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If you like the sight of blood (a lot do), paint your hands red. It’ll give you some satisfaction.

have you told anyone? (other than the people here)

Focus on what you have, not on what you don’t have. Focus on what you can do, as opposed to what you can’t. Pinpoint the source that brings you down. Pinpoint why you feel either unwanted, rejected, useless or meaningless. Recognize the difference between LIES and TRUTHS. If you feel bitter after hearing about something, it may be connected to a lie.

Determine whether or not cutting is an escape route.

Who’s in control? If it’s really you, you won’t cut.

Put the knife away.

one of my closests friends cut because like you if gives her some sort of control. allows her to feel instead of being numb. sometimes she does it because she feels she doesnt deserve to be happy, other times, its because she needs to feel something other than sadness.

First, figure out why youre doing it.
Second, you need lots of determination.
Third, you need lots of help and support from friends and family is you feel comfortable telling them.

southern_comfort wrote:
Put the knife away.

Exactly. Your question Moey is like asking somebody “How do I walk?”

Have you considered going to counseling to help you stop and work through what you are feeling? It’s hard to lose someone you love, maybe just talking about it could help. We can all listen and support you.

Moey10 wrote:
My mother died last year I haven’t taken it well I guess I just like having something that let’s me be in control and express how I feel I don’t like blood I like the pain an numbing of the feeling

Maybe you just need to talk it all over, were here for you :)

my friend writes, or draws, or even uses red ink on her skin as a visual instead of blood. but she also has me to talk it out too.

Listen to music. I do that when I’m angry. Music isn’t going to tell me I suck.

Devil_on_Earth wrote:

Moey10 wrote:
Exactly I need a another outlet to the numb feeling

honey, don’t numb the feeling by hurting yourself! Get active, and swim or run or something else and make the pain go away through sweat and hard work

That sounds good.

Moey10 wrote:
Exactly I need a another outlet to the numb feeling

You could try to keep your hands busy with other things, a stress ball, an elastic band…

Moey10 wrote:
You can’t just stop and put it away ur so not helpful I need a true answer please I can’t put it away if it’s a thing I need like water

Find an alternative, like listening to music, reading, etc.

its gonna take time moey. its been two months since my friend told me she cut and she has cut for three years. she is seeing a counsler but rarely. its not easy. its going to be a long road. you have to hold on for the ride. you will eventually learn that your in control, its just you vs the desires in your head. You have to realize the impact that your cutting will have on everyone close to you. What if you mess it up and kill yourself? are you ready to lose what you have? are you ready to effect the people around you in that way? find a close friend to talk to about it. They wont create an ultimatum or anything like that. just tell them you need them to listen. that you need their help.

You need to stop thinking that it’s what you need, you don’t need it. Write that out on a piece of paper over and over right now if that will help and believe it, you do not need to hurt yourself to deal with pain.

Ofcourse it takes time. I get it, we all are just trying to help because we care. What can we do to help you then?

Read what I said earlier… I hope it helps at least a little…

Moey10 wrote:
I can’t put it away if it’s a thing I need like water

Even water is a temporary satisfaction. There’s one thing everyone needs…. sometimes they have to get to a very low spot to find it. Message me if you want to know: jesse (dot) prudhomme (at) gmail (dot) com

if you need to do it, what makes you need to stop? in no way am i telling you to cut. but in order to find out how to stop you need to know exactly why to stop, and exactly why you do it, or why you started

Moey10 wrote:
I’m sry it’s just that I know I need to stop but just having someone tell just stop dosent help I’m sry

Don’t be sorry, it is heartbreaking to see you go through this is all. Sometimes people don’t know what to say but we want to say something. It’s just from caring.

what else have you tried to do to release this feeling?

Moey10 wrote:
Um yeah do anyof you get that it’s an addiction not a choice I can’t just stop and move on like that it takes time and odviously your wasteing urs sry for the bother

Do you get that you do not know the truth of how to solve this problem, that you are probably wrong about something, and any one of the seemingly incorrect things that people suggest might in fact be whatever it is you’re missing?

Just curious.

sometimes the cutting is a distraction for the pain inside or depression. Please get some counseling to learn better ways to cope and handle the pain. A temporary fix can be to hold a piece of ice in your hand. It can hurt but not be damaging. when it goes numb switch to the other hand.

have you talked to anyone?

Thanks for the invite Devil! I’m really sorry I don’t have time to read through everyone’s post, just want to say, instead of cutting yourself, find another way to release adrenaline, get your heart pumping - do something exhilirating!

For example, do a sky dive, or make a plan to go swimming with dolphins - do it for charity so you can do good for others at the same time! I know it’s easy for others to say “stay positive”, but there’s a reason why they say it!

You need to find an alternative, you obviously know what you’re doing is harmful, seeing as you post here, so channel that frustration and hard attitude towards doing something else. Ooh here’s another idea - Rock climbing!

Basically what I’m saying in a long winded manner is stay active, keep your mind occupied, and your body busy. When you don’t have time to dwell, you’ll find so much more in your life to focus yourself!

Good luck poster, and sorry guys who posted before me and my laziness, I’ll come back and read your responses later :P xx

okay well apparently what i typed didnt send..

sorry im so late for this post. im so sorry to hear about your mom and about your cutting. i havnt personally been through cutting but i was really close to doing it one time and also my really good friend has been through it and i helped her stop. so i kinda understand. i know i dont know firsthand but ive still seen it.
two things that really helped her were:
1. get a red marker and use that instead of a blade. it gives the same illusion as cutting but without the pain. you can still kinda press hard butit wont break the skin.
2. pinch your skin. not with your nails though.. but just pinch it as hard as you can because that way it still hurts a lot but youre not damaging your skin but its still a lot better than cutting.

like i said before im so sorry you have to go through this and im not gonna just tell you to stop and leave it at that because i know how hard it is. like you sai dits not a choice. its an addiction. if you need somoene to talk to ill be here for you =)
good luck! xoxoxo

put the knife down is a good start

Moey10 wrote:
Um yeah do anyof you get that it’s an addiction not a choice I can’t just stop and move on like that it takes time and odviously your wasteing urs sry for the bother

An addiction IS a choice.

i completely understand that it is an addiction. i used to do it but i quite. it was seriously hard but manageable. first….what are the reasons u cut?

Florie wrote:

Moey10 wrote:
Um yeah do anyof you get that it’s an addiction not a choice I can’t just stop and move on like that it takes time and odviously your wasteing urs sry for the bother

An addiction IS a choice.

well it is at first… like umm drinking is a good example. you start out drinking a tiny bit and thats your choice. but then you start to get addicted and its not your choce. its hard to turn back. you need help to get over it. its definetely NOT a choice.

αиgєl♥ wrote:

Florie wrote:

Moey10 wrote:
Um yeah do anyof you get that it’s an addiction not a choice I can’t just stop and move on like that it takes time and odviously your wasteing urs sry for the bother

An addiction IS a choice.

well it is at first… like umm drinking is a good example. you start out drinking a tiny bit and thats your choice. but then you start to get addicted and its not your choce. its hard to turn back. you need help to get over it. its definetely NOT a choice.

pahlease lol. It’s easy to quit anything lol. If you want me to prove it I can stop coming on here for 2 weeks. THough it would suck, i could do it. You just gotta get your will power up

youve obviously never had an addiction or even understand what that means mate.

It’s not an addiction, it’s more of a neurosis. There’s no “substance” that the body is crying out for.

Meanwhile Moey hasn’t been back, and he or she is probably really young and suddenly without a mother. That is sad, and difficult. I wonder if Moey has good relatives … Hope so. Moey!!! Where are you?

are you serious? this website is NOTHING compared to addictions like cutting and drinking. you cant just say ill stop and you just STOP. it doesnt work like that…. ive been aorund peopele with addictions for basically as long as i can remember and they didnt wanan be like that but its just something that takes a lot of time to stop… sure getting off here would be a bit hard but its NOTHING next to cutting or drinking or drug addictions..

actually florie there is a substance the body is crying out for. the physicalities of cutting mean that endorphins and adrenaline is released intot he body when the person cuts. that IS addictive and what the person craves, the “release” of the cutting if you will.
its a bonified addiction

Ill admit it. i used to cut. it is a choice at first but once u get adicted…ur scrwed. after that it seems almost impossible to stop although there is always hope.

αиgєl♥ wrote:
are you serious? this website is NOTHING compared to addictions like cutting and drinking. you cant just say ill stop and you just STOP. it doesnt work like that…. ive been aorund peopele with addictions for basically as long as i can remember and they didnt wanan be like that but its just something that takes a lot of time to stop… sure getting off here would be a bit hard but its NOTHING next to cutting or drinking or drug addictions..

Sorry Angel if this is a response to what I said, I don’t understand it. I wasn’t relating breaking an addiction (or whatever) to cutting to breaking an addiction (or whatever) to Help.com, at all. Anyway, I’ll just bow out of this one. I have a different viewpoint on addiction, but that doesn’t mean y’all’s are wrong. Bye.

noooo i wasnt saying that to you i was basically saying that to kyle :P
hehe

Whew! I am a bit paranoid today I’ve noticed. Something in the air … :)

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