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college student needing some girl advice :P, ok well ill try to make this short and sweet but to get good advice, you guys need the whole story.

i just started a new class few weeks back, first day i saw a very attractive girl and decided i wanted to get to know her. keep in mind this class only meets 2 days a week. well anyway i made effort and we started talking and such, she then missed a week(doing to being out of town) and upon her return i started talking and found out few things about her,she had a son,single, and a few other things, so i ended up asking her pretty casually that day. i said something like, “you wanna get together this weekend?” it was towards the end of class, she smiled and said maybe! but then class was over and we both hurried off….the next day our class left, i kinda made the same mistake again and ended up askin her after class was over when we were in a rush, she ended up saying maybe again lol!, i was kinda annoyed so i just said ok ill talk to ya lata then :) and walked off…well its been a week since then, i havent brought it up and she hasnt either, but nothing has changed, she still comes and sits by me every class, she still talks, laughs at all my jokes, looks me in the eyes, and smiles ALOT at me. i dont know what i should do, should i ask her out again or let it play out and see what happens? i have talked to a few friends and they said if she didnt wanna go out with me, she wouldnt have said maybe, twice, and really would have avoided me afterwards, but not the case at all. so i am very confused and any advice would be appreciated :)

Thanks in advance. (if there is anything else you need to know, just ask.)

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hey...iknowyou offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 18 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 minute after post)

Try asking her when you both have time to talk so you can organise a date maybe :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

give it time. she KNOWS you’re interested so let her make the next move. no matter how hard it is waiting.

trust me, i’m a girl.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (6 minutes after post)

i can give it time, just how long should i wait, she seems kinda shy as it is.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (8 minutes after post)

women like to be courted. Try not asking her to “hang out” Ask her again but on a real date. Say I would like to take you to dinner and a movie on Friday night and see what she says. If your not retarded she will say yes.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (11 minutes after post)

shut up..jeje

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (12 minutes after post)

well if i remember the first time i asked her, i said you wanna goto the movies this weekend, theres alot out i havent seen that are pretty good, and she asked what movies and we kinda got off target, then the class was over and i said so you wanna go this weekend, and she said maybe, its weird, i dont know about her past relationship, she isnt with her baby’s day anymore i know. but i dont know how/when they broke up etc.

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adrinamarie offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (12 minutes after post)

If jeje was your friend he would tell you to sleep with her best friend to get her attention.

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adrinamarie offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (12 minutes after post)

send her some flowers.

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Forman offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (13 minutes after post)

lol….have you asked for her phone number?

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adrinamarie offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (13 minutes after post)

phone numbers are good!!!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (13 minutes after post)

nah lol, i think it would seem akward now, i thought i should wait a bit. what u guys think?

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adrinamarie offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (14 minutes after post)

thats your advice jeje!!! jackass.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (15 minutes after post)

TEll her you think she’s cool and you would like to talk to her on the phone to get to know her a little better because you don’t want her takin advantage of you when you hang out

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (16 minutes after post)

no don’t say that…then she will only think you are in it to get in her pants.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (17 minutes after post)

I got to go…..bye jeje!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (18 minutes after post)

lol later, seriously though, what the hell should i do? i dont wanna push it but im curious as **** now, maybe is worse than no anyday.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (20 minutes after post)

yeah i thought that, shes 21, coudnt she just tell me that? that would be the easiest excuse ever. but no i get maybe…twice.. lol

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (21 minutes after post)

she’s interested she’s just takin her time with you. She’s horny bro…watch and see. She just wants to make sure your worth while

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (22 minutes after post)

god yeah. but she also is cool as hell.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (23 minutes after post)

Get her number and talk with her at home…Then you can take your time and get to know her. Maybe squeeze one out after you get off the telly with her

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1 year, 2 months ago (25 minutes after post)

jeje wrote:
Do you know is tom leykis is ?????

Wow your questions are so random and unhelpful…

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (25 minutes after post)

how long should i wait before i bring anything like that up?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (27 minutes after post)

nah man

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (27 minutes after post)

I for one know that i hate it when guys ask me out to the movies or dinner. Thats when i tend to start avoiding them. Get to know her first then ask for her number then proceed to ask her if she want to hang out. She would probably like to take it slow since she has a baby and all. So go at at slow paste

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (27 minutes after post)

*So go at a slow paste

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (28 minutes after post)

yeah..what she said…squeeze one out so you won’t be so aggressive

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1 year, 2 months ago (30 minutes after post)

jeje wrote:
cali girls would say yes the first time. where the f*** you meeting these girls?

Well we dont all act like girls from cali. Some of us girls actually have class and would like a guy to move at our paste and not rush things.

jeje wrote:
peace f***ers. hey bro good luck

Thank you, bye

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (31 minutes after post)

haha tennessee broo, alright though ya i thought that would be best to take it slow, just not knowing is so annoying fucksake, maybe is the worst anwser ever, all you girls never tell a guy maybe..

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (33 minutes after post)

bro2 wrote:
haha tennessee broo, alright though ya i thought that would be best to take it slow, just not knowing is so annoying fucksake, maybe is the worst anwser ever, all you girls never tell a guy maybe..

Ill think about that next time a guy ask me out or just to hang out. I think i always say maybe lol

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (35 minutes after post)

skyy wrote:

bro2 wrote:
haha tennessee broo, alright though ya i thought that would be best to take it slow, just not knowing is so annoying fucksake, maybe is the worst anwser ever, all you girls never tell a guy maybe..
Ill think about that next time a guy ask me out or just to hang out. I think i always say maybe lol

omg im telling you its worst than being told no so bad, dont do that haha, atleast be like maybe idk give me your number or something.

not knowing is terrible :( and then i gotta play the waiting game = :(

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (38 minutes after post)

Lol i never think about the guys feelings only mine afterwards, but when i say maybe i tell them that so i wouldnt hurt their feelings (if they seem nice). I push guys away so dont think all girls think like me

What if a girl just want to be your friend would you settle for that or no?

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (42 minutes after post)

yeah sure, but i want her to tell me

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (42 minutes after post)

i would*, yeah u said u would say maybe to be nice, but you wouldnt do it twice would ya? then still be no different around him haha she acts like she likes me.

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (43 minutes after post)

Well maybe (the word you hate lol) she do like you but is scared of getting hurt

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (46 minutes after post)

yeah i mean i could understand that, would just been nice if shes like ya know, here is my number give me a call later and we will talk or something haha, she does seem kinda shy, thats why i think i will (if i want to contiue) have to ask her for hers or whatnot down the road, which is no big deal, ya know, iv been told no before its no biggie for me, but i mean at the very least i know she likes me as a friend, she always comes and sits beside me, every single day we have class lol, theres like 30-40 seats in our class.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (47 minutes after post)

and smiles and looks me in the eyes everytime we talk, and laughs at all my retarted jokes haha and makes fun of me (joking around), so i mean all the signs are there really. then i get maybe lol

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (53 minutes after post)

Lol i understand i guess i never thought about how you all interpret things. Its nice hearing what you all really be thinking. I think she likes you if not alot at least a little because i cant see why she would sit next to you and not be somewhat interested in you. Just take it slow and see what happens. I mean thats all i can say. And DO NOT give up because its too much of a challenge. We hate that! All we want is someone to break our walls and gain our trust, but guys these days get tired too easily and move on to the next girl; looking past the ones who only need a little time and patience.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (55 minutes after post)

i’m a pretty patient guy, and think about yourself, are those not alot of the things you do to guys you yourself like? just curious :)

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour after post)

Yea im not going to lie if i like a guy or find something about him interesting i will sit next to him. Im in college and i know what you are talking about lol. I sit next to this guy who i want to be friends with but there is something about him that i like. So i know she must like you a little lol. Just to let you know we like it when a guy makes us smile. We smile (well i smile) for two reasons. Im either not interested in you and am just smiling just because or im smiling because i like talking to you. If she is making an effort to sit next to you then she must find something in you that she like

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 6 minutes after post)

yeah im in college too,i pretty much make her smile everytime i talk to her lol, you woudnt smile every time a guy talked to ya just to be nice would ya? ;), so do you like that guy enough to go out with him?

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skyy offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 12 minutes after post)

Well i dont know because he hasnt broken the walls ive built up over the years. Hes a nice guy who is different from any other guy ive met, which is why he stands out to me. He makes me smile and i like talking to him. If he asked me if i wanted to hang out with him i would probably say yes. We actually studied together at the library and talked about everything but what we were suppose to talk about lol. He talked about where he lived and his family most of the time but for some reason i didnt mind, which is very rare for me. I usually dont even like to study with guys but he makes me feel comfortable for some odd reason.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

Hate to tell you this but i don’t know if shes intersted in you. i would ask her out and if she says no i would move on. But thats not that big of a deal part of life is rejection and all you have to say that there is someone better then that Beoch out there

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 14 minutes after post)

might be something to it skyy, maybe let him know your interested haha, throw him a bone :P, makes it alot easier on the guys, even more so if the girl is a hottie ;), and ya down, i asked her out, she said maybe haha

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 20 minutes after post)

Oh btw since you are new your replies will get filtered alot. So watch what you say. Words like suck can make your reply await approval

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (1 hour, 21 minutes after post)

aw okay, i just said i think maybe you should let that guy know you have some interest, its hard for guys sometimes, throw him a small bone, so to speak ;)

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