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I have been with my boyfriend for a little over one year now.

Throughout our relationship, his ex-girlfriend of 5 years keeps popping up in the picture. She calls, writes him emails, tells him to come pick up their “memory box”, etc. I have confronted my boyfriend about the issue and have told him several times that he needs to make her go away. He says that he has taken care of the issue but she’s still contacting him. I have asked him to change his number but he refuses and we got into a big argument. The worst part is there were several occasions where he has broken my trust and it was about his ex-girlfriend. Actually all of it was. Am I being unreasonable to ask him to change his number so I can feel at ease? or is this relationship doomed because he said “She will always be in my life and you just have to get over it!” Please help.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Personally i would finish it. If u have asked him to change his number and to leave her behind then thats all you can do. with him having his ex-girlfriend still in the picture u are never going to feel comfortable which will not help at all. it is unfair of him to say for u to deal with it. he should be comforting you, his girlfriend!

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adrinamarie offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (12 minutes after post)

No you do not have to just get over it. Do not put up with that!!!!! Break up with him until he comes to his senses and tells the ex to get out of his life. If he loves you and wants to be with you, he will do it. If he doesn’t you can do better than him and it was never meant to be. If you break it off with him he will realize that he doesn’t want to lose you and she will be out of this picture and if he doesn’t oh well…move on.

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