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they show emotion, just not infront of people. just think, they are always got the expectation from society to be the “stong one” and be others rock.

Really I have a guy who says he loves me and he cries. It really just depends on the guy. He has to be open, so he can express his feelings. If your not open than its harder to say I love you, and to show any emotion.

I’ve seen plenty of guys cry and some of my closest friends have said “I love you.”

Not all guys are heatless. For some guys to show emotion to you, you have to know them for a while; when they have their complete trust in you.

But.. Don’t have high expectations. It brings dissapointment.

I’m a guy and I rarely show emotions around anyone else.

It just depends on if they are sensitive or not.

I believe a lot of it is because of what society standards of what is an ok way for a man to act and many men were raised to believe that crying is a sign of weakness and that men are suppose to be tough.

Actually, biologically it’s harder for them then it is for us. Their brains are divided by a 28 percent thicker barrier then in our brains, making emotional flows both harder and decreasing the amount of emotions accessible for them.

And sometimes you just really need to slap it in their face before they get it.

So take a deep breath, blame their inferior brains (I’m gonna get so yelled at for that) and just let it go.

But know that some guys are more open then others. Don’t be prodding those that aren’t comfortable with that sort of thing. Just like you’re not comfortable saying some things, neither are they. Some of them can be really sweet and out in the open and some can’t. same thing with girls, you know.

So if you want a cry-on-shoulder i-love-you boy, don’t expect that your friend will automatically adapt. Give him time, and maybe with some patience and an electrical cattle prod, he’ll get there.

Generalizing huh…
I know more then 5 guys who were emotional in good and bad ways while the others kept things inside. They were very expressive to their GF’s and friends and family cause they felt close to them. Then there are other who just bottle things up inside, and then those who are to stoned to even care what they feel haha. I am one of these guys who is able to open up more then usual now, BUT due to opening up and then loosing friends and respect I think I’m going to have to start bottling things up and never letting anyone know how I feel.

You have to first understand that girls are emotional creatures and guys are logical creatures.
Now, before someone tears me a new one…there ARE exceptions, of course…but think about it.

Guys are expected (and this goes back thousands of years) to be the strong one, the breadwinner and the rock. With this attitude, there’s no room for softness or emotion.

Women are more often the loving, caring symbols of society. They are though, the rock the family is built on. While they can be very fierce, they portray softness.

When you look at it that way…it makes sense.

Modern guys are more likely to show emotion though….just watch them when their team loses (or wins) the cup!!

Because showing feelings isn’t manly to other people. Some people believe that if a man shows feelings they are weak and not strong.