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Hi, i have the worse issues with my dad, he has high blood pressure and had a hart attack a couple of years ago and diabetes all that stuff.

now every tiiinnnyy thing i do my dad yells at me for hours and always wants to say i’m the reason he has high bloodpressure and he’ll get a 2nd heart attack because of me and will die. the thing is my dad and I dont have the best relationship it’s actually better to say we dont have a relationship he’s never said i love you, ever nor has he said i’m proud of you or anything he has never kissed me said congratulations never anything.
even if i’m an A+ student, have friends, aspiring model, never in trouble, never parties. still my dad ALWAYS finds something to yell at me super hard and get his blood pressure high, yes i always feel bad like now or he gets mad at me cuz my friend is realllly rich so he keeps saying yeah we’re not at Sam’s house i’m not going to serve you. or he finds something else like ur behavior is crap u talk to me like im ur dog not true! or yeah i’m spending 2000$ for ur photos atleast say thank you (which i have many times ) i’m just describing these things in a little phrase but it’s mostly a 3 hours yell for a couple of weeks my dad always has a reason to be pissed at me which i dont understand i NEVER do anything wrong still he always looks to yell and make it my fault he always has to blame me and annoy me and now ive decided not to answer because i dont want him to get a second hart attack and yeah he’s like ohhh ur too good for me i’m a dog blabalba like whatttt thee heeelll am i doing wrong.
times i’ve thought we should work it out like ” TALK ” together or go to therapy together but my dad responds really badly at that and t never happens or will happen.
times like now i think i just need to get away when im 18 ( im 15 btw ) and leave him alone becuase as he always says I AM the reason he’s gonna die.
i feel reaally bad but like now when i read all i have written i think it’s his fault ! like dont have a 3rd kid if ur not gonna love her , suprisingly he lovvvvveeess my brother which fails all of his classes , is not going to graduate this year and just ruined a 50 000 $ car still he LOVES him cuz he’s PERFECT and he HATES ME which he says A LOT.

i feel like hell because of him, he hates me and i will never be able to resolve this i’ve tried many times even if i behave perfect theres ALWAYS something wrong when sometimes he just invents it

HELP ME PLEASE I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO ANYMORE

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K.T offline Verified User (1 year, 3 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (41 minutes after post)

get support from school or stay at a friends place for a while to get away. he probally will get angry i know but the situation your in its seems hes going to continue to put you down until he relises hes hurting you.

he may be your dad, but you dont need to put up with abuse on a regular basis and making mistakes are normal. you should be able to make mistakes without it being followed by abuse.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (50 minutes after post)

but it doesnt mean parents arent allowed to get angry about things. one way he might mean by appreciation is maybe by helping around the house? or doing things as a reminder that what he is doing, like you said, hes paying $2000 for photoes, just do things to show your appreciation for it.

im not sure if you doing this or not, if you are then hes putting to much pressure on you.

hope this helps in some way

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (55 minutes after post)

thanks it kind of helps :) !

he wont realise hes hurting me because well thats just him and its not really abuse, or is it ?
support from school ? they wont give me support at school
and stay at a friends place for a while, well this is anonymous for a reason … i dont want people to know ( my reputation! )

thanks again i do hope more people would reply

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