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thats not pathetic,
do you want to talk about it

Gotta learn to accept yourself.. i do some terrible things and i just put it away…

its not patheic. youre not alone with this! so many people cut, youre not the only one!
why do you cut? whats going on in your life?

I have tried putting it away, but everytime i do that it comes back and bites me in the ***. now its ruined my relationship with someone i loved… i don’t know what to do. what if this screws up where i was supposed to go in life? i want to learn from all my mistakes… i have from ALOT of them, but once other people find this stuff out, they don’t believe i have changed, don’t want to give me the chance to show it, and that is why my relationship was ruined.

im sorry hun…..your not pathetic relapse is a part of recovery….you can make it through your not alone

but how do i without losing myself… if i haven’t already… I’m so confused I don’t even know if i can get anyone to understand fully

Those mistakes will make you stronger and wiser. You are not pathetic. You are amazing, I am sure! You can never lose yourself completely hun, you just have to refind yourself. I will pray for you.

I know i can become stronger and wiser from them, but I lost someone i really love, because he doesn’t believe that I am… but he hasn’t given me a chance to show him. is it worth it to try?

No hunni, a guy like that isnt worth it. Believe me.

If you dont mind me asking, what happened exactly?

Anonymous wrote:
but how do i without losing myself… if i haven’t already… I’m so confused I don’t even know if i can get anyone to understand fully

you will NEVER be able to get them to understand unless they’ve done it themselves but thats ok………if he can’t except that you do this and he can’t be there for you when you try and quit he’s not worth it……

I have to go right now, I will be back later and i can elaborate on all that happened. thanks alot for what you all have already said… i just need to see the light at the end of this tunnel (haha) and have the motivation to reach it… and not just turn around and make the same mistakes again…

Alright hunni, take care, be safe. You are in my heart and my prayers!

I am back. not sure who else is…

Fist of al your no alone, it may not seem like much but I feel it’s important for you to hear. Every selfharmer has to deal with the consequesnses, the urges, the relapses, the way people judge you as “abnormal, weird, mental, some phase etc” if they see or hear.

Most of them just don’t understand how hard it is to deal with this addiction, maybe some can just snap out of it but really, most of us don’t, it’s a long way until you accept yourself, until you’re able to talk about it and inform people - takes allot of bravoury to be open about an issue so close to your heart, something personal and intimate - you don’t share cutting, it’s just you and the knife.

I’m listening, I hope I an help you a bit.

- Siggy

Darling you’ve hit a dark patch of life.
Of which there are many.

If this boy wont let you prove to him that you are stronger…then let him go. he’s not worth the worry.

What you should focus on now, is proving to yourself that you are strong, with or without him.

Our mistakes are what make us who we are.

If you can fight through this, then one day you will look back and be glad it all happened.
Because it will make you realise how precious the happiness you fought for is.

Sit up straight, close your eyes, and take a deep breath.

Its time to get rid of the negativity.

Sigurrós wrote:
Fist of al your no alone, it may not seem like much but I feel it’s important for you to hear. Every selfharmer has to deal with the consequesnses, the urges, the relapses, the way people judge you as “abnormal, weird, mental, some phase etc” if they see or hear.

Most of them just don’t understand how hard it is to deal with this addiction, maybe some can just snap out of it but really, most of us don’t, it’s a long way until you accept yourself, until you’re able to talk about it and inform people - takes allot of bravoury to be open about an issue so close to your heart, something personal and intimate - you don’t share cutting, it’s just you and the knife.

I’m listening, I hope I an help you a bit.

- Siggy

jodie_lak wrote:
Darling you’ve hit a dark patch of life.
Of which there are many.

If this boy wont let you prove to him that you are stronger…then let him go. he’s not worth the worry.

What you should focus on now, is proving to yourself that you are strong, with or without him.

Our mistakes are what make us who we are.

If you can fight through this, then one day you will look back and be glad it all happened.
Because it will make you realise how precious the happiness you fought for is.

Sit up straight, close your eyes, and take a deep breath.

Its time to get rid of the negativity.

thanks…… I realize that if there is anything good that will come out of this… i have to be strong and fight through it like you say… I’ve been in a situation not the same, but involving the same self destructive emotions. I know i have ot let him go, and the cutting wont do anything but bring myself down even more, but he mattered so much to me that I am haveing a hard time believing myself over him. I know this isn’t right… where can i get started on making myself a better person? not just someone who hides from the world to hide her mistakes…

Sweetie, you will get through it, I know you have it in you. I have struggled with cutting for a very long time. It’s so hard to break. But sweetie, the right one will come when you least expect it and he will be the one who will help you and will be there for you through thick and thin. You will look back at this scenario and that guy and be like ” Wow, I thought I loved a JERK like that? Whatever he has nothing on, [his name here]. How could I have been so strange?” Believe me I have done that several times. I am still waitng for my white knight but I know he will come.

P.s. Listen to “Holding out for a hero” by Frou frou!!

And sweetie, your best way to make yourself a better person is to come to terms with God. Even if you do not believe in him, he believes in you and he will work through you. Believe me, REAL christian relationships work.