex, so I severed ties with him. He hit the roof, calling me all sorts. Then later, he was full of apologies, but I was done. That was about three weeks ago, and ever since, he’s been texting me, maybe one message every couple of days. I haven’t replied, I refuse to. But he’s texting me during the night, not apologising, just stuff like ‘what’s up?’ ‘Hey’ ‘Why so quiet?’, and then this morning, at 5.35am, ‘are you awake?’ I keep my phone on incase of emergencies. I just don’t get why he’s doing this, after being so horrible to me, and acting like he wasn’t interested anymore. Does he want me because he can’t have me?

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Dorian Valentine offline Verified User (5 months) Long Term User Shouts: 43 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (6 minutes after post)

That’s certainly what it sounds like - it’s one thing to leave someone and know they’re on their own, but things change when it looks like they’re moving on more quickly than you are. I’d just tell him to stop texting you at really awkward hours, and the more he pesters you the more he’ll drive you away. If all else fails, ring your phone service provider and have them block his number.

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Sans offline Verified User (11 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 182 #
An Unknown Location | 3 months, 2 weeks ago (4 hours, 31 minutes after post)

Yes, tell him to just leave you alone, that you have found someone else. He had his chance.

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