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Well my boyfriend and I have bin together for 4 yrs.

We have to beautiful childern together my son darius 2 yrs old and my daught anaiya 3 weeks old. Four days before I gave birth to my daughter my boyfriend died….this is the hardest thing I ever had to go through I wake up thinking he’s next to me but he’s not and never will be again..im trying my hardest but im breaking down..my son has horrible meltdowns looking for his daddy he will throw him self backwards,bang his head on the walls when he can’t find him..we are suffering and I can’t even help my self anymore..I stay strong infront of my kids but when im alone its the worst..please any advice would really help my family lives in another state and don’t really know ne one in this town..please

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shane is a Christian offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Seek God, find a church plant yourself there, and just pray, God heals ALL wounds

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (5 minutes after post)

im sorry to hear that :(, i know its hard, you gotta be strong for your kids as much as you can, know that he is in a better place now,maybe you should call your family, your best friend, someone and tell them how you feel and explain what your going through, do what shane said as well, god will be with you, pray and he will hear.

my prayers are with you too.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (9 minutes after post)

I know this might not be the best advice but you need to find something to do. A hobby to keep your mind off things. As with your son, did you explain to him what happened? I mean did you tell him ‘Your dad is in a better place now, but he will always be watching over us from heaven?’ Something like that? It needs to sink in because he is never going to find his daddy (except in his heart). Also do you have a brother or someone to help you through this? Because you need all the helo you can get.

I really wish you all the best of luck and I’m very sorry for your loss.

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annalisa offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (10 minutes after post)

first of all, please let me say how sorry i am. i do not know where you live but in texas there is a place called the warm place and it was established just for families who has lost someone very special and important to them. it is grief counseling and they especially work with children. if you do not live in texas see if there is something similiar there. i used the service when my died and my children took it very very hard. i cannot tell you how important it is to get help to see you through, your kids need you to help them get past it and it will be very hard at first but then it will get easier. it may not seem like it but it really really will.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 2 months ago (4 hours, 45 minutes after post)

Im really really sorry to hear that. It is hard to loose some one you love. firsly before anything u need to be at peace with the situation and yourself. deal with this in your way, how ever u see fit. if u have a faith turn to that a little but dont lean on it….thats how people turn strange… find some freinds is a good bet. my mum fell to peices after we had a similar family tragidy but she whent out and got a new job, made new frinds and that helped her alot. and dont ever let any one tell u that u have been grieving too long, because really we never forget the ones we love and its in ur memory that ur boyfiend will live on.
As for your son the best thing to do is try and explain it to him in the best way that u can.. obviously its not some thing that is easy for a three year old to grasp, or some thing that is easy for you to do. but it is the best thing you can do for ur son. if it continues try seeking some professional help for him…nothing heavy, but there are people out there who are trained to deal with these problems and they can help
my thoughts are with you… keep going and best of luck
x-d-x

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