Love help: Hi guys, I’m a girl and 23.

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Hi guys, I’m a girl and 23.

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 3years. I really loved him a lot. but I never felt much heartache after we split up, as there were too many problems and diferences between us, so I was kinda expecting this to happen.
I then met another guy about 2 months ago. I completely fell in love with him. Head over heels, although I have not told him that yet. We get along so well and I have never had this much fun in my life!!
We agreed that we will be completely honest and open with each other right from the start. No lying and no cheating! He said that he never has and would never cheat on anybody, as he was hurt badly before and knows how it feels.

The problem now though is that he told me 5 days ago out of his own will, that he has done the worst possible thing he could. He went out for drinks with one of his old friends and one thing led to another, and they slept together.
My heart is completely shattered and I’m not sure whether I have made the right choice.

We talked about it and he explained that it was a huge mistake and that he is really sorry for hurting me.We are still seeing each other now. I really like him sooooo much and would’nt want to lose him, so decided to fogive him. I have done this myself before and know that mistakes do happen.

I know that it’s stupid and that I should’ve just left him, but I just could’nt.
I’m really scared of getting hurt again. How will I know that he won’t do it again?

I would really like to hear your opinions on how and if this is fixable and how to make it work.

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phuckit! 6 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

I think I would give him another chance.

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cheekypax 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Thanx

seas light 331 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

Me too. He wasn’t trying to conceil anything. So yeah! for honesty lol :))

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babacup 31 #
Indianapolis, IN, US | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (13 minutes after post)

I would not give him another chance. Even though he was honest with you. Do you want to be with a person who will go out and get drunk and sleep with someone? I know I don’t. This is who he showed you he is.

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rychusno #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (21 minutes after post)

A leopard can’t change his spots. That is in his core. When the time is right and he knows you will take him back, he will do it again and again. The problem is you have a heart to let him back again and again.

Get your mind right. I mean that sincerely. Until your mind can overide your heart and know that there is better for you out there, You will be emotionally abused. You are better than that.

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cheekypax 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (35 minutes after post)

That’s what I thought. Gosh, it takes a lot of guts to tell someone that?

a_bandoned 30 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (1 hour, 24 minutes after post)

ooh these situations are horrid…but some people really do change. if you feel he is genuinely sorry, then do what your heart tells you. but if he does it again, don’t forgive him. we all take the chance of getting hurt when we fall in love. hope it works out!

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Sasha101 80 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (2 hours, 16 minutes after post)

The choice has to be yours, but in these days of STDs and unplanned pregnancy, to be safe Id always make sure of protection. My thinking is if he did it once and got away with it he may well try it again.Whatever your choice, just make sure you take care of No1 :-)

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lauretta_l 8 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (3 hours, 19 minutes after post)

It’s good that he was honest, but he made the decision to keep drinking and he probably knew that he was at least a little attracted to this old friend. Yeah, one thing led to another is one excuse but this was a series of bad decisions. I’d be careful.

gardenweasle 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (5 hours, 44 minutes after post)

As a guy, I would give another chance to a _girl_ who did that; it beats being lied to. But, it’s true that a drunk man’s words/deeds are often a sober man’s thoughts.

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 4 weeks ago (8 hours, 29 minutes after post)

I am 32yrs old an u hav 2 go with ur gut if u want 2 trust he again then do so if not move on alone u need time 2 figure out wha u want an once u love an respect u, u can love and respect anyone ur with but b careful

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