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Distract Yourself

Immediately following a break up ask yourself if there’s anything you’ve always wanted to try, but haven’t had the time for. You’ll find that being able to distract yourself can go a long way towards helping you feel better. Whether you decide that you want to adopt a cat, try hang gliding or simply go for a road trip, you’ll find that this is a great time to do it, so seize the opportunity to distract yourself and even to learn something new.

Plus, this will give you the needed distance to start to put together your plan for getting back together with your ex, if this is what you want. Also, finding other things to do shows your ex that you can have fun without them — this is one of the things that’s going to help you win them back (see below for more).

Exercise

You’ll find that if you have recently experienced a break up that you might not want to do anything at all. The problem with turning into a first-class couch potato is that there is a good chance that you’ll simply stay one! When you get up and moving, you are creating changes in your body that will affect your brain. You’ll find tat you can literally make yourself feel better through exercise; not only can you get in shape, you’ll feel better too. And that new buff body won’t hurt when getting back into the dating game, or winning your ex back for that matter.

Talk it Out

Find people who you trust and who will spend time listening to you so you can simply get everything off your chest. Be willing to analyze your relationship, figure out what went wrong and figure out what the problems were. Unloading in this way can be instrumental for moving on, and you’ll find that you can learn a great deal simply by making sure that you know just what happened.

Another plus here is that you’ll be better able to avoid those same mistakes in future relationships, or in your second “go-round” with your ex once you get back together.

Get Them Back!

For many people, this is big one! Let’s say you’re not the one who wanted the break up to happen. If that’s the case, then no doubt you’re looking for ways to stop it — to convince your ex that they made a mistake.

While that may seem like the logical thing to do, it’s actually most often a mistake. But, there are definitely some ways to make this happen — some “Jedi Mind Tricks” you can use to convince your ex that they made the biggest mistake of their lives in breaking up with you. A lot of these techniques, like I said, definitely go against conventional wisdom.

And on top of all that, you have to set boundaries with your friend. Be honest with her and tell her you aren’t really level headed enough due to your own recent break up to have some of the conversations she’s started.
See if you can go out and do something that doesn’t involve these ex boyfriends…somewhere loud so it’s difficult to have a conversation about them :)

Tell her you can give her a shoulder to cry on but if she really needs someone to talk to tell her a counselor may be best.
Or maybe you could go see one together or something