This reply has been removed.
Nice one…
And all the best!
Ive seen that before, its a beautiful story, glad yours in healing Ritchard ))hugs.:-)
Richard, please accept my apology in not reading the story, I just stopped in and too emotional at this time. I will say though it sounds like your healing nicely considering the unexpected blow, that would be a shock to anyone. I hope you know I have all the confidence in the world you are going to have Victory in this. So God Speed ! my mentor and friend :) Just keep telling yourself ‘its her loss’ until it sinks in b/c its true. This is one of those many times when we need to look and rely on the unseen. Since Im here, How did the interview go?
Wow, that is beautiful. Thanks for sharing. Love the story.
Thank you for that touching story.Your words of wisdom, are words we should never forget… All the best to you :)
omg ive never seen that before. its a beautiful story. its very touching and it speaks the truth. thank you for posting this!
its good to hear that youre doing a lot better. and i just want thank you for being such a great part of help.com.
*rips out peice of heart out and gives it to richard*
=)
even though i dont know you that well i hope to get to know you better. you seem like a great guy!!
Richard, I always read your posts. This story is especially poignant. I will be passing it on to my family.
HUGS! I love you (as a friend) Richie - sorry Im not here very often to tell you so :S I love reading your wisdom on blue days
This story is very cool. I liked it. Thanks for sharing and Best Of Luck too :)
yes i know the feeling Richard .I just finished my first album recorded with some teeny Boppers who were actually listening while i recorded my last Song of the Album.The Band you most probably don’t heard of them Operator Please but i can assure you your children did ,i never heard of them either,and then the whole World collapses.My Wife only two Sisters died within four days of each other .We just arrived Home from the Funerals.Well Richard,guess that is Life .Just think that you have lovely Kids and so have i .The rest is a Bonus Would like to send you some of my songs. Well my Side is almost Finnish and i will let you know …..
Im not quite sure but i heard this recently and it may apply here ‘Truth is beauty and beauty is truth’
How beautiful Rich, I’m glad your feeling in a better frame of mind lately. You know I’m here for you-Always xx
What if my boyfirends ex girlfried comes along and trys to put her piece back? Will he tell her to keep it or will he take it back and take a piece of my heart with him? That terrifies me like you would not believe
Oh and Rich I have not seen you for a while. I am sorry to hear of your sorrow and glad to hear that you are healing
Thank you for that touching story Richard and I’m glad to hear you are feeling better about yourself. Everything happens for a reason, I believe and this too shall pass :)
It’s always good to be reminded that a heart is big enough to love more than once. I hope life will be good to you Richard.
Best of luck to you Richie, remember you are beautiful! *hugs*
It is so nice to see a new post from you. I was missing your thought provoking post and your words of wisdom. I am glad to see you are feeling better.
Yes, Richard. I agree with Babacup. We do miss reading your posts around here.
And you are right, love never dies completely. And that only shows how much love there is in you to give. So keep giving, my dear friend. Wonderful things you couldn’t imagine possible, happen at some point and there is no magic recipe for that. They just do! True love just shows up one day and you just know that this is it!! The bond is so strong and natural. The feeling is peaceful. And you can’t take that smile off your face for at least a full year! :) I know that if you are able to see it in your mind, it will come to be.
And although you still feel this past love in your heart and most probably always will, the next one will be much stronger. Because that’s just how life is.
Isn’t it great to know that when we keep working at it, things really do improve!
Take good care, dear Richard.
:) Marylou
Thank you one and all for your replies.
Angel that was very touching considering we don’t know much of each other.
Thank you RAM, I’m glad you liked the post.
Sasha… yeah, I figured some would have seen the story before, but what the heck - it always brings a smile to my face, so to share now and again is good :) …
thank you for your reply Lilies; glad you liked the story.
Kim… thank you dear. I know you are there :) it’s a great feeling too. It turns out the interview was just a first cut introduction… I’m crossing everything I have two of for an interview :)
Ell, thank you xox. I know you are dear - the same is true from me.
Cakes, thank you for your reply… I understand your fear. I’ll be blogging on just that subject later today. Just know that not all things are certain, and relationships take alot of work. That work has a backbone of solid HEALTHY communication and trust. Ex’s come and go from our life. We always just have to remember (and help others remember) that they are Ex’s for a very good reason.
Miss_E thank you for your time to reply… I’m right there with you. I’ve long been a proponent of everything has a reason. That actually is why I stayed in a relationship that ultimately was not good for me, because I know I had attracted it to me, and that I had something to learn from it. Lesson learned, and I’m so grateful to her (the ex) for helping me learn it.
Pseudo, thank you for your reply… yes, reminders are great. I love being reminded of things. It can help us stay on the right path, or better even help us get BACK to the right path. Love never dies (again part of today’s blog)… Life will be good to me, because I will give it no other options :D
Ahhh Mitzy… I wish I was a 10th as beautiful as you are… thank you dear.
Babacup… Marylou…thank you sincerely for your kind words. True I’ve not posted here in awhile and I’ll probably not post all that often. I write nearly every day on my website, and post to two separate blogs, sending out an email daily to my subscribers. This generally keeps me busy. Also, that insures my writing goes only to those that are interested. I don’t have the time to worry about the flames and arrows I get when posting here. If you want my thought for the day it’s easy to subscribe via my “Fun Free Stuff” page… or you can go to the blog and just take advantage of the RSS feed.
As they say in the movies - Life is an occasion; rise to it!
Bright blessings ~ Richard
Indeed Ann you are absolutely correct… thanks for your input :)
Beautiful story, Richard! All the best!
Richard, your website still does not show up for me. I am on the same computer I used when I joined your chats, so I do not know what is different. My hubby has not had time to check on it for me. But soon as I figure it out, I will be visiting your website once again.
thank you for your support Babacup. I couldn’t say what the problem is. I have checked the site in Windows explorer, and I can see it ok in Firefox. Is Netscape around anymore?? LOL… I don’t know if it works with Netscape. It’s build in DreamWeaver so should easily work with Windows.
Great stuff Richard keep your head up you going to be ok everything in life happens for a reason it may not be clear now but somewhere down the road it will.
my best wishes to you
that was a wonderful story, thank you for sharing that with us.
your heart must be beuatiful
ok… i still need to go up and read the little story about the man in the road..
(sorry, just had to get here and as i was scrolling down, that is all i saw at the moment)…
i am totally shocked… with all the news of her getting married as she just left not long ago.
im so very sorry hun.. not really knowing what to say as i do not want to say something foolish to cause you any more pain.. just know that i am thinking of you and i know that you are a good man with a huge heart. i do have to say, her loss.. not yours.
just wish i could wrap my arms around ya and give you a great big hug..
as the ol’ saying goes, time heals all wounds.. and im hoping that you are starting to see that you are on that path… again, you are a great guy and deserve a great romance.. and maybe one day… you will find that perfect person to share life, love and eternity with..
great big hugs.. love shie.
thanks for your reply Gumby… I’m doing great. This all happened a month ago, my ex’s husband has already left the state to go home to mom and dad and left his wife here. She’s already listed as “swinger” on her myspace… I’m doing GREAT to be away from her. I know the reason, and I learned my lesson and I am 100% grateful for the experience.
Thanks smiley… I’d like to think I have a beautiful heart… I know it’s a little jagged around the edges :)
Thanks Shie… yeah darlin’ she and her new lover moved very quickly. Of course he’s only 20 so he could move faster than this ol’ man…LOL. They were married 8 days after their first face to face meeting (which good ol’ Rich made possible) and 3 days after that he was gone… leaving the new wife behind. She’s already moved into a place with another guy sharing rent. Although in the last 3 places she lived in, she never paid all her rent, and has been basically been evicted from all of them.
I’m doing much better. Yes, I still remember the good time and it makes me sad, but I also remember the abuse and I’m happy to be clear of that :) I’m looking forward to recovering myself and getting back to ME, so that someone might be able to love me again… cause I’m not done with lovin’ :)
Bright blessings ~ Richard
Richard cor de lyon wrote:
Thanks smiley… I’d like to think I have a beautiful heart… I know it’s a little jagged around the edges :)
Thanks Shie… yeah darlin’ she and her new lover moved very quickly. Of course he’s only 20 so he could move faster than this ol’ man…LOL. They were married 8 days after their first face to face meeting (which good ol’ Rich made possible) and 3 days after that he was gone… leaving the new wife behind. She’s already moved into a place with another guy sharing rent. Although in the last 3 places she lived in, she never paid all her rent, and has been basically been evicted from all of them.
I’m doing much better. Yes, I still remember the good time and it makes me sad, but I also remember the abuse and I’m happy to be clear of that :) I’m looking forward to recovering myself and getting back to ME, so that someone might be able to love me again… cause I’m not done with lovin’ :)
Bright blessings ~ Richard
you do have a great heart.. and having a little jagged edge makes us stay awake and ready for something like this..
as for her running around the way she is… what a shame. a shame that she didnt make this known before you fell in love with her. i do believe in karma, and i do believe that one day, she will fall in love and be hurt in the same manor… a life lesson i suppose to make her think of all the broken hearts she has left behind.
she will then see exactly what she had in you and realize that she has left the best thing in her life over ’stupidity’.
im happy that you are recovering and that you are realizing that life is better with out the abuse that she was giving… no one has right to abuse anyone ever.. man, woman or child.
you will find that someone… i know that because as i said, you have heart of gold.. my suggestion is to stop looking and let love find you… it will happen, i promise..
many hugs, love shie.
hi richard! from ur post/ replies, u are someone who really offers much, much (needed) insights and wisdom
thanks for the post! it was heart-warming really.
anyway, move on, life has to go on and ur doing just perfectly well!
btw, in ur avatar, are those 3 ur daughters, they look lovely.
to think it through, u haven’t lost anything.
okei! wrote:
hi richard! from ur post/ replies, u are someone who really offers much, much (needed) insights and wisdom
thanks for the post! it was heart-warming really.
anyway, move on, life has to go on and ur doing just perfectly well!
btw, in ur avatar, are those 3 ur daughters, they look lovely.
to think it through, u haven’t lost anything.
yes okei, those are his daughters
Thank you Shie. I think part of how I am coping with it all is that my affection for her is turning from admiration to pity. I’m starting (finally) to see her deep ugly scars her MO and it’s sad. Looking through some of her papers she left behind, I found brochures for Tenants Rights. When we first met I told her I didn’t want her moving in for a while. She was at my house almost every night… I was falling in love and loving her company so after a couple of weeks of this… she was basically moved in. I found out after she left me, that when she first met me, she had been evicted from the place she was living. She had been evicted from the place before that too. Anyway… she’s a real piece of work and yes eventually she’ll get her piece too.
Thank you for the compliment Okei…yep… those are my girls. I’d tell you more about them, but too much in an open forum such as this would be inappropriate. So, suffice it to say they are a blessing to me and the world :)
Bright blessings all ~ Richard
oh gosh, what a story!
i really hope next time i give any sort of love to someone i don’t have to tear a peice out of my heart!
that wud be painful!
but yes, an interesting story. im sure ill remember it for quite a time!
so sad that she cant see when people care… and is jumping from one person to the next just to have a roof over her head because she is irresponsible for not paying her rent.
makes ya wonder what lies deep with in side of her causing her so much pain to not be able to realize that someone (you) really cared..
’so sad that she cant see when people care’ thought u were talking about me for a sec! gosh! lol
this is a beautiful story… thanks for posting
i glad your doing ok, u keep that smile on your face and look on the bright side, it will all work out ok :)
lots of luv xx
spiritedsoul wrote:
’so sad that she cant see when people care’ thought u were talking about me for a sec! gosh! lol
no…. lol
*Smiles* I would rather my heart with a few scars (not many but a few) and a couple of unfit pieces, and a hole or two, then any other heart.
Thank you !!! That really brought comfort. Hope that you also will find peace
hoping things are going well for you… hugs.
Thank you all. Yes… I read my book…lol… it helped :)
wow you are really strong.. it would be incredibly difficult to get over the one i love, that’s for sure. i don’t think i ever would.
Well, Caligirrl… I’m not trying to forget her or anything like that. I am trying to keep perspective. I loved (love) her, and she abused me. So, it is better for me to move on… that’s all. I’ll remember her always. I know the good in her… I am also very intimately aware of the bad in her. I won’t forget my love… but I can channel it to better things… including making myself stronger. I won’t be a victim.
go richard…. im very proud of you… no one deserves to be a ‘victim’ of any type of abuse… and you are right… these type of things only make us stronger and more aware for our next relationship… many hugs..
Richard Cor de Lyon edited this post 10 months ago. Read the previous text »
Love NEVER goes away completely.
I know it’s very difficult to loose a lover… a partner. Especially if you did not have a choice in the matter. Just over a month ago, my partner of nearly 2 years married another man, she met on the internet. It as complete surprise to me, and it blew me out of the water. I thank my dear friends here on this site… and of course those off this site (some of which are both, and very special people). The point of this post is to say that I’m doing much better after this month. I’ve made some steps in a positive direction, and am feeling better about myself and my life. I wanted to share this so that for those of you that are feeling that pain now… closure can come to you, and even if it doesn’t acceptance can come… it will come and love is still there. I know it may be a little trite, but i wanted to share this old story that’s been bouncing around the internet for a while… it’s a story of love and hope. I pray that the lovers in this world continue to love… because in the end… that is what it’s all about -
A Beautiful Heart
One day a young man was standing in the middle
of the town proclaiming that he had the most
beautiful heart in the whole valley. A large
crowd gathered and they all admired his heart
for it was perfect.
There was not a mark or a flaw in it.
Yes, they all agreed it truly was the most
beautiful heart they had ever seen.
The young man was very proud and boasted
more loudly about his beautiful heart.
Suddenly, an old man appeared at the front of
the crowd and said, “Why your heart is not
nearly as beautiful as mine.”
The crowd and the young man looked at the
old man’s heart. It was beating strongly,
but full of scars, it had places where pieces
had been removed and other pieces put in, but
they didn’t fit quite right and there were
several jagged edges. In fact, in some places
there were deep gouges where whole pieces
were missing.
The people stared — how can he say his heart
is more beautiful, they thought?
The young man looked at the old man’s heart
and saw its state and laughed.
“You must be joking,” he said.
“Compare your heart with mine, mine is perfect
and yours is a mess of scars and tears.”
“Yes,” said the old man, “Yours is perfect
looking but I would never trade with you.
You see, every scar represents a person to
whom I have given my love - I tear out a piece
of my heart and give it to them, and often
they give me a piece of their heart which fits
into the empty place in my heart, but because
the pieces aren’t exact, I have some rough edges,
which I cherish, because they remind me of the
love we shared. “Sometimes I have given pieces of my heart
away, and the other person hasn’t returned
a piece of his heart to me. These are the
empty gouges — giving love is taking a chance.
Although these gouges are painful, they stay open,
reminding me of the love I have for these people too,
and I hope someday they may return and fill the
space I have waiting. So now do you see what true beauty is?”
The young man stood silently with tears running
down his cheeks. He walked up to the old man,
reached into his perfect young and beautiful heart,
and ripped a piece out. He offered it to the old
man with trembling hands
The old man took his offering, placed it in his heart
and then took a piece from his old scarred heart and
placed it in the wound in the young man’s heart.
It fit, but not perfectly, as there were some jagged edges.
The young man looked at his heart, not perfect
anymore but more beautiful than ever,
since love from the old man’s heart flowed into his.
They embraced and walked away side by side.
~ The End~
I think your heart is perfect too.
Bright blessings ~ Richard
This post has been closed, no more replies. Thanks!
R.A.M
Sasha101
☆miss lilies☆
Felicity on break invited 167 users to read this post 1 year, 1 month ago.
seas light
angel♥
Ditzy
אָ QaSh אָ
Victoria Sponge
miss_enigma
pseudoniem
MortallyWounded
Captain K
Smily
~Shie~
okei!
spiritedsoul
Amber Soul